Tantric Sex

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Was wondering if anyone had any recommended books or experiences they would like to share regarding tantric sex.
I, frankly, have no clue other than it is supposed to be an emotional as well as physical connection. Is that even right? LOL
Any guidance would be greatly appreciated!

 

[Ugod]

I'm a little skeptical of most people, just because it suddenly hit mainstream culture and all at once everyone is a master of it. I know for a fact that lots of the ideas are achievable, but its not easy for everyone. I personally have been able to do the whole "orgasm without ejaculation" thing on a few occasions by controlling my PC muscle, and thats handy, but its tough, and not good for every situation.


I guess I just feel like people think "I'm going to learn it, go home and me and my boyfriend will do it every night"

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

I'm a little skeptical of most people, just because it suddenly hit mainstream culture and all at once everyone is a master of it. I know for a fact that lots of the ideas are achievable, but its not easy for everyone. I personally have been able to do the whole "orgasm without ejaculation" thing on a few occasions by controlling my PC muscle, and thats handy, but its tough, and not good for every situation.


I guess I just feel like people think "I'm going to learn it, go home and me and my boyfriend will do it every night"

Well, I agree, anything that suddenly blows up in the mainstream makes me skeptical.
But I have a genuine interest in learning about this, and plenty of time to master it since I don't have a BF at home to practice on at night.
Oh, yeah, in reference to your sig.line, it's Paul Barman from the album Paullelujah.

 

[frustratedpoodle]

Hey hey y'all. I have read up a lot on tantric sex, and have not achieved anything yet. If I had a partner with patience, that would probably be a plus, but is it even possible for a girl to orgasm without actually letting loose with the juices. I can't think of a less crude way to put it, sorry.

The Poodle

 

[frustratedpoodle]

Well, I agree, anything that suddenly blows up in the mainstream makes me skeptical.
But I have a genuine interest in learning about this, and plenty of time to master it since I don't have a BF at home to practice on at night.
Oh, yeah, in reference to your sig.line, it's Paul Barman from the album Paullelujah.

BTW, The Cure rules.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Hey hey y'all. I have read up a lot on tantric sex, and have not achieved anything yet. If I had a partner with patience, that would probably be a plus, but is it even possible for a girl to orgasm without actually letting loose with the juices. I can't think of a less crude way to put it, sorry.

The Poodle

*giggle*
All I can think of now is that crazy scene in the movie 40 Days and 40 Nights with Josh Hartnett. Ya know the one where he makes the girl cum with the flower?
Is that tantric?
And if it requires patience, damn! I'm screwed!

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

BTW, The Cure rules.

Rah! Rah!

 

[frustratedpoodle]

Yeah, I believe patience is involved. What I read about it involved masturbating and stopping each time you feel the orgasm coming on, as many times as possible, and then letting loose with it. Obviously, if people are writing books and building careers around the teachings, then it's more than that. But I'll admit that I have tried that, and it's only made me want sex with someone other than myself once I was done. But that's just me.

The Poodle

 

[Ugod]

Rah! Rah!

You're a smarty pantes. Are you a UK gal? I just ask cuz I don't often see Wickid spelled that way, and I have a friend who lives in Leeds and uses a variation on cherry pie too.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Yeah, I believe patience is involved. What I read about it involved masturbating and stopping each time you feel the orgasm coming on, as many times as possible, and then letting loose with it. Obviously, if people are writing books and building careers around the teachings, then it's more than that. But I'll admit that I have tried that, and it's only made me want sex with someone other than myself once I was done. But that's just me.

The Poodle

So, a combination of patience and control. That's what I'm getting thus far.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

oops!

 

[Ugod]

Yeah, I believe patience is involved. What I read about it involved masturbating and stopping each time you feel the orgasm coming on, as many times as possible, and then letting loose with it. Obviously, if people are writing books and building careers around the teachings, then it's more than that. But I'll admit that I have tried that, and it's only made me want sex with someone other than myself once I was done. But that's just me.

The Poodle

I definitely feel good masturbating for a long time and staving off the ejaculation. Its not always easy timewise, but when I have time I can jack off for an hour sometimes. The trick is to know your limit, when you feel close to cumming (as a guy) you gotta clench your muscle and you can feel the jerking sensation but you don't actually ejaculate, and you can repeat the process a few times before you cum.

 

[Ugod]

oops!

c'est va?


I don't know if thats really how you say it so I'll switch to Spanglish.


Que pasa?

 

[frustratedpoodle]

oops!

That's what I got out of it, though I will never claim to know the whole story. I am interested in knowing more, though. I have lately been on a quest for the highly exciting and enlightening, and have come up empty.

The Poodle

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

You're a smarty pantes. Are you a UK gal? I just ask cuz I don't often see Wickid spelled that way, and I have a friend who lives in Leeds and uses a variation on cherry pie too.

Smarty pants, yes.
UK gal, no.

 

[Ugod]

Smarty pants, yes.
UK gal, no.

Ok, i'll accept that :-d

 

[frustratedpoodle]

c'est va?


I don't know if thats really how you say it so I'll switch to Spanglish.


Que pasa?

Hey you habla Espanol? Que pasa, asere!?

 

[Ugod]

Hey you habla Espanol? Que pasa, asere!?

Notice I said Spanglish My girl is Puerto Rican, I understood everything up to "asere". I've seen the word hacer used, but I dont know what it means in that context. Is that what you mean?

 

[frustratedpoodle]

Notice I said Spanglish My girl is Puerto Rican, I understood everything up to "asere". I've seen the word hacer used, but I dont know what it means in that context. Is that what you mean?

Ah, asere is Cuban street slang, meaning compadre, or in English, buddy, pal, etc...

Cuban slang would dictate that my greeting would say,

Que bola, asere?

Don't ask for the literal meaning of "bola"... I just don't know.

And hey, you done good with a Rican gal. Latina babes are uninhibited once they get out of Mami's house! Trust me, I know!

The Poodle

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Latinos make better lovers!

 

[Ugod]

Latinos make better lovers!

Latinas

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Well, yes, in your case.

 

[frustratedpoodle]

I've actually never had a Latino lover... and I am Latina!

 

[Ugod]

I've actually never had a Latino lover... and I am Latina!

Gloriana's latino lovers were shitty for the most part, a lot of them (in cuba probably as well) weren't very "sexually liberated" and needed to take control over every situation, and stuck to "tradition"

 

[frustratedpoodle]

Gloriana's latino lovers were shitty for the most part, a lot of them (in cuba probably as well) weren't very "sexually liberated" and needed to take control over every situation, and stuck to "tradition"

Actually, as far as Cubans go, the ones that are still in Cuba or recently escaped are the most out there. They are freaks. Reason being, according to Mom's bf, is that sex is the only thing that they can be free with anymore, so prostitution, as well as the concept of free love without commitments or boundaries, is the norm.

Tradition comes from us folks that have been in the US for a few generations.

The Poodle