MisterRe
Virgin
- Joined
- Sep 23, 2015
- Posts
- 5
First of all hello everybody, it's my first day on the forums, I have been a big fan of lit for a long long time and finally took the plunge and submitted a couple of my stories so fingers crossed you will be able to read them soon.
But I always like to start a discussion when I am new to a place so I would like to talk about triggers and primarily triggers for switches. I identify as a Switch with a capital S, the vast majority of my experiences have been Dom and in general I am an outgoing, confident person so from work to social interactions, relationships to sex I tend to take the lead and exert at least some control, as I have grown older (32 now) I have embraced this more and more and I have to say that I absolutely adore spending time with submissive girls. I have been on various BDSM websites and local groups since around 2008 and almost everything I have done has been as a Dom.
But notice I said almost, I have submitted to one Woman in my entire life on 3 separate occasions and absolutely loved it, I couldn't say I enjoyed every single activity we partook in but I massively enjoyed the overall experience and would certainly enjoy more similar experiences in the future. But I do not seek out Dommes anymore than I seek out subs, I seek out relationships and connections and let anything else develop from there and the way that it will develop is generally through triggers. During the passion something may trigger her into a submissive state and we may introduce a little kink into that sex session, then afterwards we will talk about it and hopefully it may develop into full D\s encounters in the future.
Now I have come across many many triggers that will send a naturally submissive girl into subspace, sometimes just calling her the right name, sometimes a position, sometimes nothing more than looking deep into her eyes while you make her cum, but I have only really come across one thing that during a sex session will send me off into subspace even for a brief time and that is facesitting. I have a big thing for facesitting and for at least the time she is on my face I feel completely submissive, to me it is just a very Dominant place for a Woman to be and I feel as though it is a submissive place for me to be, I feel as though I am being used purely for her pleasure and it takes me off to a wonderful place. Usually when she is finished and we catch our breath that feeling fades but if there was a trigger for me that made me switch from my normal Dom state to a submissive state it would be her telling me she wants to sit on my face and riding it like I am her favourite toy.
So for all what are your triggers, the ones that really re-inforce your natural state and send you straight off and also for other switches is there a trigger that will send you one way or the other.
But I always like to start a discussion when I am new to a place so I would like to talk about triggers and primarily triggers for switches. I identify as a Switch with a capital S, the vast majority of my experiences have been Dom and in general I am an outgoing, confident person so from work to social interactions, relationships to sex I tend to take the lead and exert at least some control, as I have grown older (32 now) I have embraced this more and more and I have to say that I absolutely adore spending time with submissive girls. I have been on various BDSM websites and local groups since around 2008 and almost everything I have done has been as a Dom.
But notice I said almost, I have submitted to one Woman in my entire life on 3 separate occasions and absolutely loved it, I couldn't say I enjoyed every single activity we partook in but I massively enjoyed the overall experience and would certainly enjoy more similar experiences in the future. But I do not seek out Dommes anymore than I seek out subs, I seek out relationships and connections and let anything else develop from there and the way that it will develop is generally through triggers. During the passion something may trigger her into a submissive state and we may introduce a little kink into that sex session, then afterwards we will talk about it and hopefully it may develop into full D\s encounters in the future.
Now I have come across many many triggers that will send a naturally submissive girl into subspace, sometimes just calling her the right name, sometimes a position, sometimes nothing more than looking deep into her eyes while you make her cum, but I have only really come across one thing that during a sex session will send me off into subspace even for a brief time and that is facesitting. I have a big thing for facesitting and for at least the time she is on my face I feel completely submissive, to me it is just a very Dominant place for a Woman to be and I feel as though it is a submissive place for me to be, I feel as though I am being used purely for her pleasure and it takes me off to a wonderful place. Usually when she is finished and we catch our breath that feeling fades but if there was a trigger for me that made me switch from my normal Dom state to a submissive state it would be her telling me she wants to sit on my face and riding it like I am her favourite toy.
So for all what are your triggers, the ones that really re-inforce your natural state and send you straight off and also for other switches is there a trigger that will send you one way or the other.
