Tech help/info on BJ and anal

[LitEroCat]

Hi - I hope to get varied feedback on certain elements in my next story and this seems like the best place. If not, plz direct me...

The two areas I need details on are 1-blow jobs and 2-anal sensations. I'm looking for T or F answers and comments. [I'm adding a letter ID before each group to make responding esier.] Here are the relevant parts of my story:
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A- "It takes some practice, timing and a relaxed jaw."
"Bob your head to slip it in deeper and decide how far you want it to slip out. Use your tongue around it as you like. It will hit the back of your throat and, if you're not prepared, will trigger a gag. .....
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B- Time your breathing so you can pause with the cock head against your throat. The high heat drives them mad.
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C- "Before trying deep throat, tilt your head up to lessen your jaw to throat angle. That will help both of you. If you can keep going, relax your throat and push gently against willy. It will just slide down with very little discomfort, like you're swallowing a big pill. ....
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D- When willy is as deep as it can go, you can pause with it there and gulp to squeeze it with your throat.
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E- If he cums while buried in your throat, most of the first spurt goes straight in and you won't even taste it. But the next spurts will be in your mouth. Gulp what you can, or catch it
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F- fresh semen is very nearly germ free and it's nearly all protein. So swallowing it may actually be healthy.
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G- Don’t forget to relax your jaw or your back teeth can cut me and quickly deflate poor willy
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and for #2 (OK, pun intended):

H- Notice how the washcloth rubs across your sphincter. If you can relax it and feel the nerves react, you’ll see it has the same pleasant feel as rubbing an itch, and then some.
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I- Less tension, don’t squeeze your cheeks. If you don’t have to relieve your bowels, relax the ring muscle as if you were voiding. That’s much better. Here’s the cloth snaking just inside that muscle. How does that feel?”

“I don’t like it so far, but I do have a sense of the itching.”
I feel the itch relief and ...
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J- When I pump it, it drags your muscle in and out of your anus a little bit, goosing those nerves, and that should feel very good. Like the itch relief from before, intensified...
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K- pull the cloth into my crack and forward. Reverse when you reach bottom, adding a little more pressure. Repeat until you feel the drag make you start/stop. Then drop the cloth and take a close look at my asshole. Check for redness, friction burns, bleeding and distended sphincter. Lube a finger in your mouth, leave lots of spit on it and push it against the hole muscle to gently spread the spit over all of it, especially if you saw a problem.”
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L- can start the ‘shoeshine’ strokes. Get the cloth deep into my crack and pull it snugly against my hole. Carefully pull it up an inch and quickly reverse
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M- push the first joint against the bottom of my hole, slowly rotate the finger and apply as little pressure as it takes to breech the fortress. Don’t force it too hard or fight a clenched muscle. If the asshole won’t relax and open a little, let it go for another time.
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N- There isn’t much feeling inside, so the bulk of the pleasure comes from the muscle rolling over itself. Slight friction rubs many nerves and that’s your goal.
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And finally - hygiene - I've heard that the first few inches of the rectum are nearly germ free and I find that hard to believe. Does anyone for sure??

Thanks...

 

[LitEroCat]

Any comments?? anyone???

It's getting close to sen in the relevant chapter.... any feedback.... plzzzzz ?

 

[snooper]

F- is either T or F depending on what diseases your partner has for the first part and T for the second.

 

[fieryjen]

A lot of these depend on the person doing the activity. What works for one may not necessarily work for someone else. I don't have the whole "itching relief" feeling during anal sex. Others might. While most people truly do not get much stimulation from anal sex, I do. I just happen to be built that way. The only thing I'd advise to do is add a lot of lube from the start.

I can't really tell you as much about the BJ technique, because my gag reflex is so sensitive that I usually can't do very much deepthroating. There are a few other tricks I use, but I don't know if those would be of any use to you since this isn't what you're focussing on.

I'm not sure about the hygiene question. I looked but I can't really find any information on this anywhere. I would imagine this depends very much on your personal hygiene habits as well as the amount of time since your last bathroom visit.

I don't know if this is the sort of feedback you were looking for, but I hope it's useful.

 

[LitEroCat]

Thanks...

Thanks SNOOPER - I didn't comment on disease here since I already cleared that these folk didn't have any, so Lois's only concern was germs...bacteria. I'll revist and see if I need to expand the details.

and thanks to u 2 FIERYJEN. I'll add some sort of YMMV for the 'itching' and the BJ unless I get further BJ comments.

 

[SweetErika]

Are you actually using "willy" in the story? If so, I'd find another word or words because that one sounds juvenile, which is a turn-off for me. Also, the way you use it is odd; it's almost as if you're calling the cock a proper name, like Willy, Big Johnson or Mr. Happy. If that's what you're trying to do, you need to capitalize it, IMO.

E- If he cums while buried in your throat, most of the first spurt goes straight in and you won't even taste it. But the next spurts will be in your mouth. Gulp what you can, or catch it

I don't get why, if it's buried in a throat, she would taste subsequent spurts.

F- fresh semen is very nearly germ free and it's nearly all protein. So swallowing it may actually be healthy.

Sounds like what mostly young guys tell girls to get them to do oral. Semen's basically a free food, with about 20 calories (which is about 5 grams of protein if it's entirely protein). IOW, I don't think you need that last sentence.

I- Less tension, don’t squeeze your cheeks. If you don’t have to relieve your bowels, relax the ring muscle as if you were voiding. That’s much better. Here’s the cloth snaking just inside that muscle. How does that feel?”

Unless she has an immediate need to defecate, she shouldn't have a problem relaxing those muscles/pushing out. Hopefully, he would have told her or ask if she'd used the bathroom that day before they started.

K- pull the cloth into my crack and forward. Reverse when you reach bottom, adding a little more pressure. Repeat until you feel the drag make you start/stop. Then drop the cloth and take a close look at my asshole. Check for redness, friction burns, bleeding and distended sphincter. Lube a finger in your mouth, leave lots of spit on it and push it against the hole muscle to gently spread the spit over all of it, especially if you saw a problem.”

Uh, wouldn't he tell her if it was hurting enough to cause an injury? Or hurting at all, for that matter?

Also, why wouldn't he use some kind of lube like silicone or oil-based? Spit isn't lubricative, especially when combined with water. If he's educating her (and the readers), it'd be wise to give her good info, including, "use lots of good lube."

L- can start the ‘shoeshine’ strokes. Get the cloth deep into my crack and pull it snugly against my hole. Carefully pull it up an inch and quickly reverse

Is this out of order, because how could she do this with her finger in his ass?

If the asshole won’t relax and open a little, let it go for another time.

It's the receiver's job to relax as well. When someone's tight, I ask them to clench and hold, then relax several times. We communicate and work together, trying different things, until we get there (in the case of fingers or small toys - once in awhile we'll give up on toys/sex for the night).

And finally - hygiene - I've heard that the first few inches of the rectum are nearly germ free and I find that hard to believe. Does anyone for sure??

False. Fecal matter has a lot of bacteria, which gets on the rectum when it exits. People have gotten sick from analingus/rimming. However, if one washes well, especially with antibacterial soap and inside the rectum, it's relatively safe bacteria/germ-wise with a healthy partner.

 

[LitEroCat]

Are you actually using "willy" in the story? If so, I'd find
another word or words because that one sounds juvenile, which is a turn-off for me. Also, the way you use it is odd; it's almost as if you're calling the cock a proper name, like Willy, Big Johnson or Mr. Happy. If that's what you're trying to do, you need to capitalize it, IMO.

Gotit. The juvenile names are deliberate since I felt the lessons had too much gravitas and interfered with the free sense of play. I'll review it. But how many times can you keep calling it a cock or dick? ;-)

I don't get why, if it's buried in a throat, she would taste subsequent spurts.

This is why I asked for help. I only have some questionable 2nd hand descriptions about this. I'm told that the dick usually doesn't stay buried after the 1st spurt. My own experience is that it may or may not stay buried, so I wanted to prepare Lois for 'worst case'.

Sounds like what mostly young guys tell girls to get them to do oral. Semen's basically a free food, with about 20 calories (which is about 5 grams of protein if it's entirely protein). IOW, I don't think you need that last sentence.

You're right, if it were a kid trying to get blown. In this case, it was meant to be humor and shock to make a point- PUNCHing up a lesson and assuaging an anticipated objection. She'd never tasted any, so she had extra fears about taste and germs. I'll reread and see if it adds anything.

Unless she has an immediate need to defecate, she shouldn't have a problem relaxing those muscles/pushing out. Hopefully, he would have told her or ask if she'd used the bathroom that day before they started.

One of the goals of the lessons is to help Lois make inroads against her germ phobia. In an earlier chapter, I had her insist she'd never touch an anus and wasn't ready to let her ass be invaded. Can you suggest a ritual that might acceptable to her or in general?

Uh, wouldn't he tell her if it was hurting enough to cause an injury? Or hurting at all, for that matter?

Also, why wouldn't he use some kind of lube like silicone or oil-based? Spit isn't lubricative, especially when combined with water. If he's educating her (and the readers), it'd be wise to give her good info, including, "use lots of good lube."

I do say that in the full story, and that spit is very temporary.

As for the pain.... Not necessarily. I found that insect bites stop itching when rubbed, then feel sooo much better when you continue and rub harder. YET, the wound then bleeds. A short time later, it itches again.... until you rub again - now smearing your blood around too. I had a cat that loved to lick one spot on my arm more than others. I could ignore her a long while, but then I noticed it started to feel feel good. She kept licking, it kept feeling good. When I stopped her, I had a wide red-irritated area and a centered cat tongue size ulceration that was bleeding from many tiny holes. I would have let her keep licking deeper if I didn't need to move... it felt soothing. A wide scab formed and took days to heal. So I, or Lois, might not have stopped at the first tiny tingle. I mentioned both examples to show it wasn't cat spit that caused the soothing effect. I understand those kinds of wounds are flooded with histamines which the rubbing release and cause the injury to feel comfortable.

Is this out of order, because how could she do this with her finger in his ass?

Her finger is removed in the gap I didn't include here.

It's the receiver's job to relax as well. When someone's tight, I ask them to clench and hold, then relax several times. We communicate and work together, trying different things, until we get there (in the case of fingers or small toys - once in awhile we'll give up on toys/sex for the night).

Good point - I'll work that in.

False. Fecal matter has a lot of bacteria, which gets on the rectum when it exits. People have gotten sick from analingus/rimming. However, if one washes well, especially with antibacterial soap and inside the rectum, it's relatively safe bacteria/germ-wise with a healthy partner.

That was my thought, but it was contradicted by two doctors - one in San Fran. How do you get a germ phobic prude to wash INSIDE her rectum? Soap is a bad idea in the rectum, unless you WANT a purging. She's not open to using fingers, and I doubt she'd use an enema. Sooo ????

Thank for your great notes.

Is there a trick I missed about using QUOTE fragments easier? I had to manually add start & end QUOTE to make this work..