Teach Me Master

[EroticKitty43]

I'm new to the whole BDSM scene and I think that starting this discussion is a great way to learn about the lingo and discover new ways for me and my partner to enjoy the lifestyle together.
This is also a way for Everyone to learn a little more. So join the convo and let the sexual exploration begin!

I know I am submissive and like my partner to assert his power in any way he sees fit. I also like to be choked and smacked. Other than that, I don't really know what kind of, for lack of a better word, "kinky", I am.

What is your favorite night time activity? Any suggestions on what to explore next?

 

[seela]

Are there any categories that I can place myself in? And what do each of them entail in terms of likes and dislikes?

Knowing who you are doesn't mean you have to label yourself. Concentrate on getting to know yourself, your own likes and dislikes and forget about the labels. Labels can be handy, but there's hardly a single one that encompasses anyone's all facets. That's why I think it's always just easier and more accurate to say I'm into a, b and c and not into x, y and z. People always define labels differently.

Also, there's nothing wrong with labeling yourself simply kinky, if you so wish.

And welcome!

 

[JMohegan]

Are there any categories that I can place myself in?

Yes. Females Who Turn Off Men Who Hate Cats.

Now that we have that out of the way, my advice is to focus on yourself and others as whole people, rather than as sexual IDs.

 

[EroticKitty43]

Knowing who you are doesn't mean you have to label yourself. Concentrate on getting to know yourself, your own likes and dislikes and forget about the labels. Labels can be handy, but there's hardly a single one that encompasses anyone's all facets. That's why I think it's always just easier and more accurate to say I'm into a, b and c and not into x, y and z. People always define labels differently.

Also, there's nothing wrong with labeling yourself simply kinky, if you so wish.

And welcome!

You are 100% right. I didn't mean to come off as if I'm trying to label myself, or anyone for that matter, so maybe I should rephrase this thread into a more of a "I like this, what do you like?" kind of question.

Thanks for having a positive response

 

[midwestyankee]

I don't mean to do a rain dance just as your parade is getting under way, but there are about 17,200 discussion threads in the BDSM Talk and BDSM Cafe fora (that's one forum plus one forum = two fora) and I'm willing to bet that in 95% of those discussions you'll find some mentions of what people around here enjoy.

It's a great neighborhood with terrific and helpful folk. But do wander around and read as much as you like. As the saying goes, "Gather ye pixels as ye may."

 

[Latina49]

Knowing who you are doesn't mean you have to label yourself. Concentrate on getting to know yourself, your own likes and dislikes and forget about the labels. Labels can be handy, but there's hardly a single one that encompasses anyone's all facets. That's why I think it's always just easier and more accurate to say I'm into a, b and c and not into x, y and z. People always define labels differently.

Also, there's nothing wrong with labeling yourself simply kinky, if you so wish.

And welcome!

This is some very good advice...I agree 100%!

 

[EroticKitty43]

I don't mean to do a rain dance just as your parade is getting under way, but there are about 17,200 discussion threads in the BDSM Talk and BDSM Cafe fora (that's one forum plus one forum = two fora) and I'm willing to bet that in 95% of those discussions you'll find some mentions of what people around here enjoy.

It's a great neighborhood with terrific and helpful folk. But do wander around and read as much as you like. As the saying goes, "Gather ye pixels as ye may."

Well I did do some searching and I found myself a bit overwhelmed. Maybe I should look a little deeper. I think this was just my way of getting quick answers =P

And you're so right! Everyone so far has been very helpful and friendly.

"Gather ye pixels as ye may." < this made me chuckle. Thanks for your input

 

[Edith_UK]

I'm new too hun, and I know it's confusing with all the slang and all these people who've obviously known each other for years

Unfortunately that also means I have fuck all USEFUL to add

 

[midwestyankee]

I'm new too hun, and I know it's confusing with all the slang and all these people who've obviously known each other for years

Unfortunately that also means I have fuck all USEFUL to add

Actually, Edith, you have far more than "fuck all" to offer, as you've already proven. You have two strengths that I think can add to any discussion here: 1) curiosity, and 2) willingness to speak your own mind clearly. That you haven't experienced some of the same things in some of the same ways as some of the rest of us have does not mean that you don't have valuable and useful experiences to offer.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I'm new too hun, and I know it's confusing with all the slang and all these people who've obviously known each other for years

Unfortunately that also means I have fuck all USEFUL to add

Actually, Edith, you have far more than "fuck all" to offer, as you've already proven. You have two strengths that I think can add to any discussion here: 1) curiosity, and 2) willingness to speak your own mind clearly. That you haven't experienced some of the same things in some of the same ways as some of the rest of us have does not mean that you don't have valuable and useful experiences to offer.

What Yank said to you, Edie, I have to agree for both you and Kitty. If those of us who have been here for years were the only ones to put anything in these threads, we'd have stagnated and wandered off into the lands of lost pixels long ago. It's the "fresh blood" who keep our minds thinking and looking at things perhaps from a slightly different angle than we have before, and thus learning and staying "young," so to speak. We *need* you new folks in here - thanks for coming in and adding your tuppence worth!

 

[EroticKitty43]

What Yank said to you, Edie, I have to agree for both you and Kitty. If those of us who have been here for years were the only ones to put anything in these threads, we'd have stagnated and wandered off into the lands of lost pixels long ago. It's the "fresh blood" who keep our minds thinking and looking at things perhaps from a slightly different angle than we have before, and thus learning and staying "young," so to speak. We *need* you new folks in here - thanks for coming in and adding your tuppence worth!

Thanks to you too! It really does feel great to be part of such an understanding and welcoming community.

 

[Azalea]

What Yank said to you, Edie, I have to agree for both you and Kitty. If those of us who have been here for years were the only ones to put anything in these threads, we'd have stagnated and wandered off into the lands of lost pixels long ago. It's the "fresh blood" who keep our minds thinking and looking at things perhaps from a slightly different angle than we have before, and thus learning and staying "young," so to speak. We *need* you new folks in here - thanks for coming in and adding your tuppence worth!

I appreciate that as well. I am in the exploration stage.....just curious about urges I know are in me and how and what to do with them while still remaining happily married to my vanilla guy. I find much of what I see and read here purely fascinating. I appreciate that experienced folks are so patient and accepting.

 

[mynameisben]

I'm new to the whole BDSM scene and I think that starting this discussion is a great way to learn about the lingo and discover new ways for me and my partner to enjoy the lifestyle together.
This is also a way for Everyone to learn a little more. So join the convo and let the sexual exploration begin!

I know I am submissive and like my partner to assert his power in any way he sees fit. I also like to be choked and smacked. Other than that, I don't really know what kind of, for lack of a better word, "kinky", I am.

What is your favorite night time activity? Any suggestions on what to explore next?

Hey, don't feel intimidated about being new to BDSM and all. Trust me, you're not alone. Last week I was invited to a bukake party and I had no idea what that even meant. But I went anyway. And to my surprise I was the only one who showed up with a baked cake.

And whaddaya know. I totally lost track of how many gentlemen volunteers rushed to the fore, eager to add to the icing!

 

[EroticKitty43]

Hey, don't feel intimidated about being new to BDSM and all. Trust me, you're not alone. Last week I was invited to a bukake party and I had no idea what that even meant. But I went anyway. And to my surprise I was the only one who showed up with a baked cake.

And whaddaya know. I totally lost track of how many gentlemen volunteers rushed to the fore, eager to add to the icing!

Oooo sounds Tasty =P
How did you feel about it once you discovered what it was?

 

[mynameisben]

Oooo sounds Tasty =P
How did you feel about it once you discovered what it was?

Extremely excited.

And then later, drained.

 

[EroticKitty43]

Extremely excited.

And then later, drained.

Excellent. I think I would enjoy a party like that. The release of one’s “pleasure” gives me a sense of fulfillment and I can’t help but want to rub it all over me

 

[Edith_UK]

Actually, Edith, you have far more than "fuck all" to offer, as you've already proven. You have two strengths that I think can add to any discussion here: 1) curiosity, and 2) willingness to speak your own mind clearly. That you haven't experienced some of the same things in some of the same ways as some of the rest of us have does not mean that you don't have valuable and useful experiences to offer.

Cheers.