Swinging

[DarkDuchess]

How many of you guys who are in committed relationships have done the swinger scene? What did it do for your relationship good or bad? Would you change your choice if you could? Do you see your SO in a different way now? How? Any other thoughts?

 

[phuzeee]

I don't know if this is swinging but I joined a nudist camp this summer and it was pretty eye opening for me. Amazing how many ladies are shaving them selves, and it seemed strange that almost all the guys have no body hair, do they shave themselves all over? As you can see by my avatar I got a "bit" of body hair so I felt a little out of place at times.. I got to experience a sun burn in places that had never seen the sun before, that was painful for a day or two. I think as far as how it effects my relationship would be something like this...many women do not look as hot as I thought they would without there clothes on and I also decided that my own lady looks pretty damn good compared to what was at the camp. All in all it was fun to go to dances and pot luck dinners buck naked and the sun after a fashion feels great on your buns, I did not hook up with any ladies but think the possibility was definetly there.....Oh well random thoughts, and I saw that no one else had posted so thought I would jump in and put my 2 cents worth up.

 

[drexfurlow]

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[DarkDuchess]

I don't know if this is swinging but I joined a nudist camp this summer and it was pretty eye opening for me. Amazing how many ladies are shaving them selves, and it seemed strange that almost all the guys have no body hair, do they shave themselves all over? As you can see by my avatar I got a "bit" of body hair so I felt a little out of place at times.. I got to experience a sun burn in places that had never seen the sun before, that was painful for a day or two. I think as far as how it effects my relationship would be something like this...many women do not look as hot as I thought they would without there clothes on and I also decided that my own lady looks pretty damn good compared to what was at the camp. All in all it was fun to go to dances and pot luck dinners buck naked and the sun after a fashion feels great on your buns, I did not hook up with any ladies but think the possibility was definetly there.....Oh well random thoughts, and I saw that no one else had posted so thought I would jump in and put my 2 cents worth up.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It sounds like you had a positive experience. Which is what I am hoping ours will be.

 

[DarkDuchess]

Re: Results of Swinging

I did that for about 2 and a half months. We met with several couples. She got to explore her bi-side. I got to see some wild stuff, explore some fantasies I never would have been able to otherwise.

14 year relationship, 9 years of marriage. Ended at 2 am on a sunday morning when she woke me up to tell me that she had fallen in love with one of the men from one of the couples. That was March 2004. The divorce was official in August. She'll be remarried in November.

I'd do it all over again though. I'm happier now.

If I could be nosey...

Do you think that you would have ended up apart anyway? I am thinking that this will be a good experience for us, and I know that even talking about it has changed us...for the better. But I don't want to lose what we have over a fuck. How much did you guys talk about it before you did it? Did you set ground rules?

I am glad that you are happier!

DD

 

[LorriLove]

hubby and i have been swinging and swapping since 10 months after we wed, and that was a bit over 24 yrs ago... we both took to it like ducks to water... but then we needed it as well as needing each other... nothing wrong with either of us in bed or out, but neither were really ready to settle into a one person relationship... we married for all the wrong reasons originally... but found a way of ensuring coming 26 yrs of happy marriage through openness and a complete lack of destructive possessive jealousy.

yes there were ground rules, and conditions attached from day one... and the most important... no secrets to jump up and bite later... and we've stuck to that pretty well, although being human we do each have a few little naughty secrets, but nothing that would destroy us if they came out.

we have both fallen in love with others over the years, and both had long running extramarital affairs... but there has never been the remotest hint of either of us wishing to split up... and it has always been a case of returning home to each other after sex with another.

we too love the open sharing, same room sex with others, as much as we love our little private naughty affairs.

 

[drexfurlow]

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[LorriLove]

drexfurlow quote:
Oh, and here's the last thing. I found there were 2 schools of people wanting contact. the first group wanted friends that they could fool around with, the other group just wanted sex. The first group definitely sounds appealing. "Hey, let's watch movies together, or have dinner, etc." These were the ones who were more difficult. They didn't want to just say, 'we want to fool around then go home' and that desire for more intimacy in the form of friendship seems to speak to me of a couple who is missing something in their relationship. all of the younger, less experienced swingers we encountered wanted friends. The older more experienced couples, who were more secure or had been doing it longer were able to get together, chat and become comfortable, mess around then go back to their full and fulfilled lives. If we became friends with them in the process, that was a bonus, but it was not part of the original equation.
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you are so right honey, unless you are already friends don't go after making friends out of strangers... to be crude... 'it's a fuck for fun not love'... try to avoid getting involved too emotionally with people if you can.

we are lucky in that we don't have to go looking for it these days, we have a circle of very good friends, and as with all friends, someone knows someone, and so new 'spice' is always available when needed... we haven't trawled for strangers since aids got bad 10 yrs ago... too risky.