Taste in porn, taste in BDSM, and sexual orientation

[malesubmissive]

I have some doubts about my sexual orientation and I hope you can help. The porn I like always features an attractive male submissive, which is also who I focus on during almost the entire video. How common is that taste for male subs? Does that make me gay, considering I see that person as the one I want to be, not the one I want to be with? I don't care much about who's the dominant - male or female - as long as they're not unattractive. I don't get a hard on from pics ands vids of naked men if they're not bound.

And regardlessly of your answer, What types of porn do you like? What role(s) do you prefer in BDSM scenes?

 

[Stella_Omega]

heh, yeah. Far too many men in this culture are completely convinced that one sidelong glance at another man's body and OH NOES TEH GAY!

Thus women are bored stiff by the eleventy-thousand porn movies out there that show the woman and an anonymous dick.

No, it does not sound like you have been contaminated in any way by gay cooties, relax. You're a submissive guy, and you want to watch submissive guys get theirs because YOU want to get yours.


personally, I want to see men or women being well and truely topped. I don't care if their top is hetero or same sex, although I used to blow my own head up at the idea of men dominating women because same fucking old same old. When I find something that turns me on, I can put myself in the top's place or the bottom's, I empathise both ways.

What I seem to be most interested in right now is sexual BDSM with a handful of humiliation... I tend to top, because people are so hungry for it, and it seems that I can get what I need out of someone else's orgasm as easily as out of my own.

 

[Redrosewitch]

I'm submissive too and can appreciate seeing either another woman or a man submitting, to a strong master or mistress, and I imagine being in their place. My advice is just watch and enjoy.

 

[reesecup]

I am submissive and I enjoy watching porn where the girl is submitting to her dominant's will. My focus is what she is going through. I find myself wondering if I would make the same decisions she does.

 

[ForHerToUse]

Porn with sexy women who are really enjoying themselves.

 

[KoPilot]

Being a man with a body and acknowledging that other men, too, have bodies, and that you experience some sort of affinity for what that other body is experiencing doesn't make you gay. It makes you a human being that isn't completely emotionally stunted (like most men fancy themselves to be). Relax and enjoy the porn. Don't think too much about it.

Me personally, I don't watch porn anymore. It's boring, and if I can get it myself, I would rather be busy getting it than watching someone else get it. There's lots of impossible stuff I like looking at and reading about, though. Giant hands and dongs and tongues. I'm finding that I have less of a dire need to consume erotic material that even has two people doing stuff to each other. These days, I'm happy being a complete fetishistic creep most of the time, oggling mecha body parts, thinking about the occasional sentient car or spaceship, imagining someone shamelessly getting off on their own, and stuff that isn't even in any way erotic. I'm less and less about the frantic friction-fest that most conceptions of sex are as time goes by and finding myself more about the slow build of years-long ascetic-style submission punctuated by sharp crack of ecstatic sensation and pain play. Sex was a stepping stone to bigger and better things for me; so much so that if I woke up without genitals one of these days, I wouldn't be wholly unhappy.

Oh, and Stella, I read your fairy story a while back and totally forgot to tell you. It was super cute and a fun read. :]

 

[marieR19]

Okay, so I *am* gay, but I'm still responding. When I'm watching porn it might be straight, lesbian, gay, whatever doesn't really matter to me. But as Stella mentioned, I focus on the one I *want* to be. I focus on the submissive, whether man or woman, because I can see myself in that position, I can fantasize about being *there*, instead of that person.

 

[Ruby_Atom]

To be honest, I don't like watching porn that much. I prefer reading stories. It's that whole book vs movie thing. Sure, the movie stimulates the senses more, but the book lets you get in the heads of the characters. At least that's how I feel. For a long time, I only read stories that featured female subs and male doms because I was female and submissive and in a heterosexual relationship. I didn't think I could identify with other stories. Later on, however, I discovered that other configurations were good too, particularly guy on guy, and the main thing that limited my enjoyment was the quality of writing. Incidentally, I think finding good quality erotic literature is much easier than finding good quality porn.

In the end, the thing that makes you gay is if you want to have sex or a relationship with a guy and realise you have no interest in relationships with women.