Switching

[WorthATry]

I find that generally the majority fall into either being 100% submissive or 100% dominant.

I seem to land in the 100% switch, so love both roles.

a) is this fairly uncommon?
b) is it a slight turn off for people who are 100% sub or 100% Dom?

 

[Goldenfinger]

My wife’s dominance was one of the things that attracted me to her. In the beginning we were equal, but I started to pull back which gave her more and more control. I think we would of ended up where we are no matter what. This way there wasn’t a real struggle.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I find that generally the majority fall into either being 100% submissive or 100% dominant.

I seem to land in the 100% switch, so love both roles.

a) is this fairly uncommon?
b) is it a slight turn off for people who are 100% sub or 100% Dom?

In sex I am 100% sub and have no desire to Dominate.

 

[Firedog78]

I think I fall into the same category as the OP. I enjoy both sides of it. I love having my SO tied up and at my mercy but equally enjoy being the one tied to the bed and used.

 

[WorthATry]

My wife’s dominance was one of the things that attracted me to her. In the beginning we were equal, but I started to pull back which gave her more and more control. I think we would of ended up where we are no matter what. This way there wasn’t a real struggle.

Did your wife like the gradual transfer of dominance, or do you think she would have preferred having more control from day 1?

I think I fall into the same category as the OP. I enjoy both sides of it. I love having my SO tied up and at my mercy but equally enjoy being the one tied to the bed and used.

Do you find that for SO that fall into 100% one way or other, that they find it less exciting knowing that you prefer to switch. Sometimes throughout the same evening!??

In sex I am 100% sub and have no desire to Dominate.

Same response really, would it be less exciting knowing that there is a sub desire there, even if they always remained in the Dom role for you?

 

[Goldenfinger]

Did your wife like the gradual transfer of dominance, or do you think she would have preferred having more control from day 1?

I don’t know. I met my wife in the military, I was there for a career she was there for schooling. I was well aware of the issues couples have when one in in the military. I wanted a strong woman who could make decisions while I was off playing in the sandbox. So when I would come home I’d come home to a home she set up and maintained. So from the beginning she had a great deal of control. But slowly over the years, the mental stress of my occupation took its toll she stepped up and took her dominant roll further. We talked about it at great length, it’s kinda like my therapy.

 

[Firedog78]

Do you find that for SO that fall into 100% one way or other, that they find it less exciting knowing that you prefer to switch. Sometimes throughout the same evening!??


My SO 100% prefers to be submissive. She will be aggressive sometimes, but in a bratty way. Occasionally, she will act dominant, but not very often.