SweetJenna
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Sweet jenna
Ok that was completely dishonest. Sweetjenna is my wife of 20 years come next month. About six weeks ago, she discovered I was "helping" a barmaids where I went to have a few on my way home by over tipping, etc. I never did anything wrong other than give her cash (and encouragement which from my chats I can se why she would be upset). I went through a few weeks of he'll after that and took a lot of venal abuse. I thought for sure she would leave me which would have completely destroyed my life. About two weeks ago, I found she had been on this site and had sent slot of naked pictures to a lot of men and had a separate yahoo account for doing this and chatting. While I saw slot of this I'm sure it's not all. We are trying to work this out and I'm doing everything I can but I feel she is... Well.. Settling. She likes this site and the resistance site but it doesn't seem like she wants it with me. Tied her up last night (which was fantastic). However, this was after I to.d her to go out on her own while I watched the kiddies. It really hurt me to see the wedding ring sitting on the counter but I want to make her happy. How do I win her back? I'm working out and set up aa long process to fix my teeth (which she hates - $50k plus to fix). I lover her dearly and want to win her back. Please help.
Ok that was completely dishonest. Sweetjenna is my wife of 20 years come next month. About six weeks ago, she discovered I was "helping" a barmaids where I went to have a few on my way home by over tipping, etc. I never did anything wrong other than give her cash (and encouragement which from my chats I can se why she would be upset). I went through a few weeks of he'll after that and took a lot of venal abuse. I thought for sure she would leave me which would have completely destroyed my life. About two weeks ago, I found she had been on this site and had sent slot of naked pictures to a lot of men and had a separate yahoo account for doing this and chatting. While I saw slot of this I'm sure it's not all. We are trying to work this out and I'm doing everything I can but I feel she is... Well.. Settling. She likes this site and the resistance site but it doesn't seem like she wants it with me. Tied her up last night (which was fantastic). However, this was after I to.d her to go out on her own while I watched the kiddies. It really hurt me to see the wedding ring sitting on the counter but I want to make her happy. How do I win her back? I'm working out and set up aa long process to fix my teeth (which she hates - $50k plus to fix). I lover her dearly and want to win her back. Please help.
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I wish you weren't going through tough times. It sounds like you and your wife need to rebuild communication and trust; but other than taking painful steps to go through that process, I'm not sure how much advice you can really get from people here.
You've been married for 20 years and there is an ebb and flow that occurs in relationships. I'm not sure superficial fixes like your teeth are what it will take. You have to find ways to reconnect when things have broken down; and it may take connecting on emotional issues, not just physical.
But because I don't know your wife's mindset and I don't know what has gone on the past 20 years, it's hard to say if even my thoughts have validity.
Try communicating with her. Talk to her about exactly what you said here. It's a place to start and if nothing more, it may tell you if she is "settling" or if there is a middle ground you two can find once again.
Good luck...and continue practicing honesty in your posts, too.
You've been married for 20 years and there is an ebb and flow that occurs in relationships. I'm not sure superficial fixes like your teeth are what it will take. You have to find ways to reconnect when things have broken down; and it may take connecting on emotional issues, not just physical.
But because I don't know your wife's mindset and I don't know what has gone on the past 20 years, it's hard to say if even my thoughts have validity.
Try communicating with her. Talk to her about exactly what you said here. It's a place to start and if nothing more, it may tell you if she is "settling" or if there is a middle ground you two can find once again.
Good luck...and continue practicing honesty in your posts, too.
Thank you. I know your right. The last two weeks have been a great relief to me and really great. However, I still feel I'm the one who's actually trying. Get it on the teeth etc. But it's something she wanted. Would never have spent that much on myself. The hardest part is still her wanting to be hit on by other men (my attempts are not enough). She is the best woman I've ever met and I will keep trying.
