Swinging/Cuckolding Novice - Help Needed!

[HelenofTroy25]

Good morning lovely people. My boyfriend and I have been wanting to dip our toes into the water for some time. We’re both mid 30s from the UK and fantasise about me being intimate with others (men and women).

Does anyone have any advice about how to actually go about this safely and where to even start? xx

 

[paulworcsuk]

Good morning lovely people. My boyfriend and I have been wanting to dip our toes into the water for some time. We’re both mid 30s from the UK and fantasise about me being intimate with others (men and women).

Does anyone have any advice about how to actually go about this safely and where to even start? xx

Used to a “fab” swingers site , not sure it’s still going, but good place to meet likeminded people

 

[HelenofTroy25]

I can’t find any that seem trustworthy x

 

[paulworcsuk]

I can’t find any that seem trustworthy x

Do you mean websites or people? X

 

[HelenofTroy25]

I mean websites really x

 

[paulworcsuk]

Try fab , it seems to very popular a few years back

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

Good morning lovely people. My boyfriend and I have been wanting to dip our toes into the water for some time. We’re both mid 30s from the UK and fantasise about me being intimate with others (men and women).

Does anyone have any advice about how to actually go about this safely and where to even start? xx

I don't know about safely, but Fetlife is a big site, lots of people to pick through.

Just be choosy and screen your candidates very well, meet them IRL for not sex, see if they can be responsible and friendly as an adult, meet them a bunch, get their ID numbers upon meeting them and whatnot, so theyre not a stranger before you ever invite them into your home. Probably find a neutral space and see if the intimacy works in a 3 person setting, like a hotel room, before you invite them into your bed.

If you get a large pool of people who are interested use strategy and good procedures to screen the candidates.

People are people, you can't know what is in someone's heart, but you ended up with one person already. Use a similar process to find the next.

The right temperament, not jealous, patient, not anxious, and fine being the third person, is what you are looking for.

You may wish to get this person screened for drugs and disease, to smooth things along, maybe offer to help pay for that or pay for it. I dont know how healthcare works in the UK, Im used to the USA where they charge you a fortune for everything. So disregard if it doesnt apply.

I am new to Fetlife and there are lots of location and kink based groups, and you can look through thousands of profiles. You can advertise and have 2 accounts, upload pictures, find someone willing to be your third that way. Link your accounts together, both offer the same thing.

Give it a try, it's free to sign up and look, but there is a pay version you may also wish to try.