Swinging Bi females?

[Mnkinkcpl]

On New years eve a topic came up and I started wondering if it was common or not.

One of the woman said "I felt pressured to be Bi"

In context she felt that the prevalence of expected Bi activity among swinging females pressured her to explore her bi side, she went on to explain that before her and her husband started swinging that she had never been attracted to other women, but seeing and being consistently approached by other women made her feel that she should at least try it on for size.

She now feels that it is a good fit for her, but admits that if she (and her husband) dropped out of swinging that she probably would not go looking for female playmates.

Anne on the opposite side of the coin has told me that she has been attracted to other women as long as she can remember. For her it is a completely sexual attraction not an emotional one.

I guess my question is as a bi female did peer pressure have any significance on your decision to have sex with other women or was there a long time attraction?

 

[IndianaStevenJones]

On New years eve a topic came up and I started wondering if it was common or not.

One of the woman said "I felt pressured to be Bi"

In context she felt that the prevalence of expected Bi activity among swinging females pressured her to explore her bi side, she went on to explain that before her and her husband started swinging that she had never been attracted to other women, but seeing and being consistently approached by other women made her feel that she should at least try it on for size.

She now feels that it is a good fit for her, but admits that if she (and her husband) dropped out of swinging that she probably would not go looking for female playmates.

Anne on the opposite side of the coin has told me that she has been attracted to other women as long as she can remember. For her it is a completely sexual attraction not an emotional one.

I guess my question is as a bi female did peer pressure have any significance on your decision to have sex with other women or was there a long time attraction?

My wife and I have been on the swinging scene a few times. Little does she know I would let my black neighbor have his way with her if her mom will suck my dick.

 

[tristantrotsky]

On New years eve a topic came up and I started wondering if it was common or not.

One of the woman said "I felt pressured to be Bi"

In context she felt that the prevalence of expected Bi activity among swinging females pressured her to explore her bi side, she went on to explain that before her and her husband started swinging that she had never been attracted to other women, but seeing and being consistently approached by other women made her feel that she should at least try it on for size.

She now feels that it is a good fit for her, but admits that if she (and her husband) dropped out of swinging that she probably would not go looking for female playmates.

Anne on the opposite side of the coin has told me that she has been attracted to other women as long as she can remember. For her it is a completely sexual attraction not an emotional one.

I guess my question is as a bi female did peer pressure have any significance on your decision to have sex with other women or was there a long time attraction?

No-one should ever be pressured into any kind of sexual activity that they're not comfortable with...
If you don't feel good about doing it, don't do it...

 

[Mnkinkcpl]

No-one should ever be pressured into any kind of sexual activity that they're not comfortable with...
If you don't feel good about doing it, don't do it...

Your comment kind of takes my post out of context, of course no one should be pressured or forced to do anything that they are not willing to do.

In this case the "pressure" was the prevalence of bi activity among the other women and being approached over and over.

 

[hopeful_wife]

she had never been attracted to other women, but seeing and being consistently approached by other women made her feel that she should at least try it on for size.

This is true for me in a way. I've not yet acted on it, but I think I've gone from never imagining sex with a woman to having it be a semi-regular part of my fantasies.

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

No, I had no peer pressure about desiring or being with another woman. I was bisexual when I met my husband, and was upfront with him about it shortly after we met. In my case, my curiosity began after seeing women together in magazines and no long after had my first experience with another woman.

 

[Filipinawife]

My first experience was at university with one of the lecturers. She seduced me over a bottle of wine.

 

[black75]

My first experience was at university with one of the lecturers. She seduced me over a bottle of wine.

Please tell us the details

 

[tristantrotsky]

Sometimes it takes a little coaxing

I'm good with a little coaxing...

 

[cowboyup6977]

On New years eve a topic came up and I started wondering if it was common or not.

One of the woman said "I felt pressured to be Bi"

In context she felt that the prevalence of expected Bi activity among swinging females pressured her to explore her bi side, she went on to explain that before her and her husband started swinging that she had never been attracted to other women, but seeing and being consistently approached by other women made her feel that she should at least try it on for size.

She now feels that it is a good fit for her, but admits that if she (and her husband) dropped out of swinging that she probably would not go looking for female playmates.

Anne on the opposite side of the coin has told me that she has been attracted to other women as long as she can remember. For her it is a completely sexual attraction not an emotional one.

I guess my question is as a bi female did peer pressure have any significance on your decision to have sex with other women or was there a long time attraction?

Never had an inclination till one fateful day
Now it’s just my husband and whomever I choose

 

[anniebaby10]

On New years eve a topic came up and I started wondering if it was common or not.

One of the woman said "I felt pressured to be Bi"

In context she felt that the prevalence of expected Bi activity among swinging females pressured her to explore her bi side, she went on to explain that before her and her husband started swinging that she had never been attracted to other women, but seeing and being consistently approached by other women made her feel that she should at least try it on for size.

She now feels that it is a good fit for her, but admits that if she (and her husband) dropped out of swinging that she probably would not go looking for female playmates.

Anne on the opposite side of the coin has told me that she has been attracted to other women as long as she can remember. For her it is a completely sexual attraction not an emotional one.

I guess my question is as a bi female did peer pressure have any significance on your decision to have sex with other women or was there a long time attraction?

been bi from a very young age...... and I am nearly 50 now.

 

[jakie69]

For us, my wife said she never felt pressured but she’d already had bi experiences and was looking to have more while we were swinging. Our girlfriend is the same, she hasn’t felt pressured but was looking to have this experience. We do however have a few friends who’ve felt the exact opposite and one couple who stopped swinging because of it. The wife had no interest in other women aside from watching but after attending a few clubs she found there was an expectation that the women would play together (as she put it) which was something she didn’t want to do. She said it ruined the experience of swinging for her as she then felt like a prude for not wanting to touch another woman sexually.

I’m guess it depends on what you want to experience and what you’re prepared to do. No one should ever feel pressured to do something.

 

[DennisB]

My wife had the opposite experience. She is very attractive and gets attention from both men and women but we had found that many women, not all, but many women had listed themselves as “bisexual”. That term implies that you are equally sexually attracted to both men and women AND you have had intimate sexual relations with another woman or women. Women listed themselves as that possibly due to pressure or to make the couple seem more desirable, not sure?

She turned out to be “bicurious” or “bi tolerant” or “selectively bi” or “bi when drunk” or any other thing other than bisexual, lol! Our favorite was “bi tolerant”. Which one woman told us meant that my wife could go down on her and make her cum but she would not return the favor. We had another term for that; we didn’t refer to that as bi tolerant, we called it selfish.

Some were curious but wanted to be taught? Some were so nervous that they laid there. The whole “bisexual” thing turned my wife off. I listed myself as straight. There was no misleading information. No expectations. No assumptions. So I guess some women did feel pressured to list themselves as “bi”. On the other end, it gives a false signal.

 

[Sct73]

My first experience was at university with one of the lecturers. She seduced me over a bottle of wine.

So hot. Any more details?

 

[Filipinawife]

Of course

 

[DennisB]

Before I transitioned, I was a regular ol' woman (if very butch), so I was a bi woman.

I wasn't pressured into being bi. That's who I am. Next question.

The swinger scene seems like a poor example of what gay and bi people actually experience on a day to day basis. You are literally in it, with your spouse, to fuck people you don't know. And it seems that some husbands really want their wives to do Lesbian Things for their amusement. This is a very heterosexual male thing to me that I cannot relate to. Don't care what you call it, it is what it is.

I'm sure some women in this scene are bi. In fact, I'm sure some find out they're lesbians and leave their men. LOL.

But in any case, this is a special situation.

People come into who they are at different times. Like how your personality develops over time and you realize certain barriers to parts of your sexuality (an intrinsic part of you) are gone. Knowledge has been realized. Which is why some know as a teen and some at 70.

But others say, you know what, this will be a nice fad to chase for now until I get bored.

And since I am transgender, I avoid those people. Lol. Nothing but trouble. Sorry but it's the truth.

Well, interesting comment. However you got it wrong. But I do salute your creative mind on how you put together your hypothesis.

Have a nice day.

 

[svengali_decL]

My wife had the opposite experience. She is very attractive and gets attention from both men and women but we had found that many women, not all, but many women had listed themselves as “bisexual”. That term implies that you are equally sexually attracted to both men and women AND you have had intimate sexual relations with another woman or women. Women listed themselves as that possibly due to pressure or to make the couple seem more desirable, not sure?

She turned out to be “bicurious” or “bi tolerant” or “selectively bi” or “bi when drunk” or any other thing other than bisexual, lol! Our favorite was “bi tolerant”. Which one woman told us meant that my wife could go down on her and make her cum but she would not return the favor. We had another term for that; we didn’t refer to that as bi tolerant, we called it selfish.

Some were curious but wanted to be taught? Some were so nervous that they laid there. The whole “bisexual” thing turned my wife off. I listed myself as straight. There was no misleading information. No expectations. No assumptions. So I guess some women did feel pressured to list themselves as “bi”. On the other end, it gives a false signal.

All of which is easily answered by simply asking the question...

 

[DennisB]

All of which is easily answered by simply asking the question...

i guess I didn’t explain myself too well. On this particular lifestyle site, you list your sexual preference. Examples are straight, bisexual, gay, bi-curious, etc. You are telling everyone your sexual orientation. You can go into further detail in the profile if you wish such as, “I list myself as bisexual but I have not actually been with another woman but I desire it.”

No further explanation was given just the title “bisexual”. So as part of this thread, did these women feel pressured by their husbands? I didn’t pressure my wife to list her sexual orientation. I listed myself as “straight” which the other husband understands that there will be no cock sucking or anal sex between us, lol!

When these women listed themselves as bisexual and confirmed that verbally, and there was chemistry that both women felt and saw, for them to now say, “oh, yes you can lick my pussy but I am NOT going down on you” is……well false advertising, lol! It is a fax pas in the lifestyle community. Very similar to meeting and getting to know a nice couple and you do everything to please her/him both manually and orally; she/he orgasms and then wants to go home. What!!! Word gets around of people like that.

The thread spoke about women feeling pressured to list themselves as bisexual. My comment was how that pressure is felt by others who are with them.

Sorry if I didn’t explain myself too well initially.

 

[cowboyup6977]

This is true for me in a way. I've not yet acted on it, but I think I've gone from never imagining sex with a woman to having it be a semi-regular part of my fantasies.

I was the same way until one fateful day