Teach me how to be...

[curvysexpot]

As this being an erotic website, there are so many people here who seem to exude sexiness. I seem to be one who sits in the shadows waiting for my big break at giving sexy a try. I'm sexually shy, and not overly experienced, but even with a f buddy I've had for about two years, I ball up and get shy and nervous. I'd love to hear sexy tips or ways to let my sexiness through. Anything you all have to offer would be greatly appreciated

 

[sirloy]

Do what makes YOU feel sexy and the sexy usually comes though to others.
To miss quote Forest Gump "sexy is as sexy does"
For example if running naked in the rain makes you feel sexy say so to your F buddy then DO it.

S

 

[lushouslips]

what makes you sexy

first thing you have to think about the sexual things you enjoy doing and having done. what do you like wearing. do you like lingerie or do you like your body naked. does he like your body naked. think about what pleases you and it will exude into the bedroom and into your sexiness.if you are enjoying yourself and you are feeling sexy and setting the mood how you like. then it will all fall into place. a simple bj can become very sexy if you have the right setting. the dress or lack of ,your attitude, agressive or passive depaending on your playground for the night. it all makes a difference. you can easily be sexy with just attitude.
just think about what you want to do.

 

[littlebitshe]

Confidence is the key

You have to be confident in yourself and feel sexy to BE Sexy and exude Sexiness.... IMO.

Something to get started....
Do little things that make you feel sexy... such as wearing something sexy (even if only you know about it) like a thong, stockings, or a Sexy bra.

I think confidence is the key!

 

[NippleMuncher]

Good tips so far.

It's definitely all a state of mind. If you feel it and embrace it, you ARE it. I've come across "identical" people, same physical characteristics, similar personalities though one will be sexy and one isn't. Part of this perception, of course, is my own preferences and perceptual filters, but a great deal of it is the individual themselves, their confidence, their attire and whether they wear the clothes or the clothes wear them, and their demeanor.

I really like the recommendation to wear something sexy or NOT to wear something. Freedom comes in knowing things that others don't - sexy undies - or lack there of. The key here is to behave as normal, all the while knowing that YOU are different today because of what you're doing. It's titillating, sensual, sexual, and sexy. This little deed will be expressed in your demeanor, even if outwardly there is no change.

Good luck and report back on what you try and how it goes.

 

[erodream351]

xxxxx

 

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[brigid_fitch]

littlebitshe hit it on the head--confidence. If it's forced, guys can tell. You have to ask yourself why are you shy--what exactly is it about yourself that's making you shy & nervous?

Here's something that helped me out a long time ago and has become my personal mantra. "With any amount of luck, you'll never see any of these bozos again." Go someplace where no one knows you & just let loose. Who cares if they judge you--you don't know them, they don't know you and never will. If it helps to role-play, like use a fake name & occupation and just run with it, then do it. You'll quickly see there's really nothing to be shy or self-conscious about.

If you're going to be sexy, you have to believe in yourself. If you start second-guessing everything you do, the guys will see it and won't be interested.

 

[lindahotstuff]

I think the best way to get into a relaxed state is a massage. Ask your preferred mate to get some warm oils, make the room dark, just candlight, some soft, soothing music, tender voices and gentle, non-sexual massage of the shoulders, back, arms and legs, including feet and hands.
If that starts to make you feel sexy, roll over and start touching your partner erotically. But YOU control whether and how you go forward.
This works for guys, gals and bi's.