DDBustyBrit
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Surviving Lit Personals if you want more - Tips
I’ve been here over 7 years, I was someone else for the first 5, then took a year long sabbatical and reinvented myself. That happens a lot around here, we sometimes do that, you have been warned!
I found what many of us here are secretly hoping to find! A real connection with someone special, monogamy and all the security and warm fuzzy feelings it brings with it.
But sometimes the problem is even if they say they want all this, eventually they revert to type, or can’t handle it when they get it, or their real life gets in the way. At first, they will profess strongly they want the same, pursue you crazily across the boards, ‘love bomb’ you, so you give in and go there.
Then they get freaked out and start reversing, with the guys because their little head was initially in control, and we all know that makes them do crazy shit they can’t maintain in reality. Depending on their EI this could happen sooner or once you’re both already in way too deep. The results are potentially upsetting and maybe even heartbreaking.
There are many Litsters here who have experience of a pretty devastating Lit breakup, maybe they’ll add their own two cents here.
Last year when I first returned I had ‘the stable’, got some infamy with it too and guys keen to get in. But actually it allowed me to weed out the good guys from the time wasters. It’s been 10 months since I gave that up for an exclusive, but the former occupants are all still good friends and in contact. I got lucky they were all sane, professional, smart, emotionally mature good guys.
So talk to a few for awhile and maybe you’ll kiss a prince/princess eventually.
I don’t recommend getting into an exclusive until you’ve talked a few weeks. It’s probably a good idea to Lit stalk them a bit too. After all this is a sex hookup site ultimately, so if you think you could get serious, make sure you’re not one of many.
If you’re a Lit lady and you think he’s messing on you while professing monogamy, reach out to the other lady with a pm. The ladies of Lit kind of look out for each other, we are so heavily outnumbered. None of us like to be messed around and most of us will welcome a heads up on a douche bag professing to be something they’re not.
I am regularly entertained when a new woman posts here and I see all the usual suspects comment, it’s so tempting to call them out! Instead I sometimes warn the newbie with a pm if she seems naive and nice. I ought to sell my ‘ignore’ list and make some fast cash!
Those of us that have been here a long time tend to know each others past relationships, fave threads and patterns, so if we give you a heads up take what we say into consideration.
Be warned there are also some strange individuals here who think it’s fair game to masquerade as the opposite sex! I don’t get it but each to their own, always ask for a real time pic and some proof before you get involved! The men are more at risk of ‘fake’ females, I have heard of this happening many times!
Immediately ‘ignore’ the Litsters you know you’ll never be interested in when they pm you. Another female litster advised me to do this, it saves a lot of time knowing who you have already ‘cleared’. My list is long and regularly updated!
Many men want someone quite a bit younger, or they’re younger and want a cougar! The ladies generally don’t worry too much about age, we’re more about the bigger head containing a brain and an ability to converse!
If they send you an unsolicited dick pic just ignore them, you’ll be one of many!
If they start pushing for cams immediately ignore them, they want free porn! Or make them wait and see if they hang around.
Good luck but finding something more than a hookup on Lit for both sexes, is like searching for a needle in a haystack!
So if you find it don’t let it go unless it's totally beyond salvage, it could be years before it happens again.
There are a lot of really nice decent smart people here just looking for fun. It’s a fun site but it’s not a romance site, keep that in mind. It happens but it’s kind of rare!
If ultimately you’re just here for fun hookups then you’re in luck because this is the right place. If you want more I think it would help to also be somewhat cynical!
I’ve been here over 7 years, I was someone else for the first 5, then took a year long sabbatical and reinvented myself. That happens a lot around here, we sometimes do that, you have been warned!
I found what many of us here are secretly hoping to find! A real connection with someone special, monogamy and all the security and warm fuzzy feelings it brings with it.
But sometimes the problem is even if they say they want all this, eventually they revert to type, or can’t handle it when they get it, or their real life gets in the way. At first, they will profess strongly they want the same, pursue you crazily across the boards, ‘love bomb’ you, so you give in and go there.
Then they get freaked out and start reversing, with the guys because their little head was initially in control, and we all know that makes them do crazy shit they can’t maintain in reality. Depending on their EI this could happen sooner or once you’re both already in way too deep. The results are potentially upsetting and maybe even heartbreaking.
There are many Litsters here who have experience of a pretty devastating Lit breakup, maybe they’ll add their own two cents here.
Last year when I first returned I had ‘the stable’, got some infamy with it too and guys keen to get in. But actually it allowed me to weed out the good guys from the time wasters. It’s been 10 months since I gave that up for an exclusive, but the former occupants are all still good friends and in contact. I got lucky they were all sane, professional, smart, emotionally mature good guys.
So talk to a few for awhile and maybe you’ll kiss a prince/princess eventually.
I don’t recommend getting into an exclusive until you’ve talked a few weeks. It’s probably a good idea to Lit stalk them a bit too. After all this is a sex hookup site ultimately, so if you think you could get serious, make sure you’re not one of many.
If you’re a Lit lady and you think he’s messing on you while professing monogamy, reach out to the other lady with a pm. The ladies of Lit kind of look out for each other, we are so heavily outnumbered. None of us like to be messed around and most of us will welcome a heads up on a douche bag professing to be something they’re not.
I am regularly entertained when a new woman posts here and I see all the usual suspects comment, it’s so tempting to call them out! Instead I sometimes warn the newbie with a pm if she seems naive and nice. I ought to sell my ‘ignore’ list and make some fast cash!
Those of us that have been here a long time tend to know each others past relationships, fave threads and patterns, so if we give you a heads up take what we say into consideration.
Be warned there are also some strange individuals here who think it’s fair game to masquerade as the opposite sex! I don’t get it but each to their own, always ask for a real time pic and some proof before you get involved! The men are more at risk of ‘fake’ females, I have heard of this happening many times!
Immediately ‘ignore’ the Litsters you know you’ll never be interested in when they pm you. Another female litster advised me to do this, it saves a lot of time knowing who you have already ‘cleared’. My list is long and regularly updated!
Many men want someone quite a bit younger, or they’re younger and want a cougar! The ladies generally don’t worry too much about age, we’re more about the bigger head containing a brain and an ability to converse!
If they send you an unsolicited dick pic just ignore them, you’ll be one of many!
If they start pushing for cams immediately ignore them, they want free porn! Or make them wait and see if they hang around.
Good luck but finding something more than a hookup on Lit for both sexes, is like searching for a needle in a haystack!
So if you find it don’t let it go unless it's totally beyond salvage, it could be years before it happens again.
There are a lot of really nice decent smart people here just looking for fun. It’s a fun site but it’s not a romance site, keep that in mind. It happens but it’s kind of rare!
If ultimately you’re just here for fun hookups then you’re in luck because this is the right place. If you want more I think it would help to also be somewhat cynical!
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