Thank-you ... I guess

[Nicole]

Just wanted to say Thank-you (I guess) to all the people that have posted nothing but shit on this BB for the last few days.

You see I haven't wanted to come here and bitch about it (and yes I agree that some of you post WAY too much drivel), so I have been writing. I have been able to sit and not worry that I'm missing something on here. I don't like to complain too much as I DO believe that we all have the right to post and say what we feel. That is why I have tried to ignore it and concentrate on something else instead.

So I wanted to say thank-you for getting me back to the story that I have been writing and making me take time (and yes I still know what's going on and I have still posted), away from here.

Thursday (my time of course), I took my son and my niece to the new Pokemon Movie, yesterday we had a gorgeous Spring day, so I finally got some fresh air, last night I sat and watched the Opening Ceremony of the Olympics. I used to sit here and talk to you guys, have a "Good Discussion" now I come here, look at a few people talking like it's a Chat Room, go away for hours and come back to the same few people still talking like it's a Chat Room, and leave again. I'm not saying that there are NO good threads because there are, I'm saying to you Thank-you.

Thank-you for getting me back to what is truly important in my life. So if you feel like me, I'm talking to most of the people that started around the time I did, get out and do something, leave this lot to chat amongst themselves. Try writing a story, or find a new Email friend and get to know them. Just lets all try to find what is truly important to us, it might bring some class back to the Board.

Please All Take Care

 

[Silverlily]

I've got to agree with you on this one. In the extra time I've had, I have managed reorganize all of the closets and write a story. (It's being proofed, I'll share as soon as I can.)

I have also made a few e-friends and I cherish the interaction we've had. So, yes, thank you dear rampant posters, for showing me how wonderful life is.

 

[Guest]

stepping forward....

 

[Alyrahh]

I know I really shouldn't be posting this.. but you know what? At this point I'm really not giving a shit. I've pretty much tried to stay away from the threads on this board that cause conflict, I'm a lover not a figher. But, I apologize if this "rubs" any of you the wrong way, I'm going to say what I feel.

I've seen SO many posts asking why the newer people are posting rampantly. Well, the answer lies in the regulars posts. Who of the newbies do you remember? Who of the newbies are you constantly referring to? None other than the ones who are doing the wild posting. There have been newbie posts that have been witty and intelligent and I see the lot of you posting around them never even acknowledging their existence. I'm thinking the majority of newly registered members have done exactly as I did, that is, they lurked around a while before registering and noticed this pattern. So, those who wanted instant acknowledgment have used this to their advantage...so to speak.

I have no idea how many of you I've irritated, I'm not exactly worried about it either...but since I've been pretty much invisible I'd say I must not have done anything too bad yet.

Again, I apologize in advance for stepping on anyones toes. I'm just stating something I feel.

 

[Savage Kitten]

YAY ALY!

At this point I'm really not giving a shit.

i agree with ya! good grief.. get over it Nikki... remember when you where the one everyone was bitchin about posting too much and taking over everyone's threads with all that flirtacious mumbo jumbo?

yes it is a good thing to go out and get a life.. you've got a point there Nicole... the BB is for entertainment purposes.

and as far as class being on the board... Sex Ed 101 starts in 15min... 3 doors down on the right (i hear the teach is extra sexy!)

 

[Alyrahh]

hehe.. maybe I'm suffering from PMS or something? Boy, wasn't that the bitchiest post I've contributed yet?

 

[Silverlily]

Re: stepping forward....

I know I'm a guilty rampant poster on occasion! Is there a group to join? I'm a recovering addict to survey tests and questionnaires too! I'm sure that both of you will understand that it is my inexperience and zest for life that drives me to getting on your nerves!

But I am stepping forward as to reach my first step of recovery....

Oh dear, not what I meant at all! Lioness, honey, you have NEVER gotten on my nerves. I actually like watching the flirtathons. I just don't like the "Some silly title" ha ha, made you look threads. Yes, I know I don't have to read them, but not every thread title is clear. Some of the ones with the most vauge titles have turned out to be my favorites.

Now come here and let me scratch behind your ears.

 

[Nicole]

Lioness until you said that I didn't in the least class you as a rampant poster. You add to a lot of threads, make us laugh and have fun along the way.

A rampant poster is someone that goes around continuously posting drivel after drivel that most of us wouldn't understand if we tried. You don't do that ... do you??? Well if you do I haven't noticed it.

Look I'm not naming names, they know who they are, and truthfully enough people are on their backs without me joining in. We are allowed to post whatever we see fit, that is why I took the time to tell them that they have made me open my eyes and get back to what is Important in MY life.

Kitten doesn't it feel good??? When you sit and write (and this is my first story), and you put your all into that story, the feeling of pride is unbelievable. Then to have someone actually like it ... WOW. I think I'm going to try writing another. Good luck to you babe. Oh and I will write back just been a little busy, thanks for the lovely letter

Alyrahh, I have noticed your posts to be intelligent and I do actually look out for them, I agree with what your saying completely. That is why I took the time to say that we "Regulars" need to walk away for a couple of hours a day and do something else. I have never written before (like I said) and to sit down in the Afternoon while my son is at Kindergarten and write, well it stimulates my brain more than some of the conversations going on here right now. As stated by me before, I have tried to start a thread but they get taken over, and it turns into a chat by two, three, four people.

I agree with ya! good grief.. get over it Nikki... remember when you where the one everyone was bitchin about posting too much and taking over everyone's threads with all that flirtatious mumbo jumbo?

Yes Savage I know that, but I didn't go through every Goddamn thread flirting. When I flirted it was because it had A. already started or B. Because the thread was made for that purpose. I also agree that these people can and will say and post what they please. READ WHAT I SAID ... I was thanking them for gods sake. Can't someone do that??? Fine, I'll shut up and not have my say then. Geesh people maybe that's the problem ... people aren't taking time to read others post's.


I just wanted to say Thanks. Thanks for making me open my eyes.

Take Care

[Edited by Nicole on 09-15-2000 at 03:28 PM]

 

[Rosebud]

Ummmm...Savage Kitten..I have been here for as long and longer than nicole...and NO ONE ever complained about her posting too much because she actually added to the intelligent threads too... and like she said, the flirting usually went on in a thread meant for it, not everywhere, or after flirting started...FYI

 

[Wizard]

Ok ............I to been keeping my mouth shut and just watching and reading this mess....For a while I too tried to post nice happy shit. I have been around for quite some time myself also and try to look in on the board at night when I can. I don't ever remember reading so many bitching threads about one or another........I too am tired of hearing it......I think the best thing for this board at this point is to remove the counters and titles and just go as we are........I don't give a shit about a number and to me it seams like thats all some folks care about........Hey post away I really don't care myself.Hell I don't read everyone of them there are some I don't even glance at.With 3000 folks here there are some I just don't like, plain and simple and don't care to read there threads.
Almost a year I been here and don't ever recall so much bitching..........Just like life deal with it I did by not coming here as often......

I say again remove the counter then we are all the same newbie's and older members...............

[Edited by Wizard on 09-15-2000 at 04:24 PM]

 

[Samuari]

Ok ............I to been keeping my mouth shut and just watching and reading this mess....For a while I too tried to post nice happy shit. I have been around for quite some time myself also and try to look in on the board at night when I can. I don't ever remember reading so many bitching threads about one or another........I too am tired of hearing it......I think the best thing for this board at this point is to remove the counters and titles and just go as we are........

I say again remove the counter then we are all the same newbie's and older members...............

[Edited by Wizard on 09-15-2000 at 04:24 PM]

Wizzard, just what was (or is) the reason for the counts? I haven't been arround here very long, but I do know that not much happens to the way the board is organized by chance. Laurl and Manu didn't just put those counters up because they could, did they? So before I can agree with taking them down, I need to know the reason that they are there in the first place. I posted somwhere else that this place is like an asylum run the Marx brothers. We're lucky inmates.

 

[Wizard]

Good question Samuari, I honestly don't know myself I thought they were just for our fun.....I know if the site needs them they could count our posts but not have them showen for us..........I agree they were fun and cute to get to a point where you are a Guru.
At this point I think alot of problems starte with the counter folks come in and just have to rack them up like miles on the road........

 

[Alyrahh]

Thank you Nicole, it's nice to know someone's paying attention to my drivel

I don't want to make it seem like I don't understand what you and the others are saying, I just think maybe it's been said too much already, ya know? And I do realize you were being honestly thankful for the time away... I know that feeling of accomplishment you're speaking of, and you're absolutely right, it's very fulfilling. I'm happy for you, really I am, and I can't wait to see the results.

 

[Bushido71XS]

It's OK Nicole, now for the Spanking!


Hey somebody's gotta play the smartass around here once in a while?!

 

[Cheyenne]

There have been newbie posts that have been witty and intelligent and I see the lot of you posting around them never even acknowledging their existence.

Example, please? I'm not saying it hasn't happened, just that I don't remember it. Can you point me to an example or two? I'd like to figure out why it happened.

 

[Samuari]

There have been newbie posts that have been witty and intelligent and I see the lot of you posting around them never even acknowledging their existence.

Example, please? I'm not saying it hasn't happened, just that I don't remember it. Can you point me to an example or two? I'd like to figure out why it happened.

My 13th post was in responce to someone who wanted to know how to get laid, I told him to stand on a street corner, licking his eye brows. Several favorable coments from folks of a thosand posts.

 

[Alyrahh]

I didn't say it happened to everyone, just that it has happened. I'd rather not point fingers if it's all the same... like I said earlier I try to stay away from conflict. Looks like I didn't do so well this time. Besides, that part of my post wasn't the main point... the main point was; attention is attention, even if it's negative. I just think the best thing for everyone would be to skip over the threads started by someone who aggrivates you, and avoid starting threads that call attention to their behavior.

I would very much like to disappear back into the woodwork now. I'm sorry I've caused a stir.

 

[Samuari]

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I would very much like to disappear back into the woodwork now. I'm sorry I've caused a stir.

Don't you dare! This place needs fresh blood and view points. Some of the oldies get ticked when they get their toes stepped on. And maybe some of us do post "Every time a neuron fires". Its not their site, and so far as I know Laruel and Manu have not posted any rules of any kind (except to keep leagle children out, and to keep role playcharacters above minority) and they are the ONLY ones with the right to do so!
Your posts are well thought out, and contribute to my experance here. Please, don't disapear back into the woodwork.

 

[Nicole]

QUOTE]Originally posted by Alyrahh
I didn't say it happened to everyone, just that it has happened. I'd rather not point fingers if it's all the same... like I said earlier I try to stay away from conflict. Looks like I didn't do so well this time. Besides, that part of my post wasn't the main point... the main point was; attention is attention, even if it's negative. I just think the best thing for everyone would be to skip over the threads started by someone who aggravates you, and avoid starting threads that call attention to their behavior.

I would very much like to disappear back into the woodwork now. I'm sorry I've caused a stir. [/QUOTE]

Okay let me try this again. I was actually glad of the time away, I've wanted time away for awhile now, this gave me the opportunity. I don't care how often people post, I say go for it. What I was trying to do was say Thank-you. Thank-you for the time away, for the time to work on something that really truly meant something to me and the person I was writing it for.

I used to get bothered by all the shit, then someone took the time to point something out to me (Thanks DCL) , I took that advice and went with it. I'm not intentionally having a go at people, that's just not me. I'm trying to say Thank-you, it's just that you lot don't like the way I went about it, the fact that I said something that you don't like.

Take your own advice ... Ignore me.

As for you Alyrahh, if more of the newer members were like you, these threads wouldn't be started would they??? Please stay and have fun, discuss and try to get your point across. I think we need more people like you actually.

As for me starting a thread to "call someone's attention" I wasn't doing that, I was trying to simply say Thank-you.

By the way ... Rosebud, Thank-you I appreciate that, and I know that I myself have annoyed some people along the way, but as you said I have joined in on some of the more "interesting" (for lack of a better word) Thread's. Hug to you.

Take Care I'm off to write again.

 

[Weird Harold]

[BWizzard, just what was (or is) the reason for the counts? ... Laurl and Manu didn't just put those counters up because they could, did they? [/B]

The post counter is built into the BB software, I don't know that they can be removed.

The titles associated with the number of posts are a board management tool. I think that they are associated with different acces levels to BB functions. (Which Laurel and Manu have chosen to keep equal for all user levels except "Moderator")

I don't know know this for fact, but am postualating from what I know of BB software in general. In theory, the different levels allow increasing access for registered users who have demonstrated some degree of familiarity with the rules and conventions of the BB. Since the only rule here, is to have fun, the levels are set and named for the amusement of the posters. There is no material advantage to having any particular title, other than providing other posters with some information on who generated any particular post.

I personally use the information only for those still in the virgin category, to tell me if they need more lurker time to get the feel of the board.

I've run a BB in the past, and hung around several others. This one is not much different. I would be a bit harsher with some of the posters than Laurel is, but then I'm not Laurel and won't tell her how to run her BB.

I have posted several other times, that I don't post whenever a neuron fires, and I try to post something that contributes to the discussion. I've learned to curb sracasm and irony (most of the time, and I'm not very good at flirting -- so I don't do very much of that.

Others are good at surrealism and being constructively meaningless -- I enjoy reading their posts.

Shila, for one, feels that she's not wanted here because of all the bickering about too many posts. I regret that she feels that way. I'd very much like to see more meaningful posts from her because when she gets serious, she's posted some interesting things.

However, If Shila, or anyone else, gets enjoyment from posting I won't tell them to stop. I'll just ignore their posts (as much as possible), and continue to post as I see fit.

I've noticed one that it's not the number of posts, or even the content of the posts that cause people to get upset. It's the relevance of the posts that makes a difference.

Never and Naked Hunny are two that come to mind who seldom post anything serious yet are often cited as "favorite posters." That's because they tend to stay away from serious topics except to lighten the tone of those turning hostile.

To those who feel unwanted, think about what you've posted that people objected to. In most cases, it's going to be something that didn't communicate what you intended. All you need to do, is work on your (written) communication skills so that others understand what you're trying to say.

More posting won't improve those skills, but more reading will.

 

[Nicole]

Harold Thank-you for pointing that out. I agree with you that it isn't the number of posts but the relevancy, if I go into a thread that is going really well for the first, lets say 5 or 6 posts, then I tend to stay with it. However if that thread goes off track by the 6th post then I close it, this saddens me because if someone has actually answered that question or statement after that point then I'm probably missing out.

I don't want anyone to feel saddened or feel that they can't stay. I try to be fair and nice to everyone that comes here. But fairness and niceness only goes so far, and to see post after post of people talking about others in an offensive way was what led me to find other things to do, but without fully leaving the site. I love everyone here and the fun that we all have, why would I want to leave that???

Harold you have once again opened my eyes, so to you a big thank-you. Now if you would like to take the time to tell me some tips on writing I would love that (cheeky aren't I?).

Take Care and thanks for making me smile once more

 

[sallygirl]

In response to Nicole's original post, you should all check out the Last Page of the Internet, if you haven't yet seen it.

http://www.wackycreations.com/lastpage.html

 

[Nicole]

SallyGirl ... Well done.

That was my exact point, thanks for that

Really that was brilliant and says it all doesn't it??

 

[*Eve*]

Just wanted to say Thank-you (I guess) to all the people that have posted nothing but shit on this BB for the last few days.

LOL, I think we are of the same mind on this one doll.

 

[Alyrahh]

Samuri- You're very sweet, thank you, but I didn't mean I was leaving the board. Just that I would go back to trying very hard to avoid posts that could lead to conflict. I'm here to relax, have some fun, and maybe make a few friends.

Nicole- I fear we've totally misunderstood one another. I honestly didn't mean for my post to sound as if it were a personal attack. I do understand your point, and in all honesty share it to a certain extent. I think perhaps my original post would have been better suited on another thread, one that was started in a more hostile manner. Those posts were the ones I was referring to,not yours. I very much enjoy your posts, you were one of the first people I developed an admiration for when I was but a wee lurker

There are so many intelligent, well-rounded individuals who post here, I think some of the newer posters have a hard time figuring out where they fit, in the scheme of things. As a result they end up trying too hard, for lack of a better phrase. Personally, I feel a little pity for them, because they are probably just looking for acceptance.