Tell What You Look For

[SexSweetheart]

As an author I'm need input on what turns you on sexual, such as what you look for in the Opposite Sex? What makes you melt when you are with that other person? Describe that person

SexySweetheart

 

[Cameo_Fleur]

I get turned on by a man who has a smooth, hairless chest. I simply can't stand a hairy chest! Well developed, but not overdone, arms....yah hah! Soft hair, brown eyes, and I've never been turned on by a guy over 5 feet 9. (I'm a woman who is 5 feet 7)

Look at photos of Robert Downey Jr. Now that guy turns me on!! Whoo hoo!

 

[avrgblkgrl]

Well since we are fantasizing...

As far as the essence of the man is concerned (which is more important than anything), I have a definite thing for the intelligent Alpha male that is both absolutely male and yet has a reasonable sensitive side that makes him an excellent leader. I've always liked the phrase "Poise Without Pose". It is indefinable but palpable at the same time. It starts on the inside of a man. It is what makes him look strong, self-assured, powerful and masculine. He can have on a pair of jeans or a custom tailored designer suit and still exude the same sensual sturdiness. Of course he is the type of man that other men respect deeply. He is confident with no need to be cocky. He doesn't have to try he simply is. Of course I think that these are things that a man is somewhat born with and not necessarily all learned behaviors.

Physically, my ideal man is not overdone but well muscled and defined. Definitely athletic. I don't prefer a lot of hair either (like the previous poster). A light spray of hair across the chest, maybe a slight trail leading to his pubic area is perfect. Nice eyes and lips are always a plus. I am very attracted to white men but can't take a man with "chicken lips" (smile). Strong hands are nice. I want to feel like I'm being touched by a man. I love tall men. Just a man telling me he is tall gets my attention. I need to know that if I get pissed off I can't kick your ass. And if I need protection, I can feel confident in you. I'm 5'4 125-301b. I'm not a small girl, but fit and curvy. I have to be able to physically see that you can handle that before I actually let you.

He doesn't have to be 8-10 inches long, but definitely there.

 

[SexSweetheart]

As far as the essence of the man is concerned (which is more important than anything), I have a definite thing for the intelligent Alpha male that is both absolutely male and yet has a reasonable sensitive side that makes him an excellent leader. I've always liked the phrase "Poise Without Pose". It is indefinable but palpable at the same time. It starts on the inside of a man. It is what makes him look strong, self-assured, powerful and masculine. He can have on a pair of jeans or a custom tailored designer suit and still exude the same sensual sturdiness. Of course he is the type of man that other men respect deeply. He is confident with no need to be cocky. He doesn't have to try he simply is. Of course I think that these are things that a man is somewhat born with and not necessarily all learned behaviors.

Physically, my ideal man is not overdone but well muscled and defined. Definitely athletic. I don't prefer a lot of hair either (like the previous poster). A light spray of hair across the chest, maybe a slight trail leading to his pubic area is perfect. Nice eyes and lips are always a plus. I am very attracted to white men but can't take a man with "chicken lips" (smile). Strong hands are nice. I want to feel like I'm being touched by a man. I love tall men. Just a man telling me he is tall gets my attention. I need to know that if I get pissed off I can't kick your ass. And if I need protection, I can feel confident in you. I'm 5'4 125-301b. I'm not a small girl, but fit and curvy. I have to be able to physically see that you can handle that before I actually let you.

He doesn't have to be 8-10 inches long, but definitely there.

Very nicely said avrgblkgrl. This is nicely put and helpful setting a mood for writing.

 

[PennLady]

So are you looking for physical attributes? Or more intangibles? Or both, I guess.

I've never had an "ideal image" of a guy. I mean, sure, there's a ton of men I think are handsome, but it spans a good range. My husband may not be pin-up material, but the fact that he seems to think I am (what a poor, wonderful, deluded soul he is on that count ) goes a long way.

I've generally figured this is because I never thought of myself as terribly pretty or attractive. I mean, I don't think I'm ugly, just I don't think I turn heads. Which is fine. Imagine all the tripping.

I suppose I'm a bit of an idealist -- if the intangibles are in place, then the physical stuff follows.

So, I have found that I like --

back/shoulder rubs
having my hair brushed
a little teasing during the day
some talking during sex (how he feels, what he feels, what he wants to do to me, or me to do to him, etc.)

Not sure if that helps you or not.

 

[CWatson]

Providing some perspective from the other side of the Y-chromosome...

When sizing up a woman, the first place I really tend to look is her face. There's a lot that can be discerned about a woman from her face--not just its shape and the expression it spends the most time in, but how many piercings she's got, how much makeup she's wearing, things like that. These all say something about her personality, and since that's important to me, that's one of the things I check first.

And now, having differentiated myself from almost every man on earth, here are some other things that add turn-on points:

• Long hair
• Moderate and non-augmented breasts
• Slimness (I'm made out of fenceposts, so there's a certain weight limit beyond which things become impractical)
• A nice rear end (major pear-shaped-body fan here)
• Pale skin. (As a result, I tend to go for blondes, because that's so co-morbid with pale skin. Two of the girls I've dated have been Asian like me, but the other three have all been blonde.)

Again, this is personal preference; and, quite obviously, my preference is different than most. But you ask, and I answered.

 

[PennLady]

So, to make this all about me (hahaha), I wonder why it is that I've never had a "physical ideal" like so many people have. I also never had a crush on anyone (seriously).

I must just be weird.

 

[avrgblkgrl]

So, to make this all about me (hahaha), I wonder why it is that I've never had a "physical ideal" like so many people have. I also never had a crush on anyone (seriously).

I must just be weird.

Never even a little crush?

 

[PennLady]

Never even a little crush?

No.

This is not to say that when it came to movie stars or bands that there weren't ones I thought were good looking. But I never did the whole "mooning" thing over anyone famous, or any of my classmates or anything like that. Really. Never.

Come on, there must be more non-crushers out there.

 

[evanslily]

No.

This is not to say that when it came to movie stars or bands that there weren't ones I thought were good looking. But I never did the whole "mooning" thing over anyone famous, or any of my classmates or anything like that. Really. Never.

Come on, there must be more non-crushers out there.

There are.

Maybe I was too busy dreaming up ideal men to need to bother idolising famous ones...

 

[chaz57]

I go for big breasts, high heels, and redheads

 

[PennLady]

There are.

Maybe I was too busy dreaming up ideal men to need to bother idolising famous ones...

But, see, I never dreamed up the ideal guy, either...

 

[SydneyBlake]

"Ideal man" doesn't mean a lot to me. What was described above, to me, is ideal, but also somewhat generic. Biologically, we women are mostly programmed to find that attractive. It's in our genes.

Maybe it's my age, but I'm more inclined to find things to appreciate in the men that I know. My DH has nice legs. He's physically strong. I like that. One coworker is overweight, but he has the most beautiful blue eyes. Another is quiet and shy, but drop-dead Robert Redford handsome. Another isn't particularly good-looking, but has a great sense of humor. My Mack character has thinning hair.

I guess my fantasy man does fit within a certain mold -- reasonably fit and attractive -- but without some imperfections, he's not human.

 

[avrgblkgrl]

I guess my fantasy man does fit within a certain mold -- reasonably fit and attractive -- but without some imperfections, he's not human.

You know I hadn't thought of that, but you are so right. The imperfections, those quirks that are specific to that guy, make all the difference. I've had the ideal and still search him out relentlessly. And even though the vision of what he is to me is ever shifting based on what I've had and want I newly want, its the quirks that you remember and believe it or not they are what makes you stay.

Everyone has a preference and you do tend to gravitate toward that preference. However, it's what you did not expect that keeps your attention. Preferences are so easy to find.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I respond first to what I see. The physical traits that get me going are a pretty face, a big butt and big breasts. Women who carry a few extra pounds and carry it well. Bosomy dark-haired women of any race with big tits, a fat ass, ample thighs and a soft belly.

That's what I respond to visually. More important than her physical attributes is her mental attitude. Women who are confident in their sexuality and are not afraid to express themselves are a tremendous turn-on for me. I don't know if I have ever turned down a sexually aggressive woman. If I did, it was a long time ago. A woman who knows what she wants and goes out and gets it will always get me excited.

Strangely, I am also drawn to damaged women. Women with something missing in their lives get to me. Their need is a flame that will almost always draw me in. Sometimes tragically.

 

[avrgblkgrl]

Strangely, I am also drawn to damaged women. Women with something missing in their lives get to me. Their need is a flame that will almost always draw me in. Sometimes tragically.

You are very unique...in a good way =)

 

[estragon]

As I saw once on a t-shirt: "Breasts--It's What Men Look At First--Since 90,000 B.C." I'm easy.

 

[SexSweetheart]

Thanks gang, keep it coming

 

[Hannah90]

I like a man whose slim, with muscles but not body builder muscles, I like a hairy chest but not too hairy, especially the thin bit of hair running down their belly to their pubes, although I do not like pubes on a man, too 70s porn. xx