Surving Valentine's Day

[Lovepotion69]

Ok, by now I've read majority of the V-day submissions. I've started to dream about meeting past lovers or getting ravished by some hunky stranger.

This is all very well, but considering I don't have a boyfriend (and most likely won't be close to that around 14 Feb), anyone got ideas how I shall survive Valentine's Day?

Any ideas, no matter how serious, perverted, crazy they are - do tell.



/LP

 

[Guest]

LP, I haven't had a "valentine" in years. But I like the day and always get cards for my sons, niece and girlfriends. For the gf's I get them as bawdy as I can find, I love cracking them up.

Perdita

 

[logophile]

Ok, by now I've read majority of the V-day submissions. I've started to dream about meeting past lovers or getting ravished by some hunky stranger.

This is all very well, but considering I don't have a boyfriend (and most likely won't be close to that around 14 Feb), anyone got ideas how I shall survive Valentine's Day?

Any ideas, no matter how serious, perverted, crazy they are - do tell.



/LP

I'm afraid I'm no help. But I'd like to stick around to watch and learn, if you don't mind...

 

[Celtic Princess]

I recommend celebrating yourself.


I've spent a few Valentine's holidays alone. Generally, I prepared by finding a few movies I hadn't gotten around to watching- all types. From porn to chick flicks to action movies. I order something I really want to eat- sinful lasagna from the Italian place around the corner, a thick steak I didn't have to cook, or even a small deli meat/cheese/fruit picnic. I buy a wonderful bottle of red wine or champagne and light tons of candles in my room. I would take a long bubble bath, and slip into satin pjs. Also, for me, chocolate cheesecake is a must. I would relax in my room until the candles burn out and the movies are over.


It let me wake up feeling relaxed and rested the next day.

 

[minsue]

I can survive it, but I can't offer any help as to how to do more than that. Like Logophile, I'll think I'll just hang out and learn.

 

[cloudy]

Like others, I will basically be alone on Valentine's Day.

For us loners, why not turn a celebration of lovers into a celebration of love?

We all have friends we love....let them know that.

Just a thought.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Ok, by now I've read majority of the V-day submissions. I've started to dream about meeting past lovers or getting ravished by some hunky stranger.

This is all very well, but considering I don't have a boyfriend (and most likely won't be close to that around 14 Feb), anyone got ideas how I shall survive Valentine's Day?

Any ideas, no matter how serious, perverted, crazy they are - do tell.

/LP

LovePotion69,

I'm a closet do-gooder. So consider the source when you read this advice.

Remember the lyrics: If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with? Find some folks in worse shape than you to be with, and them give them some of your time and love. Maybe check with local homeless shelters, nursing homes, boys & girls clubs, the ASPCA, etc..

Just a thought.

Rumple Foreskin

 

[she_is_my_addiction]

LP, I haven't had a "valentine" in years. But I like the day and always get cards for my sons, niece and girlfriends. For the gf's I get them as bawdy as I can find, I love cracking them up.

Perdita

I like 'dita's outlook on the big day. I used to dread it but positivity is starting to invade my world. This sounds like a habit I'll have to pick up on.

 

[M Crim]

I just started seeing someone but it's nowhere close to being a gauranted date for Valentine's Day. Just in case things go wrong I've all but asked my boss to schedule me to work that night. I work retail and by the time I got out I hope I'd be too tired to be deprressed. Plus that day I always seem to meet other great people who are treating themselves to a shopping spree because they had no one.

I also recomend drinking large qaunties of liqour. I did this one year and I ended up drunk dialing a friend that soon after became more than a friend. However, do this at your own risk.

 

[minsue]

I also recomend drinking large qaunties of liqour. I did this one year and I ended up drunk dialing a friend that soon after became more than a friend. However, do this at your own risk.

*shudder*

The last valentines day I was single I drank so much whiskey & vodka (no, not together) that I was waking up every 30 min or so to get sick again all night and all morning, clear up to getting sick in the shower while trying to get ready for work.

I don't know how I'll be getting through it this year, but I can guarantee it won't be that way again.

 

[Lovepotion69]

My best Valentine's Day was a few years back in London. I had met up for a casual coffee date with a guy. Afterwards I ended up alone in a club and went in for free using a flyer. They had Playboy TV try-outs and the place was packed! Never seen so many men in a club before...hehe

They had girls (and some guys) parading on the stage, being interviewed and had games etc. I had such a great time watching everyone. I enjoy going to clubs just to watch people.

/LP

 

[dreampilot79]

Damn.. if I wasn't miserably attached.. I'd take ya all out.... I wonder if anyone would notice if I printed all the money it would take on a copy machine?

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Not trying to be insensitive here, but I have never understood why people get so bent about Valentine's Day. I can distinctly remember friends of mine raving about how wonderful it was (when they had a date) and not hesitating at all to spread their joy to anyone within earshot and expected others to be thrilled for them. The same friends have shown a very ugly side to themselves around Valentine's Day when they were dateless and expected sympathy.

I enjoy celebrating Valentine's Day, and have never been upset about it if I was without someone to celebrate with. Personally, I see Valentine's Day as counter-productive. My ex-husband relied on it to remind him to do something nice for me and/or schedule a date for us. I prefer a spontaneous trip to Putt-Putt Miniature Golf or a surprise night of dinner and dancing/movie/karaoke/whatever. I never was really able to shake the feeling that we went out because it was expected, not something he/we really wanted to do.

At any rate, it can be fun to call everyone you know and tell them you love them and it's a good reason to sit down and craft with your kids.



~lucky

 

[dreampilot79]

If, I am forced to be serious.. then one's emotional state is totally controlled by yourself... if you make Valentines Day a really big deal.. than you can suffer from self abuse when you beat youself over the failure of that day to meet your expectations.... be that because you're alone... or because your significant other fails to meet your expectations....

hmmmm self abuse.... beating yourself... sounds like the kind of Valentines Day I'm destined for!!!

 

[LadyJeanne]

I get out the contruction paper, scissors paints and glitter and make little cards for my friends. I'm a terrible artist so my concoctions end up looking silly and lopsided, but everyone loves to get little cards in the mail, so I end up getting lots of happy phone calls.

The fun chats, plus DVD night with friends (complete with tasty beverages and a smorgasbord of chocolates that we bring to share) and it ends up being a day full of love and good friends.

 

[sweetnpetite]

Ok, by now I've read majority of the V-day submissions. I've started to dream about meeting past lovers or getting ravished by some hunky stranger.

This is all very well, but considering I don't have a boyfriend (and most likely won't be close to that around 14 Feb), anyone got ideas how I shall survive Valentine's Day?

Any ideas, no matter how serious, perverted, crazy they are - do tell.



/LP

have some pie.

it's on me

 

[sweetnpetite]

Lot's of people are lonely, so find someone else who's lonely and try to chear them up.

Somewhere I heard that the best way to solve your problems is to start solving someone elses problem...

(for example, if you need money think of what other people need that you can provide for a fee, if you're lonely think of who else is lonely that you can reach out to)

Seems like good words to live by.

Hope this helps.

Happy Valentines Day.

Be Mine.

 

[TheEarl]

I generally ignore Valentine's Day. Last year was the only year I've ever noticed it.

The Earl

 

[Lovepotion69]

Earl,
Yeah, I generally don't really notice Valentine's Day either. It's never been a big thing over here, but the American traditions are slowly edging their ways into Swedish culture. We're easily influenced by America.

I think I only noticed V-day in England because my school used to have a V-day dance and the shop windows had stuff in them. Oh, and working at the school reception made me have to sign for tons of Interflora flowers. I admit it, it once made me wish I had a boyfriend in Greece who'd send me flowers.

 

[tolyk]

I've never really paid much attention to the day, and even less now since my wife left me on Valentines day last time we tried to work things out. Not that great a day in my eyes.

So, can't be of much help either, just felt like whining for a moment

 

[Guest]

One year when I was single, and had no one I wanted to be with on Valentine's day, a female friend in the same boat and I decided to meet at a restaurant for dinner.

Getting there before her, I sat at the bar, and met a great woman who was there to meet her daughter.

My friend, and her daughter showed up about the same time, and it seemed rude to ask to see her again, in front of my friend. I still wish the night had gone otherwise.

 

[matriarch]

Never personally taken much notice of it on a 'one person' level.

I have in the past, on those odd 'out of my head' moments, bought flowers and given one to each of my closest friends...just because.

The day will be what you make it. If you want to mope about being 'alone', fine. If you want to just smile at thoughts of all those people in your life who love you, in whatever way, and whom you love....all the better.

I for one will be quietly sending my love and best wishes to all the dear people who make my life special.

You all know who you are.

 

[tolyk]

In addition to my previous statement I would like to add that I don't take much notice of any holidays. They are almost all completely commercial now and really nothing much special about any of them. You can do anything that people reserve for those holidays any other regular day of the year. To many, valentines day is a day of romance but how many people would still be in relationships if they only participated in romance once a year?

The only holiday I celebrate is Halloween, and thats just because it is the only day of the year that everybody fits in, definately if you look like a freak (and I don't mean a costume ). It is a very commercial holiday, but still, I enjoy that one.