Surviving Lit Personals - ‘looking for more’ meet thread

[DDBustyBrit]

Surviving Lit Personals - ‘Looking for More’ Club

So I wrote this cynical long advice thread on how to avoid getting a broken heart on Lit & survive the Personals Board. This the ‘follow up’ so you might want to read ‘Surviving Lit Personals if you want more’ for the advisory thread.

It’s popular and there are many of us in the same boat it appears. One commenter suggested a follow up thread connecting us all together in one place. He thought it might help those that want more find similarly minded Litsters easier. I’m afraid I am cynical it will work and all the ‘nice’ genuine trustworthy Litsters in one place, could attract the Lit players just for sport!

But wtf let’s give it a go, maybe I’ll get my faith restored!

So although I’m not looking for another exclusive, committed relationship with someone here, I’ll start us off as I know the day may come again.

I’m 53, MWF, British but live in the USA (MidWest).

I’m 5’8, very slim (140-150), very fit, sexless marriage, dark blonde mid-length hair, blue eyes, yes I’m a DD flirty, chatty, feisty, have my kinks, drive way too fast and I love a good conversation. I’m glamorous, feminine, potty-mouthed (Brit thing!), I have erotic stories published here and have a super high sex drive!

Being honest - I have quite a few (6) Lit men who are close to me as long term friends and were lovers once. It seems once we get close they stay connected to me, even when the sex stops! You have to be able to accept them and trust me talking to them regularly.

I look for taller men (but my ex was not), I really prefer men in their 50’s, chest hair is non-negotiable, must be fun, likes to be in charge, high sex drive, kinky, intelligent, professional, flirt, bossy, not afraid of a strong sassy woman!

Here’s the important bit for us all:

If I attach to you or commit exclusively: I will not mess you around, I will fit you into my life, I will be very reliable, you will not be one of many, I am a woman/(man), I don’t like to play games, I will be affectionate, I may want to meet, you can trust me not to fuck with your life, I will cherish you, I will be your best friend, I will make a commitment and stick to it if we do, I will do my best never to break your heart, I will never ghost you, deceive you or just disappear on you.

That’s our pledge to each other in here please

Next!

If you’re looking for more than just quick hookups (shag in British), then give some details about you and what you look for ideally pledge if you want to!

Let’s see if we can make some long term matches

Players need not apply, don’t let the door hit you on the way out!

 

[Eisranac]

Thank you for creating this thread, DDBustyBrit.

I hope that it is as helpful to as many Literoticans as possible in developing good relationships.

 

[Tomr2527]

I love the idea of this thread! Thank you so much for creating it

I’m Tom, 29 from the UK (north of England to be precise) and I’m looking for someone to build a friendship with that can help me escape the mundane ‘real world’. I’m 6ft, white, large build (chubby but not fat!) have a few tattoos and varied range of kinks and fetishes.

 

[Discoverer]

Surviving Lit Personals - 'looking for more'

What a post, DDBustyBrit! You are so open and communicative. Totally different from what I am experiencing in my life. Refreshing to read! Thanks!

 

[NiceScottishGuy]

Are you Cilla Black?? Haha

 

[RudyGardet]

I've been thinking about posting a personal for a while now but I always hesitate because most of them here are not my style and I'm not sure if a more serious one fits. So the timing of this thread is perfect for me so thank you for starting it DDBustyBrit.

I've been one of the many many married-but-needing-something people here on Lit for several years now, but due to a fortunately positive separation and impending divorce, I find my search changing dramatically. I'm still open to online LDR relationships but I'm also stepping in to the daunting modern world of dating, which is made even more complicated by knowing that need someone with a vivid sexual imagination. So if there are any intelligently sexy (or sexily intelligent, I'm flexible) ladies in the northeast Pennsylvania area, I'm looking for you in particular, but again, I know that's a longshot so if you think we might click let me know.

I'm tall, big but hopefully not in a bad way (6'3). You can see what I look like on my avatar and in my profile. I'm a dominant type but I'm not an asshole. I can't promise that I won't crack a bad joke in the middle of a heavy sexting session, sue me. I believe I'm pretty fucking good at walking the fine line between being aggressive but still respectful. I'm professional and educated but I'm still pleasantly and proudly rough around the edges. I'm a serious person and I'm looking for a serious partner, but I don't take myself all that seriously and when you get past the gruff cool exterior I'm really a total goofball.

I need a woman who is fun first and foremost, but also can get real and have a normal conversation. She must be someone who embraces her sexual nature even if it scares her - to me there is nothing as exciting or impressive as a woman who is strong enough to accept and express that side of her that she might try to deny or hide from her friends and family. I seem to click better with submissive types, but I don't like weak women - the best subs are strong as fuck and my god that's hot!! I have a little extra thing for petite women (I'm a really nice guy but I do get a certain thrill from towering over a small woman) but it's not a deal breaker by any means. Appearance and attraction are important but they mean nothing if there is no substance underneath.

My pledge - I'll always respect your boundaries and listen to you now matter what kind of relationship we have. For me the sexy is built on a foundation of not just trust, but affection and appreciation for each other. We can feel out and negotiate all kinds of nasty sexy hot dirty wonderful rough stuff, but that comes along with a commitment to mutual respect. How serious and exclusive our relationship gets depends on us - I can't say that I haven't been a player in the past, but I truly don't want to be anymore. If you're that person - whether your in my area or in another country - I want to find someone to call home and I'll be yours if you'll be mine.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

As an addendum ... straight!! 53 yr. old male here, in case that needed stating. You never know.

Probably safer!