"taking it", anally speaking

[spraybomb13]

hi all,
i'm a submissive guy when im with other men and enjoy the feeling of being "the girl", however, when it comes to penetration, it hurts! now, i'm fairly new to being bi, but i have taken some good size cocks and some smaller ones too. after my body gets used to the initial penetration, i can usually get into it, but it seems i never get over the feeling of "needing to go to the bathroom" and i also get this uncomfortable pressure deep inside my belly.

it's enough that i have stopped playing because im scared that mabye something is wrong inside me. i've seen other guys take a pounding, and beg for more, but i cant imagine doing anything like that! i would probably pass out from the pain!

any ideas??

 

[eliseolisbos]

Hi... this is my first post ever on the forum, and... I'm not a guy, but there's a community on LJ that has some good tips:
http://community.livejournal.com/gay_sex_tips/

People post their questions and there are answers in the comments. Maybe you need more and slower preparation? And pounding isn't awesome for everyone, even if you're 'a girl'. If you're super-concerned, maybe check a doctor to make sure everything is cool down under. Then you could move onto to any other aspects.

I'll just go back into my lurker corner now.

 

[Riley_James]

My tips for good, safe and enjoyable anal play!

I've been a Domme for only about 5 years total, but in that time I've probably taken at least a dozen or so bisexual men's cherries. There are a few tips I can give you...if you'd like to discuss it privately, you can PM me.

Mistress Riley

 

[sandiego1]

does anal ease work? what does that stuff do exactly?

heard some things about other people using it and no discomfort.

 

[cebalrai]

I've been with women for over a year now, but when I've been with a guy in the past I never have been able to get over the discomfort part of taking a cock in my ass. I love a finger and smallish toys, but I have trouble with a penis.

Most of the time I've been a top though and that's what I prefer, so it has never been a huge problem.

 

[gagginforit]

Hi... this is my first post ever on the forum, and... I'm not a guy, but there's a community on LJ that has some good tips:
http://community.livejournal.com/gay_sex_tips/

People post their questions and there are answers in the comments. Maybe you need more and slower preparation? And pounding isn't awesome for everyone, even if you're 'a girl'. If you're super-concerned, maybe check a doctor to make sure everything is cool down under. Then you could move onto to any other aspects.

I'll just go back into my lurker corner now.

You should come out of your lurker corner more often.

 

[gagginforit]

I'd suggest inserting a small butt plug some time before hand so you're a bit looser for the sex. But I don't know what to say about that uncomfortable pressure in your belly eccept maybe don't do it again until you've spoken to a doctor.

I have enjoyed anal play in the past and really get off on the fantasy of taking it like a woman too. But I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of playing around up there (no matter how good it feels) and constantly worried that I'll injure myself somehow.

Don't you just wish you had a vagina sometimes?

 

[infinity706]

does anal ease work? what does that stuff do exactly?

heard some things about other people using it and no discomfort.

I'd recommend not using it. Anal Ease is a numbing agent sort of like what a dentist would use when pulling teeth. It would help with the penetration, but if it hurts, you're doing it wrong anyway and risking injury. It is, however, useful for people that have trouble deepthroating if anyone cares.

 

[raffi_sandoval]

I rally want to

.....

 

[Stella_Omega]

I really want to get my anal cherry taken but am not sure if I want a guy to do it. Women tend ("tend") to be a bit more gentle, in my opinion, so i am kind of leaning in that direction.

Thoughts?

Not necessarily. When I'm strapping one one, I can't always tell if I'm going in the right way, because that chunk of silicone doesn't feel a thing.

Do men notice where they're going?


If I'm holding it in my hand-- or fisting, even-- I can be much more gentle, more accurate, more aware.

 

[cheapthrills]

I think there are several things you might want to think about trying to make it easier and ultimately make it a fantastic orgasmic experiance; there really isn't for a bloke anything that compaires to the orgasm you get from just recieving anal sex...
Trying some anal toys may be a good idea; especially trying to wear a butt plug inside you for increasing lengths of time; that oughta get you out of associating the sensation of 'feeling full', wiht the sensation of 'needing the loo'.
I find that after a few days of using my butt plug a fair bit, I then no longer associate the feeling of it inside me, with the feeling of needing the loo. Plus of course, having the plug in before trying sex 'opens things up a bit' down there, which isn't a bad idea.
Something else you may want to ensure is just basically ensure you've had a good empy of your guts... the discomfet you described may just be that 'stuff' is getting pushed about too much; you can try douching too which helps with getting things clean which is always good, but also helps flush you out... Hope that may help..

 

[none2_none2]

I really want to get my anal cherry taken but am not sure if I want a guy to do it. Women tend ("tend") to be a bit more gentle, in my opinion, so i am kind of leaning in that direction.

Thoughts?

I would agree with how Stella_Omega responded. In my case, I was always one who liked to be gentle when I fucked a guy. I got off on the slow tightness of fucking a guy's ass -- not sprint to the finish line.

 

[Braveheart56]

Positions

Been "taken " anally twice recently by the same guy. Both times when he went in the first time i had the feeling of pressure and it was uncomfortable. He withdrew and i changed positions slightly, i was lying on my belly. I dont know if he entered me from a slightly different angle but the second time he got in no problem and i felt no discomfort just a lot of pleasure.
He was 7" and quite thick and it was my first time(and second)

 

[cheapthrills]

Been "taken " anally twice recently by the same guy. Both times when he went in the first time i had the feeling of pressure and it was uncomfortable. He withdrew and i changed positions slightly, i was lying on my belly. I dont know if he entered me from a slightly different angle but the second time he got in no problem and i felt no discomfort just a lot of pleasure.
He was 7" and quite thick and it was my first time(and second)

Oo yes, totally right; forgot to mention that as well.... : I've recieved anal ... well a lot of times over the years, a dozen or more times just a couple weeks back, and the only time its ever uncomfetable is when the position is just wrong... I'm not even sure quite how to describe the right 'position/angle', I would imagine it'd be differnt for everyone; a toy might help actually so you could discover the right angle of insertion that works best for you... I personally find recieving anal 'doggy style', to be pretty good at helpign the angle/position be correct; if its not quite right you can kind of angle your back up or down as needed so they're 'going in' at exactly the best position for it to work well... Though you can kind of achieve the same whatever position your in, weather on your back or front, by kind of 'adjusting' the position of your hips... ; But then its obviously best if you can be at ease with the person who's fucking you and just say 'oww, not that* angle,', or tell them how best to position...

 

[none2_none2]

Oo yes, totally right; forgot to mention that as well.... : I've recieved anal ... well a lot of times over the years, a dozen or more times just a couple weeks back, and the only time its ever uncomfetable is when the position is just wrong... I'm not even sure quite how to describe the right 'position/angle', I would imagine it'd be differnt for everyone; a toy might help actually so you could discover the right angle of insertion that works best for you... I personally find recieving anal 'doggy style', to be pretty good at helpign the angle/position be correct; if its not quite right you can kind of angle your back up or down as needed so they're 'going in' at exactly the best position for it to work well... Though you can kind of achieve the same whatever position your in, weather on your back or front, by kind of 'adjusting' the position of your hips... ; But then its obviously best if you can be at ease with the person who's fucking you and just say 'oww, not that* angle,', or tell them how best to position...

Realize that when it comes to positioning, there isn't just comfort of the anal cavity itself, but your bones, joints, and muscles. Maybe that doesn't matter for a young person, but as you get older it makes a difference. For instance, face to face with the bottom man's legs over your shoulders. That is a nice position to see the enjoyment (hopefully) of the bottom man's face during the fucking. While it seams like the top is completely control, all the bottom has to do is use his legs to push the top out. However, the problem for the bottom is that if you have sore hips or lower back vertebrae or leg muscles , that position of your legs way up might be uncomfortable. I fucked a 50 year old virgin years ago that just really didn't like it for that reason. One thing that can help is a pillow under the bottom man's lower back. For the top, you have to watch your knees. I found that I just do NOT like this position if we are doing it on a hard floor. One similar position for the bottom that is less contorted is if the top turns 90 degrees. The bottom is still in the same position (on the back and legs up, but the legs aren't so high up. The top is actually scissored from the side. To help stay in side the bottom, the top can take his top leg, and put it up and over the bottom's leg that is further away from your body. This allows the tops top leg to be rubbing all over the bottom man's cock and balls which is erotic for both. Also you can tug a bit on the bottom's leg that is closest to you if you feel you aren't quite in deep enough.

I used to love fucking a guy with him on his belly and my legs straddling his legs. However it tends to be a little sore in the groin. Also I don't know if it is having a bit of a stomach forfor me or butt fat in my partner, but it just doesn't seem as deep penetrating as it used to be. one thing that helps is a pillow under the bottom's belly.

I'm glad that I can still have a firm erection because one position that is interesting but looks so awkward is the one where the two are foot to face. The bottom is prone on his belly, and the top is on top of him facing the opposite direction. So the top's face is looking at the bottom's ankles. You have to bend your cock back to get it in the bottoms pleasure hole, so a real hung top may find that bending the cock that far down is a bit too painful. What is nice about it is it allows you to rock in and out of the bottom which slows the whole fucking act down. Your cock is trying so badly to pop back at a natural angle, that you are pressing a bit firmer against the bottoms prostate. Odds are that you won't get your rocks off at that angle any time soon, but it is a wonderful intimate variation that also takes the majority of your body weight off the bottom. Most of your weight is on top of his legs where as with traditional top on bottom who is on belly, you have a lot of weight pressing down on the bottoms lungs and making him feel crushed.

Side Scissors (bottom on side) is another less contorted position. We would probably practice that more except that my guy really likes fucking face to face.

There isn't anything more wonderful in m2m sex than being inside a guy. That is why it is crucial to take your time and explore what is pleasant. Some bottom men eventually do want/ need a pounding, but plenty never do. I'd much rather make an encounter enjoyable so that I have the privileged of fucking the man again someday than to get my rocks off thinking I got a one time cherry knowing that if I'm ever around the guy at a later date he would rather I go find someone else. The highest complement is for a top to be reinvited in -- not being allowed in on a one-time whim. I'm very proud to know that after 7.5 years with my guy, I'm still honored to be invited in. I hope I can say that for years to come.

 

[cheapthrills]

Realize that when it comes to positioning, there isn't just comfort of the anal cavity itself, but your bones, joints, and muscles. Maybe that doesn't matter for a young person, but as you get older it makes a difference. For instance, face to face with the bottom man's legs over your shoulders. That is a nice position to see the enjoyment (hopefully) of the bottom man's face during the fucking. While it seams like the top is completely control, all the bottom has to do is use his legs to push the top out. However, the problem for the bottom is that if you have sore hips or lower back vertebrae or leg muscles , that position of your legs way up might be uncomfortable. I fucked a 50 year old virgin years ago that just really didn't like it for that reason. One thing that can help is a pillow under the bottom man's lower back. For the top, you have to watch your knees. I found that I just do NOT like this position if we are doing it on a hard floor. One similar position for the bottom that is less contorted is if the top turns 90 degrees. The bottom is still in the same position (on the back and legs up, but the legs aren't so high up. The top is actually scissored from the side. To help stay in side the bottom, the top can take his top leg, and put it up and over the bottom's leg that is further away from your body. This allows the tops top leg to be rubbing all over the bottom man's cock and balls which is erotic for both. Also you can tug a bit on the bottom's leg that is closest to you if you feel you aren't quite in deep enough.

I used to love fucking a guy with him on his belly and my legs straddling his legs. However it tends to be a little sore in the groin. Also I don't know if it is having a bit of a stomach forfor me or butt fat in my partner, but it just doesn't seem as deep penetrating as it used to be. one thing that helps is a pillow under the bottom's belly.

I'm glad that I can still have a firm erection because one position that is interesting but looks so awkward is the one where the two are foot to face. The bottom is prone on his belly, and the top is on top of him facing the opposite direction. So the top's face is looking at the bottom's ankles. You have to bend your cock back to get it in the bottoms pleasure hole, so a real hung top may find that bending the cock that far down is a bit too painful. What is nice about it is it allows you to rock in and out of the bottom which slows the whole fucking act down. Your cock is trying so badly to pop back at a natural angle, that you are pressing a bit firmer against the bottoms prostate. Odds are that you won't get your rocks off at that angle any time soon, but it is a wonderful intimate variation that also takes the majority of your body weight off the bottom. Most of your weight is on top of his legs where as with traditional top on bottom who is on belly, you have a lot of weight pressing down on the bottoms lungs and making him feel crushed.

Side Scissors (bottom on side) is another less contorted position. We would probably practice that more except that my guy really likes fucking face to face.

There isn't anything more wonderful in m2m sex than being inside a guy. That is why it is crucial to take your time and explore what is pleasant. Some bottom men eventually do want/ need a pounding, but plenty never do. I'd much rather make an encounter enjoyable so that I have the privileged of fucking the man again someday than to get my rocks off thinking I got a one time cherry knowing that if I'm ever around the guy at a later date he would rather I go find someone else. The highest complement is for a top to be reinvited in -- not being allowed in on a one-time whim. I'm very proud to know that after 7.5 years with my guy, I'm still honored to be invited in. I hope I can say that for years to come.

Agreed: I used to love the 'face to face', and its entirely my own fault I just don't find it so comfetable now... Middle age spread as some would call it (though in reality entirely my fault I eat too much and don't exercise enough), just means its not as comfetable as once it was... Actually face to face, with my legs up high and a pillow just under the small of my back to lift me 'up a bit', was most definatly my favoured position when I were a bit younger... damn this I'm going on a diet...

The 'sideways on', can be pretty good too; You've just reminded me of a very dear (now departed 'friend'), used to love just waking up besides him... and there used to be some really 'tender' love-making early in the morning, and invariably we'd be side on to each other but if you've enough flexibility its still possible to arch your back a bit, turn your neck and be at least some of the time face-to face with your lover... kissing his lips as he very slowely moved himself inside me... damn I miss that guy... (he passed away last year from cancer)...

I guess when your more used to, and experianced of/with anal sex, its a case of differnt things work at differnt times... Sometimes I just crave a 'pounding', and other times I don't even care if I climax or not, I just want it to last forever, and be slow and tender...

You sound a lucky person there, with your partner, may it continue to be so... :kiss

 

[DJNC321]

Previous posts have porvided some good tips. Remeber to clean it out, streched it out with some fingers or toys, and RELAX. If you tense up it is going to hurt. If he is hung it will defintely hurt. I have had several pleasurable experiences but there was one guy who was huge and try as I might I could not get him in my ass. I was just too worried that he would rip me open. So I was too tense to get him inside.

 

[sarod]

have your man sit on a chair or lay on the bed, then mount him. You can take your time this way and it won't be just rammed in. It's very important that you are in control as you know what your ass can take. Now take your time and grab his cock and aim it at your hole. Make sure he is lubed and that your ass is lubed first of course , then slowly slip the tip of his cock in, and rub it around a little, and slowly lower yourself, if you feel pain, ease up, get use to it. Do this a couple of times, then ease more of yourself down gently and do this at your pace, not his. Soon you will be able to get him in you and you can give him the ride of his life. I haven't been with a guy, but this is my fave position with my toy. I ride it rather than use my hand to dildo fuck me with it. I cum Hard!

hi all,
i'm a submissive guy when im with other men and enjoy the feeling of being "the girl", however, when it comes to penetration, it hurts! now, i'm fairly new to being bi, but i have taken some good size cocks and some smaller ones too. after my body gets used to the initial penetration, i can usually get into it, but it seems i never get over the feeling of "needing to go to the bathroom" and i also get this uncomfortable pressure deep inside my belly.

it's enough that i have stopped playing because im scared that mabye something is wrong inside me. i've seen other guys take a pounding, and beg for more, but i cant imagine doing anything like that! i would probably pass out from the pain!

any ideas??

 

[longneckbottle3]

for the best ride...buy the ultra cock and ass...it's amazing. You or your girl can use it. I put mine on a pillow to get the right heigth of a real person and ride the hell out of it...sometimes I also suck on a second realistic feeling toy to complete the fantasy...use to be a product from Boi Toyz that was a jizz scented lube...that was pretty awesome. Wich they still made it or another company that could be used as a artifical cum product.

 

[simple cruise]

i'd want to

i'd want to try it once

http://video2.xtube.com/watch.php?v...=&ver=3&ccaa=1&qid=&qidx=&qnum=&preview_flag=

enjoy,

 

[interwebs]

When i was first taking it we tried different postions until we found one that works i think that is the best way of doing things

 

[indiguy6969]

Practice solo. Lube and plug help break that uncontrolled tight seal. Dooche with warm water first and u wont have uncomfortable feelings in your stomach. The more often you're penetrated the quicker you gain control of your ass. Whether you have a lover or bf, just keep taking it. 10 years ago I was 18 and just started taking dick and it was rough. But now I take a thick 9 inches all the way in me at full pounding force. Have fun in your discovery.