That's it. I give up on love

[nasty1]

Today, I got an e-mail from this girl named Erica. Now, only a few know about her, but, here's the story. She & I have been going to the movies a few times. She's a co-worker at Walmart. I wanted to go steady, she didn't. So, obviously, I respected her wishes. Anyway, today, her e-mail said, "Shane,(from the night crew,)asked for my phone number today,(so, he's obviously interested.) But, I don't know what to do. I know we aren't super dating, but, I wanted to tell you, because, I didn't want to go behind your back." Now, is it just me, or, does that last sentence sound like she's interested in a relationship, right now? Something she told me, she doesn't want.

 

[Carp]

The only one who can answer that question is her. You gotta ask her what it is she wants. If she wants to play games. RUN AWAY and find someone else.

 

[His_kitty]

Honestly hon I don't know.

But it sounds like she's just being respectful of you and letting you know that she might start going out with someone else.

You just need to talk to her again and maybe feel her out.

Best of luck sugar.

 

[peachykeen]

Well you know, sounds to me like it's time for you decide how you feel about her, and, most importantly, tell her. If you really dig her, and you don't want her to date anyone else, you have to say to her honestly, "I really like you and like being with you, and I would really hate it if you started dating someone else."

 

[RawHumor]

My guess is that she wants to know if you want to go steady, or else she might go out with this other guy, if you don't.

 

[nasty1]

RH-I already told her I wanted to go steady. She said she wasn't ready, so, I respected taht.

Peachy-I'll told her how I feel about her. I said, even before we started hanging out, "I like you. And, I want to go steady." But, like I told RH, she didn't want to. Maybe now, she does, &, she can't decide who. Why does it seem, all of a sudden, I've cralwed into a Jerry Springer show.

 

[RawHumor]

The thinking that we all seem to have is that maybe she has changed her mind since she told you that.

How long ago did she say that?

 

[Carp]

Why does it seem, all of a sudden, I've cralwed into a Jerry Springer show.

Maybe because you asked posters on a porn board for advice???

 

[nasty1]

The thinking that we all seem to have is that maybe she has changed her mind since she told you that.

How long ago did she say that?

I asked, again, only about 3 weeks ago. That is a lot of time to change your mind, I guess.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Not to sound cynical... which I am... but to me that sounds like she is going to go out with this guy whether you like it or not. She's only telling you to keep it clear. Plus, it saves her hardship down the road when you find out they've gone out on some dates and you freak out and acuse her of going behind your back. This way she gets the best of both worlds... she can still see you when it fits her mood, but mean while she's going to have fun with other guys.

Also you say this is a co-worker. Never a good thing to date co-workers... I learned the hard way.

My advice (which you didn't ask for and isn't worth much I know): Tell her to see whoever she wants and dump her. Then move on. There's nothing but hardship down this road.

PBW

 

[fingers_larue]

Going Steady????

I thought that this site was for folks over 18, I did not know anyone went steady any more. Sounds like we got a high school horn dog out there. Ask youself this...why would she want to go
"steady" with you? What have you got that would keep her interest in you? Can you really afford to go out with anyone on what wall mart pays. I think you should save your money and buy a really cool car and then all the chicks will want you and you can make the choices. You sound like a younger guy to me so here is one of lifes lessons....Chicks, girls, ladies, or whatever you call them are really interested in what you got and how much you will lavish on them..believe me they will talk a great story but when the cards are on the table the girls go for the biggest ace


Did that sound a bit bitter and harsh....get over it

 

[JerseyBoy]

sorry bout the position you're in...its never an easy call

the hardest part? being cool about it

Jealousy is the worst thing that can grab you...it brings out the worst in you and makes her see you bad. If you don't show any jealousy she'll see it as you don't care.

Being cool is good...cept if you seem too aloof. She'll see it as you don't care.

Unfortunately the right mix is anyones guess since you can never tell what she is thinking.

Take a deep breath and realize that millions of us have been in the same place

MY advice: Try and stay the same person that she likes inthe first place. If any other opportunity to go with someone else arises...take it and have fun. I believe this sort of gals intrest will grow if she thinks you might head in another direction...but dont shove it in her face...she'll see straight thru it

good luck

 

[peachykeen]

Re: Going Steady????

I thought that this site was for folks over 18, I did not know anyone went steady any more. Sounds like we got a high school horn dog out there. Ask youself this...why would she want to go
"steady" with you? What have you got that would keep her interest in you? Can you really afford to go out with anyone on what wall mart pays. I think you should save your money and buy a really cool car and then all the chicks will want you and you can make the choices. You sound like a younger guy to me so here is one of lifes lessons....Chicks, girls, ladies, or whatever you call them are really interested in what you got and how much you will lavish on them..believe me they will talk a great story but when the cards are on the table the girls go for the biggest ace


Did that sound a bit bitter and harsh....get over it

well that was pretty unneccessarily rude...