Talking Dirty

[Felicia4411]

My question is how to keep coming up with new dirty talk. My husband loves it when I talk dirty to him while we have sex but there are like 7 or 8 different things I say and for the life of me I can't think of anything new to say. I know it shouldn't be this hard but for some reason I'm just at a lose. I thought maybe someone would be able to help. Thanks!

 

[NoRegrets]

The value of Literature

Why don't you read some erotic literature and
let your imagination run wild. This one is hard
for me too sometimes, if you learn something
better, let me know.

 

[Felicia4411]

well I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds it hard. I was thinking that reading some of the stories on here would probably be my best bet.

 

[MR.GGG]

#1 - LISTEN

isto find out what he fantasizes about. Discuss it like you are mildly interested - no big dealbut... when it is time to talk dirty run his fantasy or a close variation back at him complete with 4 letter words and all if he likes that too. You have to appeal not just to his sense of adventure (the dirty talk makes you a "different person" than the pure and virginal little Miss Wifey and this turns him on) but those buttons deep in his psyche which can really make things explode.

Find out what REALLY turns him on. Many guys who want their wife to talk dirty have very high respect for them and that just doesn't jive with screwing your brains out in a down and dirty fit of LUST. He may get turned on if you pretend to be somebody else. Tell him about all the guys you fucked before you met him, how BIG some of them were, what they made you do...even that night with the L.A. Rams Defensive Line... stuff like that. Not a great idea to do that if you really did all that but that type of fantasy, according to some sex polls, seems to be one of the highest.

Good luck.

 

[Noor]

Dirty words have value in that they are not what your husband/lover usually hears. By themselves, they get old and dull after the surprise factor has worn off. IMO

It is not so much the actual dirty words you say but the images you can create with them.

Compare
"I want to fuck your mouth" with "I sincerely want to fuck the taste out of your mouth"-Prince

I'd go for Prince based on that image.

 

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[Felicia4411]

ohhhhh no....my true weakness...no matter how hard I try to talk dirty, I always sound like a robot. This thread will be interesting.

Danger Will Robison....Danger

LOL...I feel the same way. Even I get bored listening to myself moan the same phrases 6 or 7 times during sex. I can't even imagine what it sounds like to anybody else...I wouldn't be able to blame my husband if he finally just said, yeah I got it the first 3 times you said it.

You have a good point Mr.GGG...he does seem to react more if I say things that go along with his fantasies.

Noor~Yes I think Prince definitely had the better line there

 

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[Felicia4411]

I always end up laughing at myself.....


I'm going to ram this hard cock so deep you'll beg for me stop, then moan for me to fuck you harder.............LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.

Somehow the moment always looses something when you're laughing so hard theres tears in your eyes.

That lines not so horrible...at least it's long, mine consist of like four words and after I say them a few times I'm sure my voice just becomes monotone. Don't feel too bad, my husband has said some things that just sounded weird in the funny way and I just will burst out laughing. This one time we were doing a rape roleplay and I was doing the please don't do this thing and he's all, "Don't worry, it'll be over quickly" and I just died. I didn't stop laughing for at least five minutes. I didn't get sex for a week.

 

[Noor]

That lines not so horrible...at least it's long, mine consist of like four words and after I say them a few times I'm sure my voice just becomes monotone. Don't feel too bad, my husband has said some things that just sounded weird in the funny way and I just will burst out laughing. This one time we were doing a rape roleplay and I was doing the please don't do this thing and he's all, "Don't worry, it'll be over quickly" and I just died. I didn't stop laughing for at least five minutes. I didn't get sex for a week.

so what are your words? I am trying imagine what mine would be. just fuck me NOW! I can get real impateint at times. I mean, senstive new age guys are great and all but sometimes...

Oh I am a laugher too, never get mortified when stuff happens like the bed collapses or one of us gets flipped off the bed, I just laugh, sometimes to the point of tears, but I just go right back to what I was doing before. My lovers learn pretty quick that I laugh a lot.

Only time I didn't was when I was staying at this farm house in the room with the stove, first night was fine, the second night was cold so we lit the stove. We were starting to get really into it and suddenly I smelled something strange, turned my head and saw a mouse on the bed right in front of my face! I threw my lover off and said we are finding a hotel now or driving back home. I was dressing as I was walking out of the farmhouse, as I passed the kitchen I heard more mice running for cover. I didn't want to do anything but have a long shower and boil my clothes, hantavirus thoughts were taking top priority, sex was the last thing from my mind.

Hey, maybe we need a line thread- good ones, bad ones, down right strange ones, IRL and cyber

 

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[Pixie Mischief]

poor woody LOL ouch!!

I've hit my head on the wall and glass bed side table.. I have fragile bones.. we stay away from those now LOL

 

[Cakegirl]

You could go for verbalising his fantasies, or you could just say exactly what's on your mind... If he's inside you and it feels good, it shouldn't be too far of a leap for you to say "God your huge cock feels so fucking good ramming into my cunt. I want you to fuck me like this forever..."
~Cakegirl

 

[cricketbug]

cakegirl... ya hit it right on the head...

 

[cricketbug]

Noor... i can see something like that happening to me...

think the funniest with me was actually falling/sliding off an air mattress... didn't think it was possible.

or... *groans as i remember*...rocking a set of bunk beds so hard they unbolted from the wall (they were unstable to begin with and were bolted to the wall to keep 'em upright...damn cheap things!)

 

[Nicole]

My best advice is to follow what people have already said.

Talk to him, turn the TV off, Pour a drink for him and for yourself and really find out what his fantasies are. Does he like roleplaying? What does he want to Roleplay more than anything else? What really turns him on? Ask every question you can think of, just get to really know what's going through his mind when he's having sex with you.

Once your having sex don't think, just do. Say what's on your mind "God baby your cock feels so fucking good inside my hot wet cunt, Fuck it good and hard baby, Oh yeah that's it, don't fucking stop". Look him in the eye and tell him what you want him to do to you, it's not hard in the heat of the moment.

Truthfully, it's during sex that many of the things that I'd like to try have come out. I'd always thought they shock my other half, but they haven't so far and the deeper we get into our relationship the more we've found out that we both want the same things.

Like I said, when your fucking him, don't think, just do. Tell him what you want him to do, and relay his fantasies to him.

Another thing you could maybe try is ... write down things that you'd like to do or say, keep a diary of them and share them with him. You might be surprised at the things you share.

Good Luck and let us know.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

<- wishes she wasnt shy

 

[Hairgrip]

have to say i am at a loss too. i am the one in our relationship who loves to be talked dirty too... or at least talked to... during sex. my partner is naturally shy, he rarely vocalises stuff, so when he does it really really turns me on. i have to be honest though and say that i really don't know what i want him to say... it's such a mix - god you are so beautiful, i love it when you do that, god you are so wet, you like being fucked hard in your cunt dontcha... - all i really get off on is that he is talking to me, as i love the sound of his voice. it means i am able to tell just how aroused he is as well.
can't wait til i see him again - last time he came and stayed over (bloody shared housing - here's hoping my OWN house gets sorted soon!!!) i fell asleep before the lights were out, poor love. poor poor love.
Hxx

 

[lilpriss]

Talking dirty can be really tough, because of a number of reasons... not knowing how my lover will take it being one of my biggest hang ups... I'll tell you... even the simplest words will throw me into orbit.

I think more than anything it's that we (meaning those of us who like the dirty talk) like to know that our lover is as into as we are. If I know he's having a great time then I feel more free to let loose too.

However, I'm no expert at talking dirty. I can answer dirty though Just recently have I been better at vocalizing things and the words have been pretty tame. I think it's not so much the lines used, but the way it's said... and wether it's sincere... because we can just parrot what we think they want to hear, or we can genuinely get off on what's being said as well. That's the difference.

In fact, you can use almost shy words to get your point across... I.E. "You make me feel so good," can be as powerful as "Stuff your cock up my ass, you fucking stud..." depending on the context, and inflection.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

bf would love it if I was like "fuck me nice and hard yeah" and stuff he likes agressive girls who tell him what to do any stuff. but hes got the wrong girl I'm very shy LOL

 

[Felicia4411]

I am so glad I decided to ask this question...I felt so dumb at first and I was sure I'd get at least a few people laughing at me cause it seems like it should be such a simple thing. But I have gotten some great advice.
The fact that I may say something that strikes my husband as weird or not sexy worries me to no end. I think that's why I tend to stay with my tried and true phrases. And sex seems ruined when I spend the whole time worrying about what I'm saying. So I think I'm going to have to take your advice and relax and say what I'm thinking.

BTW Noor the things I say are usually things like, your hard cock feels so good in my pussy, fuck me nice and hard, oh your cock is so deep inside me, etc. My husband still enjoys them so maybe I'm the only one who thinks they've gotten old.

 

[Noor]

interesting.

I don't talk dirty a lot, most dirty words are not in my daily vocabulary so I don't usually recall them in the throes of passion ; ) Timing of course is everything. An "oh yes" or "deeper" timed right can do as much or better than anything else. I suspect it is because it is easier to understand a word or two and parsing it out is not as distracting as a complete sentence.

I actually find that talking dirty is more fun when not having sex like at a musuem or party and you whisper in his ear telling what you would like to do to him, or rather be doing and watch his ears turn red! It is especially fun in a place where you really can't leave immediately, dinner at parents houses and so on.

If you are concerned about weirding your husband out, ask him about what he thinks is weird, what he might like to hear. You could start by telling him what you'd like and then go from there.

and Pixie you don't seem that shy, you won't find my pic on line anywhere.

I almost forgot-there is a book, "Exhibitionism for the Shy" by Carol Queen that you might find helpful. you can get it from goodvibes.com

 

[Nicole]

BTW Noor the things I say are usually things like, your hard cock feels so good in my pussy, fuck me nice and hard, oh your cock is so deep inside me, etc. My husband still enjoys them so maybe I'm the only one who thinks they've gotten old.

If this works for you that's great, but maybe try changing a few things around, changing words, be more dirty if you like.

Your cock feels so good in my hot cunt, mmmmmmmmm yeah that's it baby go deeper, fuck that cunt good and hard mmmmmmmmm Oh god yes, yes, yes ... as you say it, maybe scratch your nails down his back, wrap your legs around him a little tighter ... tell him he makes you feel oh so fucking good when he fucks you good and hard.

I love the teasing idea too. Take him out somewhere, and every now and then whisper in his ear what you'd like to be doing to him ... "right now you know what I'd love to be doing baby?" and when he looks at you, look back at him innocently and tell him what you'd like to be doing "I'd love to be on my knees right now, taking the head of you cock in my mouth, letting my tongue circle and lick slowly devouring your cock down my throat" letting your hand lower and touch him through his clothing doesn't hurt either.

By the time you get home, and after giving him more details of how you'd like for him to take you, I can guarantee that not only will you be talking more dirty, he will be joining you.

But the main thing is, don't think, just do ... don't feel that anything you say will be silly, just let it flow from your mouth.

May I ask? Do you have a way to call him at work? Could you start it all over the phone? Give him a call at work and tell him how horny and wet you are, how much you'd love to feel his cock buried deep inside you right now, that you can't wait for him to get home so that you can please him, and he can please you ... start by saying small things and work your way up to saying and maybe doing other things ... like letting him hear you cum over the phone (if your game enough to try that).

I wish you luck with all of this

 

[Felicia4411]

Thanks Nicole, when I read your "remixed" version of what I say it even sounded new to me. I will have to try the teasing thing, over the phone and the next time we go out.

 

[Mysticcal]

Wow, some great suggestions here. I am so glad you asked this Felicia.....I sometimes worry how things may sound as well during sex, and end up not saying them. Although lots of times, as I get into it, I have no idea what I say.....I get so lost in the moment, thinking is totally not possible. I think first and foremost, relax and get out of your head and into the moment.

The teasing does work wonderfully though, I hope you have fun trying it. One other thing that works for me, when I get shy, is having my partner ask questions. That not only lets me affirm that I am turned on by what he is doing or saying, lets me get ideas of how to respond and what he would be excited hearing. Even just rewording something back to him that he has said, will have a really positive effect.

Please let us know how it goes