Survey of sorts: I need new things to say to my Sir. Share, please?

[samsdolly]

I'm feeling in a rut with things to say. I've found this site and it's fabulous. Could have used it looong ago. I say what I feel when I'm allowed and my mouth isn't getting fucked with who knows what's available. I want to gather new things to please my Sir tonight. Any favorite phrases out there?

 

[myinnerslut]

what sort of thing are you looking for?

 

[samsdolly]

I know we all have our favorite phrases, and I know many things we subs say are determined by what is happening at the moment. I suppose I could have phrased my question differently. In effect, I want to hear what other subs are saying in intense moments, or, simply watching TV. Perhaps I'm trying to stray too far into others' lives, but it's been a great curiosity of mine.

 

[myinnerslut]

I know we all have our favorite phrases, and I know many things we subs say are determined by what is happening at the moment. I suppose I could have phrased my question differently. In effect, I want to hear what other subs are saying in intense moments, or, simply watching TV. Perhaps I'm trying to stray too far into others' lives, but it's been a great curiosity of mine.

for the most part youll have to say what sems right or natural or proper to you. in the heat of the moment things are always diffrent. i usually refer to myself in third person ( your slut, your puppy, and your pet are the three most common ways i will refer to myself). when we are just relaxing and i want to share with Sir that i love him it is usually "your puppy loves you" or simply "yours loves you".

i do not speak in the third person as a rule or always, but it is one way that i feel comfortable refering to myself and talking to Sir.

im not sure if thats what you meant or not, hope it helped.


edit to add: the only reason the above things "work" in my relationship is becuase we have personal feelings and experiences that make these things relevent. it would be completly out of context for me to take someone else's pet name and use it becuase it would only end in confusion or embarresment.

 

[samsdolly]

It does, and I thank you. I look forward to more ideas and insights as I wait for my Sir. I've been impatient this week awaiting his arrival and I've been reprimanded and promised due punishment. Exciting as that may be, I am hoping for new ideas to further the excitement.

 

[shy slave]

I am missing something here

I don't knowingly have favourite phrases that I use with him.

We have conversations about all kinds of things sexual, non-sexual, everything.

If it is a time when he is purposely dominating me, either mentally or physically, then talk is not really on the agenda. Its hard to have favourite sayings when getting you backside beaten unless its 'Ow, no, please, no, that hurts'

I really don't know what you mean, is it me being dense?

 

[shy slave]

It does, and I thank you. I look forward to more ideas and insights as I wait for my Sir. I've been impatient this week awaiting his arrival and I've been reprimanded and promised due punishment. Exciting as that may be, I am hoping for new ideas to further the excitement.

Punishment?

Do you mean playful punishing or do you mean PUNISHED?

I ask because this could help my confusion as to what your orginal question was asking about.

He doesn't play punish me. If I have made an error the punishment is terrible, not fun, not enjoyable; it is meant to be a lesson learnt.
That has only happened twice.

If I have made one comment too many he has taken a crop to my ass, or his hand or any other implement, but that is not 'punishment' it is a reminder that I have gone too far.

Perhaps we come from different aspects in our relationships?, that would explain my confusion.

There are so many shades of BDSM.

I will read with interest to see what other suggestions people have for you about 'things to say'

 

[samsdolly]

No, you are right to question. I am being punished and it will not be fun. I know this. I doubt I'll be able to utter anything coherent, but when I can, I want to be able to give something fresh and unexpected. Maybe he'll fuck me then. I can hope.

 

[shy slave]

No, you are right to question. I am being punished and it will not be fun. I know this. I doubt I'll be able to utter anything coherent, but when I can, I want to be able to give something fresh and unexpected. Maybe he'll fuck me then. I can hope.

Maybe, it depends on him; not on what you say.

I have only been punished twice. Both times were horrible and I was not fucked afterwards.
He was clear about when it started and when it finished.

Once it was over it was just a relief to get back to normal.

 

[samsdolly]

I'm told I get ten minutes. I think my impatience this week will deny me that pleasure.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I know we all have our favorite phrases, and I know many things we subs say are determined by what is happening at the moment. I suppose I could have phrased my question differently. In effect, I want to hear what other subs are saying in intense moments, or, simply watching TV. Perhaps I'm trying to stray too far into others' lives, but it's been a great curiosity of mine.

i'm lost. i talk to my Dom like a human being, i dont think about what to say or how to say it. we talk like a 'normal' couple would. i don't have to ask permission to speak and maybe that's where i'm getting lost, if this is something you have to do. what do i say in intense moments? you mean like during a scene? usually 'yes Sir' , other times 'pleeeease Sir may Your whore cum for You, PLEASE PLEASE OH GOD PLEASE SIR' and then there are the times i'm screaming OW SHIT THAT HURTS, NOOOOO OWWWW......probably not what you were looking for but as i'm confused on what exactly you are talking about that's the best i can do *smiles*

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I am missing something here

I don't knowingly have favourite phrases that I use with him.

We have conversations about all kinds of things sexual, non-sexual, everything.

If it is a time when he is purposely dominating me, either mentally or physically, then talk is not really on the agenda. Its hard to have favourite sayings when getting you backside beaten unless its 'Ow, no, please, no, that hurts'

I really don't know what you mean, is it me being dense?

no, shy, unless i'm dense too..i'm utterly confused on what the OP is trying to get at. Master and i's conversations are no different than any other 'couple' out there....except maybe during a scene, but i don't have any favorite phrases i use to speak to Him. if i wanna say i love You, i say 'i love You' if i wanna say let's watch a movie, i say 'let's watch a movie' lol i'm really NOT understanding.....

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I'm told I get ten minutes. I think my impatience this week will deny me that pleasure.

you get ten minutes of what?? and you said that you think punishment is exciting?? yikes..not for me...i've been physically punished once, and it was far from exciting. it hurt, and i cried...hard. maybe i'm just tired but your posts are really really confusing me.....*shrugs*

 

[catalina_francisco]

No, you are right to question. I am being punished and it will not be fun. I know this. I doubt I'll be able to utter anything coherent, but when I can, I want to be able to give something fresh and unexpected. Maybe he'll fuck me then. I can hope.

I'm with shy slave in this. As for the idea if you come up with something fresh and unexpected you might get fucked, that just sounds too much like manipulation and being very fake, two of my pet dislikes in this lifestyle but which I see raging rampant in a selective group who think it is all about attention seeking, being naughty, playing a game, and just a momentary phase until they find something else they think is new and exciting and bound to shock their friends so move onto that. If you have time to ponder what and how you are going to talk to keep him entertained, not only is your focus way off, but I think you need something to occupy your mind and body with as it appears you have far too much idle time on your hands.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/186/376675788_f2e2be5814_t.jpg Catalina

 

[emotionskill]

I'm glad i'm not the only one who was lost when i first read this.

Perhaps samsdolly is referring to the handy dandy phrase reference guide, that all subs use when speaking to their Doms.

Samsdolly, there are no magical phrases that we use. It is not as if i could look at my Sir and say "fuck me blind, daddy". Believe me when i say that wouldn't go over well. But with some of the Doms on this site, they might love to hear those words.

Communication is very important in any relationship, but more importantly in a D/s relationship. Nobody can give you something to say to somebody we don't know.

 

[blklthrjkt]

Samsdolly, there are no magical phrases that we use. It is not as if i could look at my Sir and say "fuck me blind, daddy".

Those are similar words that I like to hear from my boy or sub du jour. My favorite phrase is, "you hit like a girl!" That means I can really let go and give them a really good flogging, spanking, singletail, etc. scene. I always have liked rowdy boys!

 

[shy slave]

I'm glad i'm not the only one who was lost when i first read this.

Perhaps samsdolly is referring to the handy dandy phrase reference guide, that all subs use when speaking to their Doms.

Samsdolly, there are no magical phrases that we use. It is not as if i could look at my Sir and say "fuck me blind, daddy". Believe me when i say that wouldn't go over well. But with some of the Doms on this site, they might love to hear those words.

Communication is very important in any relationship, but more importantly in a D/s relationship. Nobody can give you something to say to somebody we don't know.

The phrase 'Fuck me blind, daddy' should have a spew alert!!

I mean, have you ever had spunk land in your eye??

I am sure if you asked them for that, most men would oblige; intentionally or otherwise

 

[callinectes]

The phrase 'Fuck me blind, daddy' should have a spew alert!!

I mean, have you ever had spunk land in your eye??

I am sure if you asked them for that, most men would oblige; intentionally or otherwise

Never had it in my eye, but due to an unfortunate position it did go up my nose once. (not intentionally though)

 

[shy slave]

Never had it in my eye, but due to an unfortunate position it did go up my nose once. (not intentionally though)

LOL

Thats one hell of a sinus washout!

 

[samsdolly]

you get ten minutes of what?? and you said that you think punishment is exciting?? yikes..not for me...i've been physically punished once, and it was far from exciting. it hurt, and i cried...hard. maybe i'm just tired but your posts are really really confusing me.....*shrugs*

Sorry I've lost people in my original question. As for the 10 minutes, it was a reward for good behavior and efforts made to correct my impatience this week. Well, forget the question as I realize now it's pretty absurd of me to ask. You're all right. You don't know him and don't know the situation. Only my Sir and I know. But when I do say things, I'm finding that I'm coming across in ways that impart more irritation in Sir. I fully expected a great deal more punishment than I received last night, but probably because I kept my mouth shut, I got away with an easy scene. I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. Someone posted the "You hit like a girl" phrase.... that's a good one and one I'll probably remember and use, much to my ultimate dismay. We're a relatively new D/s couple, though both have had other D/s relationships. My last relationship was more intense and I was deprived of speaking except for uncontrolled utterances of fucking bastard and the like. I really don't think my Sir has unleashed all of his potential yet. I believe he is the type that is trying to keep me thinking that this is going to be ok and it's not going to hurt that much and then one day all hell's going to break loose. I want all hell to break loose now! So, I'll ask, or say things that will piss him off and be disobedient. Maybe that's what he wants. I'm not quite sure yet.
I'm rambling, forgive please. Thanks to all who pointed out my confusing question. I realize now only I will be able to answer it....

 

[samsdolly]

I'm with shy slave in this. As for the idea if you come up with something fresh and unexpected you might get fucked, that just sounds too much like manipulation and being very fake, two of my pet dislikes in this lifestyle but which I see raging rampant in a selective group who think it is all about attention seeking, being naughty, playing a game, and just a momentary phase until they find something else they think is new and exciting and bound to shock their friends so move onto that. If you have time to ponder what and how you are going to talk to keep him entertained, not only is your focus way off, but I think you need something to occupy your mind and body with as it appears you have far too much idle time on your hands.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/186/376675788_f2e2be5814_t.jpg Catalina

I agree. I do have too much time to think. And, if you read the previous post I just replied to, that's why. I'm wanting more than I'm getting. I'll have to ask for it. I don't feel like a sub all of the time when we are together. Thus my impatience and frustration. So communication will solve this and I'll keep you posted. Not sure when we'll see each other again, however.
Manipulation..... exactly right Catalina. Thank you for pointing that out to me.

 

[shy slave]

samsdolly, ten minutes of what?

It reads as if you will get ten minutes to talk to him within the whole week.

I hope I have misunderstood that. Ten minutes is not enough time to have any real conversation at all.

The way you have written about your Dom reminds me of someone I was talking to prior to meeting Andante. Everything I said was a problem, if it had developed into a relationship it would have been one I always felt off balance in. Some people like that but for me I need to know I have security in him. That means that no matter what he accepts who I am. He may want to have control over some things and make demands on me, but essentially he likes me. The former Dom had a way of ensuring everything had a 'no win' aspect built in. For example 'Ring me at 2pm' I would ring but his phone would ring at 2.00.32pm therefore I failed. Everyone is different, but if this is a new relationship for you, you may want to know more about his expectations before making a decision if he is the right Dom for you.

Of course if you think I am out of line, misunderstood or poking my nose where it is not wanted feel free to say so. I have no problem with that. There are just some things you have said that make me wonder if you are really ok about your situation.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Well... color me totally confused.

 

[shy slave]

*gets crayons out of box and colours ADR's ass red, blue & yellow with a touch of white*

Anything to help

 

[A Desert Rose]

*gets crayons out of box and colours ADR's ass red, blue & yellow with a touch of white*

Anything to help

Yes and as you know, I need all the help I can get. ;-)

I'm just so jaded... I don't know why we have to make things in life so difficult. Christ, life throws us enough bad hands without us making things harder for ourselves.