"SWINING" Mistake

[nine555333]

SORRY>>>> I meant swinging...For those of you that missed the previous message you missed a good laugh... we are a young couple and are curious about swinging, Where can we get some info or chat with someone about where and how to get started...HELP THanks

 

[Nicole]

I really don't like picking on people you know ... But here goes.

You DO NOT have to register under a new name everytime that you ask or answer something.

I cannot help you with your question as I have never SWUNG before.

Just check in under your name next time and don't Become a new person.

You will be forever a virgin if you do .... Oh I see that's what you want isn't it???

 

[nine555333]

NEW NAME WAS BECAUSE I FORGOT MY USER NAME

I would have to be pretty stupid to think that no one would recognize the new name.....I got this name because it was so similar to the other one and I couldn't remember the first name when I tried to post again... so I registered again instead... no im not a virgin...only at swingin and to be honest this is a pretty nasty group .. I don;t want any of your advice...the only thing I;ve recieved are insults mocking and cutdowns....SEE YA i'll get my advice some where else...I guess we don't belong here with all you "perfect" people that obviously have such empty lives you sit in this chat room all day hiding behind the keyboards instead of socializing and being friendly and/or kind...For those of you that had a good laugh....I laughed too when I read the first reply and realized my mistake..for those of you with the nasty mocking remarks...enjoy your keyboards...they let you talk dirty but your still alone and they sure don't come close to being able to give you any pleasure....they can't touch you ....I WISH YOU LUCK with your partner ....your hands...you probably cant get any because of your nasty disposition.... SO LONG!

 

[Nicole]

I'm sorry if you took that as a BAD comment. But you know what??? I don't give a Fuck.

Leave if your going to be like that. I have never been overly nasty to anyone here. I was pointing something out to you, before you got jummped on ... Oh and beleive me you would have.

I am a very happy, friendly, nice person that has alot of love in my life ... Thank-you very much.

I have been nice to even the biggest of Dickheads on this Board, I said what I said to you nicely and even joked (Ummm ... the virgin bit) Yes that was a joke.

Calm down and see how far you get, if you can't calm down then leave. Jeez you people make me laugh, I mean please. Grow up for Christ sakes.

 

[Guest]

I'm sorry if you took that as a BAD comment. But you know what??? I don't give a Fuck.

Obviously a nasty bit of work and a shitty sort of remark but you have to expect that 9555333.
Her first post on this was also unnecessary. She knows nothing about the subject but just had to put in her bit of bitchiness.

All the rest of the pack of dingos will be coming along shortly in support of her. Used to be the board was a bit balanced and at least one Guru would have pointed out the stupidity of her post but now if you get any apologies they will all be piss-takes.

Still why not re-register every time? Who cares? Better still don't register. What the hell is the difference?

As for swinging - just give it a try. You don't know who you will meet so no advice there. Just be sensible.

Done it loved it!

Bruce

 

[Bigdog]

Dog, dingo, whatever...

I'm not really defending anyone, but if you are offended by Nicole of all people on this board you should go hide under the bed covers, you are just too thin-skinned to show your face in public.

And how hard is it to look on the BB and see what name you registered under? It's not like looking for a needle in a haystack, it's on PAGE ONE!

 

[Gil]

Sorry, what was the question?

 

[Laurel]

"Bruce" - I don't think there's anything more annoying to me than when some random person gets into a scuffle with another random person, and then someone else has to go off on a "boy, the board sure ain't what it used to be, yada yada" tangent. Please don't blame me or my site or any of the other users for the actions of another. This board is more active, more interesting, and more of a family than ever. Please don't project your distaste for the posts of another onto the entire board. It's inaccurate, unfair, and unconstructive.

And there IS something to be said for registering - it's called accountability. You obviously know this, as you've chosen to post negativity about the site under a pseudonym. Had you actually had anything worthwhile to say, you would've said it under your registered name.

nine55533 - Welcome to the board. You'd have been much better off making your post in the "How To" section, as that's a more open forum for that sort of a question. I'd suggest you look around the BB, read a few threads from each of the forums, and you'll start to get a feeling for what goes where. If you have any questions, drop me an email!

 

[Xander]

OMG Did I just see Laurel flame someone????

And I've said it before and I'll say it again. Doesn't our beloved Madam ever sleep?

 

[Flagg]

Bitchiness!?? Where's the bitchiness!?? Why didn't anyone tell me about it I miss out on all the fun. I've been lost in that monster of a thread "Taken the plunge" for the last two days. Only just manged to get out of that hell hole! You know THREE people managed to amass 105 posts in ONE DAY on ONE thread!

Now that's talent

 

[Xander]

No Flagg, You've said it yourself. You've been out boozing hehehehe. I could actually use a little of that myself right about now. Hmm there's a thought.

 

[Laurel]

And I've said it before and I'll say it again. Doesn't our beloved Madam ever sleep?

Was that a flame? Yikes! No no... I just get annoyed with the whole "this board isn't as good as it used to be" stuff. It trips my trigger the way the word "clique" did a while back. And the whole "who cares if you register or not?" stuff coming from someone who's obviously a longtime user posting under an unregistered name smacked of hypocrisy. I mean, if his motive was to defend nine555333, why is he so afraid to do it under his own name? That makes no sense to me, and smelled heavily of troll.

And I told you before - sleep's for wimps, Xander...

! You know THREE people managed to amass 105 posts in ONE DAY on ONE thread!

Now that's talent

Yikes! Where's that thread?

 

[Xander]

And I told you before - sleep's for wimps, Xander...

I'll hold you to that Laurel You just wait and see...hehehehehe.

 

[Nicole]

Okay Bruce if you read the other thread on this subject you will see that I have been the one to yet again apologise ... But hey what's new.

I'm not a Bitch Bruce, if you knew me half as well as you think you did you would know that.

Nine555333 I shall say again ... I'm sorry if I hurt you in my first post. Please don't leave, stay and have fun with us ALL. It would kill me to think that something I said had driven someone away from the board. I'm not here for that, I'm here for fun. I want you to have the same fun that I do. So I'm sorry.

Please stay.

 

[Handy-Andy]

Nicole you should not have to apologise to anyone , since i joined a couple a days ago you have been a star, so leave nicole alone ((((( nicole))))) and one for your partner in lust(((((angel))))).

Hi flagg sorry about the thread " taken the plunge" but two naughty girls hijacked it and just ruined it i only wanted to say hi and just look how it went

[Edited by Handy-Andy on 08-04-2000 at 05:50 AM]

 

[Nicole]

Andy those Hugs are fantastic babe (((((((((((ANDY))))))))))

Thank-you.

But I do feel the need to apologise if I have upset someone, I would do it with anyone babe.

As for that other thread that your talking about, Ummm ... It was Angel's fault

 

[Handy-Andy]

yes by all means apologise when you are wrong or really upset someone but you have done neither in my book , you are just been u. Ta for the hug

 

[Guest]

Nicole is a nice person.

Okay Bruce if you read the other thread on this subject you will see that I have been the one to yet again apologise ... But hey what's new.

I'm not a Bitch Bruce, if you knew me half as well as you think you did you would know that.

Good on you, Nicole, that was big of you and it works much better than just saying that you are nice.
I am sorry that I have been so long in sending this appreciation but I don't get so much time to play these boards.

I still think that you were unreasonable to post what you did whilst he was apologising.

The reason that I didn't use my reg. name is that I edit for a few people on this site and I don't want any 'cross-fertilisation'.

To another writer: No I'm not 9-33355. I would have thought my post was distintly different from that gentleman's style.

To Laural: Slut-boy used to be the white knight. You don't seem to have one now.
All groups have history and in our hindsight it was always better otherwise there could be no 'Good Old Days'. No slight was intended.
You might not like the idea of cliques, dingo packs and other collectives but they are here. All large groups have them, cannot be avoided.
Again, no slight to you or your site.

Only really made the time to post for Nicole and now I return to the safety of the shadows before you or the 'family' starts on me.

Bruce

 

[Isabella Thorne]

Dancing in the Dark ..

Originally posted by Bruce

now I return to the safety of the shadows before you or the 'family' starts on me. Bruce

... well you hide behind the name of The Boss .. Bruce Springsteen ... as you talk about your "Glory Days".

AND Don Corleone just e-mailed me to ask me to pass on the following message to you Bruce ..

"You NEVER go against the family" ... LMAO

 

[Nicole]

Well I look at it this way ... At least I can sleep now.

 

[Laurel]

To Laural: Slut-boy used to be the white knight. You don't seem to have one now.

Huh? Can someone please explain this to me? Is this chess? I'm short a piece?

All groups have history and in our hindsight it was always better otherwise there could be no 'Good Old Days'. No slight was intended.

Oh, that's good to hear.

You might not like the idea of cliques, dingo packs and other collectives but they are here. All
large groups have them, cannot be avoided.

No, you missed the point completely. I'm stoked that we have groups of friends here. What bugs the shit out of me are people WHINING about "cliques", like they're owed a place in the world. It's insulting to those who take the time to make friends. I also hate people who come here to bitch & moan & pick fights, then complain about all the "cliques" and how no one likes them. Duh! Act like an asshole, be treated like an asshole. Comprende? No slight on you or your post, of course.

Only really made the time to post for Nicole and now I return to the safety of the shadows before you or the 'family' starts on me.

I see... so you can jump in and attack people, but if others attack you then they're acting inappropriately? Whatever.

I've been down this road before, and this is far as I'm going down it again. I'm sick of people who come in & whine about everything and then get all defensive when others tell them where to go. This place obviously doesn't suck that bad or you wouldn't be here, lurking or no. If you have actual legitimate complaints and solutions, you can send them to me in email or post them. I'd love to hear them. But I doubt I will.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I read this thread a few times and debated on whether or not to respond. What the heck huh? To no one in particular of course.

Certain facts of life have to be accepted, otherwise you might as well go on your killing spree now and save some grief.

You can't control anyone else's behavior. You can't make them own up to their own responsibilities. Accept that some people are going to behave badly, everyone does at times, and you'll find you're less likely to blow up over bad BB behavior.

Someone said that the originator of the thread should "grow a thicker skin." He ought to, at least to keep from being hurt so easily by what others may thoughtlessly say. However, why should a thick skin be a requirement to belong to a BB? I'm rather positive that Laurel never intended it to be that way, it's not in the rules. Everyone has said or posted at one point something that seemed like a jem of witty intelligence, and had it completely misunderstood. Happens to me alot. He took it wrong, she apologized, shouldn't that be the end of the story? Why bring up the "pack of dingos?" We are a cliquish species. We have family groups and form friendships and protect each other from what we consider threats. That is also a fact of life, a basic human instinct that cannot be gotten rid of in the interests of utter utopian equality. Deal with it. Tolerance isn't a dirty word.

 

[Laurel]

Excellent points, KillerMuffin. No, I don't think that a requirement of the board should be growing a thicker skin. In fact, I don't think that people have an inherent right to be mean to one another. Mean people, as the bumper sticker says, suck.

At the same time, this is an adult bulletin board. I don't want to impose limits on conduct because I think it's detrimental to the flow of conversation and also very unnecessary. I don't want to force people to have to get along. There are some very strong personalities here who have a lot of interesting things to say, and more than anything I would like to allow them and others to speak as freely as possible.

If I really felt that the people here were "a pack of dingos", I would be concerned. But I see too much caring, consideration, and thoughtfullness here for that to be true. How many "I'm new here" posts have been followed by dozens of "Welcome to the board!" responses? How many times has someone come to the board with a serious problem and received genuinely concerned responses and advice? How many of us got all teary-eyed when Angelique & Xander announced their engagement?

The fact is that there IS a lot of love on this board, and that's precisely why these complaints come up. Some people come here and are offended by the sense of community and togetherness. Instead of jumping in and making friends, they'd rather complain about how hard it is to make friends and how we're one Big Bad Clique, etc. If they spent as much time attempting to make friends and enjoy themselves as they did complaining that they can't make friends and enjoy themselves, they would have nothing to complain about.

Or one member will get into a disagreement with another member, get worked up to the point where it destroys his or her enjoyment of the site, and then goes around saying "Literotica sucks! They're a big clique!" like it's my fault and everyone else's fault that he or she chose to get into a fight. I'm not going to take responsibility for other people's behavior. Conflict is an unfortunate part of human relations. How you deal with conflict is up to you - not me, not Manu, not the other members of this board.

I have seen a few cases of people who come on the board and talk about how much it sucks and then are flabbergasted when they're flamed from all sides. Which is silly - WTF do you expect? If you walk into a Yankees fan club & talk shit on the Yankees, you're gonna get your ass kicked. Don't get me wrong - I love constructive criticism. I'm just not a fan of trolls in any form. And I find it odd that people who dislike the board with such intensity that they have to get in fights about it are the ones who visit it the most.

If anyone here is feeling genuinely harrassed or picked on by another member, I would very happily intervene - just drop me an email! I hate bullies, and if there's bullying going on I want to stop it. However, if you engage in an argument with another user and expect me to take sides, you will be disappointed. I'm not going to get involved in personal disagreements, and I'm not going to remove someone from the board because he or she annoys you.

This is a long post that isn't even relevant to 99.9999999% of the members. In the beginning of the board, I had a couple of trolls who liked to cause trouble, but as the board has grown and the sense of community has grown it hasn't even been an issue. Bruce's comments brought up a well of feelings left over from the "good old days" lol, and I wanted to clarify my position.

I have no problem with "cliques" (though I prefer to call them "groups of friends", because that's all the are - the only conspiracies here are those you decide to see). I do have a problem with adults not taking responsibility for their own actions and their own lives.

So blah blah blah..that's all I have to say.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Laurel is The voice of wisdom and reason. I am reminded of Pink Floyd after re-reading this whole thread again cause I forgot what all the hooha was about. Yes Pink Floyd has relevence... astonishing...

No more turning away from the weak and the weary
No more turning away from the coldness inside
Just a world that we all must share
It's not enough just to stand and stare
Is it only a dream that there'll be no more turning away...

Gawd I love that song... winamp, check... continuous loop, check... I'll hate it in twenty minutes.

 

[Laurel]

Gawd I love that song... winamp, check... continuous loop, check... I'll hate it in twenty minutes.

LOL!I hear ya, girl...There's a Morcheeba song I looped for an hour last night while posting stories and if I hear ONE MORE TIME I'll slam my face into my keyboard...

I dunno about the wisdom bit, but I sure can babble at length!