Tantra

[nc_representin]

I did a search on this, but didn't come up with much so I wanted to start a fresh thread and ask again.

I'm very interested in this, because I'm never satisified with how long I last in bed, and also my girl has trouble having orgasms during sex (she's never had one with anyone, so it's not because of me...but she has told me she's been the closest with me, so we're still working on it). Anyway, I thought that being able to make love on a more emotional level may be able to break down some barriers, and thought this would be the way to go.

Are there any GOOD sites out there that any of you use? Any books you swear by? Because I've seen many "members only" sites that promise many things, and also some general information sites that aren't really that helpful. Anything would be greatly appreciated! Thanks for the help!

 

[YinandYang]

Hi There,

These two are good in my opinion....

Tantra by Val Sampson and Tantric sex by Suzie Hayman.I got them from Amazon, from what I remember there was quite a collection.

Good luck in your search

 

[RedIntense]

Similarly, I have never had an orgasm with anyone, and I have to say I am quite refreshed to see that there are stand-up guys that are willing to work through it with a woman. Most men just get annoyed or don't really care. Kudos to you.

And please, keep me updated on what you find, or if it works. Might be something I should try...

 

[Mr.L.J.M]

it is one of my fantisies to try tantric sex. i hear it is amazing and one love making session can last up to 2 days.. or longer..... more info people!!! pretty please

 

[merrygoround88]

Any good information would greatly be appreciated passed this way. I have never been able to orgasm with anyone either. I am trying to break down the barriers also. I give you so much credit to help her with this. My big thing is I feel like I take to long. I figured if I can just my mind not to think about it it would be great. My SO can't understand how I know so much about sex and can go into an adult store to get things yet I just shut down when it time for us to do something.I don't know what to tell him but insists eventually we will be able to figure it out. I've learned alot from this sight.

 

[mugman]

Another thread...

You might want to check a thread "Ejaculate-less orgasm". I started it when I experienced what I called a "body orgasm". I've since purchased both books mentioned above & have been experimenting. Very interesting. So far my lady & I have made love for 8.5 hrs.+ (with many short breaks). Also (believe it not) "Tantric Sex for Dummies" is what I'm reading now. Tantric Sex deals with body energy, relaxation, & maximum pleasure for both partners. Keep us posted, please, & good luck!

 

[SweetErika]

Any good information would greatly be appreciated passed this way. I have never been able to orgasm with anyone either. I am trying to break down the barriers also. I give you so much credit to help her with this. My big thing is I feel like I take to long. I figured if I can just my mind not to think about it it would be great. My SO can't understand how I know so much about sex and can go into an adult store to get things yet I just shut down when it time for us to do something.I don't know what to tell him but insists eventually we will be able to figure it out. I've learned alot from this sight.

I've had this issue too. What has helped more than anything is taking away the ability to be distracted and have the 'I'm taking too long' and 'What if I can't?' thoughts. I do that by fantasizing (just like when I masturbate), and I've been working on incorporating my husband and his activities into my fantasies. I also take short breaks, even if I don't really need them, but getting rid of the distraction and thoughts is the main thing. I got some great advice on this thread: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=281293 and it may be worth a look for you.

 

[merrygoround88]

Thanks I read the past posts. I'll keep trying and let you know when it happens. there is so much information on this websight that has helped me(us).

 

[NippleFreak]

Tantra: definitely the best way for love and sex

Any good information would greatly be appreciated passed this way. I have never been able to orgasm with anyone either. I am trying to break down the barriers also. I give you so much credit to help her with this. My big thing is I feel like I take to long. I figured if I can just my mind not to think about it it would be great. My SO can't understand how I know so much about sex and can go into an adult store to get things yet I just shut down when it time for us to do something.I don't know what to tell him but insists eventually we will be able to figure it out. I've learned alot from this sight.

When my best friend and I first became intimate, she suggested that I read Sexual Energy Ecstasy . That book really opened my eyes. We used it for a long time as a manual for sexual and relationship issues.
She has told me that, until we went from "close friends" to lovers with one another, she rarely or never experienced orgasm during intercourse. I was also one of those guys who would almost always climax before a partner and would resort to less than satisfying oral or manual stimulation to take care of my "obligation."
Tantra takes things to a whole new level, literally putting both members of a couple into an altered state of consciousness. It's not for those who're looking for a mere quickie, with physical gratification as the only goal. Approached properly, it takes both members of a couple into a place where both feel literally joined to one another and where intense sexual pleasure is as normal and unhurried as breathing. Her body is beautiful to me anyhow, but I really savor feeling as if all boundaries between it and my own physical form are gone. For the time that we're making love, we actually become one another. There's a spiritual aspect to it all that transcends any words that I can find, but it is alluded to in Kabbala. Last time we made love, we finally came together after about 45 minutes; in a sense, it felt as if we had a shared orgasm that lasted all through those 45 minutes.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I too have the problem of not being able to have an orgasm with a partner, tho I think it's because I've not been "in love" with most of my partners. I've had a LOT of unsatisfying, and completely ungratifying sex, I'm very good at faking but it's getting old, why I keep doing it, I dont know? Looking for a needle in a haystack is what I feel like.....

I have a strong interest in tantra, I think the intensity of it all is quite intriguing...anyway, thanks for the info, KEEP POSTING

 

[Exciteher]

I have studied Tantra, attended workshops, and include many Tantric practices in my life. Yes, it does take things to an entirely different level. Does it ever.

Tantra and Yoga are very interlinked, actually Tantric techniques can be seen as a subset of yoga. Tantra in sanscrit means "Tan"...to expand, to weave... and "Tra"... which means tool. Tantra is a tool to expand, its goals are spiritual, it looks at sexual energy as not only an instrument to increase spiritually, but as the primal energy of existance.

It is confusing to get a clear perspective right now on what Tantra is all about, because it has become so commercialized..and I feel that most of what people now call Tantra in the west is actually "neo-tantra"...not necessarily a bad thing, but there is a lot of very misleading or incomplete information out there. Tantra is actually an ancient belief system, and has many branches to it, where as "neo-tantra" selects out a few aspects of some of these branches. Tantric practice is far more than sexual techniques... but this is a big subject.

There is a vast amount of information on the internet about Tantra... some of it good..l some of it blatently "marketed" to cash in on the current interest. Of course, the "New Age" movement has really gone ga-ga over Tantra... in short, sifting the wheat from the chafe can be daunting... this was not so much the case just a few short years ago.

Margo Anand and her first book, "The Art of Sexual Ecstacy" probably did as much as anyone to popularize Tantra. Neo-tantric to be sure, but in a good way. I recommend her, I see now that she has taken down her Skydancing website and seems to be moving in a more traditional direction...???
I recommend you google her and read all the articles you can find by her on the net..

Also, there are some good seminars one can attend, Margo Anand use to offer these all over the country through her Skydancing Institute...now??? Charles and Caroline Muir also through their Source School of Tantra..they also offer a good home vidio course for about $100.00. These seminars..lasting from 2 days to weeks...are very spendy. If you want to go beyond neo-tantra...next stop India.

There are a lot of good links to good free tantra info at www.sexuality.org

For a good overview of Tantra A-Z see:
http://sivasakti.com/articles/tantra/art12.html

Also the www.Tantra.com website has some good info and links.

Seminars anyone? Some good tapes, and perhaps an instructor near you..
The Muirs's site; www.sourcetantra.com/

As I said, I am into this, but not dogmatically so, I cannot help but burst into laughter when I keep hearing "Lingham" being exclusively used for "Cock"... anything can be taken too far IMHO! It may not be for everyone. But that does not take away from the very profound insights Tantra can provide...especially in understanding and accessing sexual energy, and vastly amplifing sexual fullfillment. Man or woman, if you want to become multi-orgasmic, learn orgasm control, (even how to orgasm from the mental stimulation alone) and go to a sexual space where things you thought were impossable ..are possable..Tantra is worth a look!

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I KNEW I liked you for a reason

 

[Exciteher]

One more thing, I do not want to imply tantra is about orgasm. It really isn't. Its more like "not about orgasm"...forget about orgasm. But the power in this is that by focusing everywhere but the orgasm, the orgasm will take care of itself....or you can forgo the orgasm completely and channel the orgasmic energy in other ways...

If someone were to say to you "Do not think of a pink elephant"...what is the first thing you HAVE TO DO to understand that command? You have to think of a pink elephant!

"Not doing" is an easier way for some people to "do" than "doing"..lol!