I am a 45 year old lady who has been married for 19 years to the same man. We have had numerous difficulties that I tried to make better within the past 7 years. One of which, was a totally sexless marriage. What I am asking for is someone who could lend an ear to offer support. I am seeing an attorney next Tuesday to file for divorce. I can't imagine how the next few months are going to be. It was the hardest decision I have ever made in my life and I feel like I have had a death in my family. Thanks.
support group for people going through a divorce
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Missingmeds
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Sweets, been there and done that. My pm box is open if you need anything. Even if it is to vent.
Dear mrsree, I'm 47/m/ 23 years married, this past January she decided to leave, it gets worse, lost everything due to her handleing reasons. The rest you only hear if needed, just so you know that it isn't always the man, and i know it's not always the woman. I'll listen and also i will write back if you so desire to go that route. I have another close friend same timing and she is the same as me, only about 2 months from the final decree. I understand oh to fresh the pains of the death you feel and many of the other feelings that are swirling in your head. The ones you are saying over and over that you can't believe. been there, am there. i also am getting an understanding for the feeling that haven't hit you yet , but will. I never in my life thought i'd be walking this path. support is what you need you got it. honest and straight forward.mrsree said:
you learn that life goes on and so must you. with all the crap in my life going on, My son gets married this Saturday. There is still rejoiceing to be had!
write or PM me. docsnore@yahoo.com will work just find too.
TC, Doc
PyroDemon
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Divorce is all to common. The reasons do not matter, even if it is a divirce you both agree on and is worked out perfectly it hurts like hell. Going thru that myself. But mine is a special case I guess and not as painful as others. Mine has lasted 20 years and after that long with the same person you will lose something even if you hate each other. I am sure you will find plenty of support and help here. If oyu feel the need you can always contact me and we can talk more . Good luck.
simply_barbara
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Wannabe
I'd like to add one more to the list ... but I can't bring myself to do it just yet. Nothing but fights for the past 18 months and I still don't want to let go. I know it will sound odd but congrats on having the strength to end a bad relationship and take care of yourself.
I'd like to add one more to the list ... but I can't bring myself to do it just yet. Nothing but fights for the past 18 months and I still don't want to let go. I know it will sound odd but congrats on having the strength to end a bad relationship and take care of yourself.
Justbutch
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Loss...
The love of my life moved out signifigantly enough, on 9/11 of this year. I have survived because of the massive overtime that has happened in my job... worked 70 hours last week. Don't really know what to do when the o'time quits... every where in the house that I look I see her... or more accurately, the hopes and dreams that I had for us... I am beginning to realize that I may have never really known her and perhaps put too much energy into fitting her into the image I had of her.
I seem to be in that fight or flight mechanism... don't know wether to stay or go. I dred going out into the dating world... but don't want a life alone... need to be held and cared for... but am bereft of any true affection to return....
Would love to find someone in the same condition who would just come over and hang out with no expectations on either of us... but there I go just dreaming again...
The love of my life moved out signifigantly enough, on 9/11 of this year. I have survived because of the massive overtime that has happened in my job... worked 70 hours last week. Don't really know what to do when the o'time quits... every where in the house that I look I see her... or more accurately, the hopes and dreams that I had for us... I am beginning to realize that I may have never really known her and perhaps put too much energy into fitting her into the image I had of her.
I seem to be in that fight or flight mechanism... don't know wether to stay or go. I dred going out into the dating world... but don't want a life alone... need to be held and cared for... but am bereft of any true affection to return....
Would love to find someone in the same condition who would just come over and hang out with no expectations on either of us... but there I go just dreaming again...
1SexyBiNympho
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Add another on to the List.
I am 28 and was married at almost 22. To a man who I thought was my dream come true. It was good for the first 3 years,untell he started messing around behind my back. I ended up leaving him after 7 years togeather and 6 years of marriage. Our Divorce has been final for almost 1 year as of next month it was the hardest thing I had to do but i figured i deserved more. And my ex burried the knife in my heart the day he got remarried after only 4 months of being Divorced the same month we got married.
But now his new wife is going through the samething I did. She is finally learning what i warned her about. All i can say is if u really want the divorce don't back down and stick to your guns. I know it will be hard but if i can do it u can do it.
And if u need to talk my pm box is always open.
Nympho
I am 28 and was married at almost 22. To a man who I thought was my dream come true. It was good for the first 3 years,untell he started messing around behind my back. I ended up leaving him after 7 years togeather and 6 years of marriage. Our Divorce has been final for almost 1 year as of next month it was the hardest thing I had to do but i figured i deserved more. And my ex burried the knife in my heart the day he got remarried after only 4 months of being Divorced the same month we got married.
But now his new wife is going through the samething I did. She is finally learning what i warned her about. All i can say is if u really want the divorce don't back down and stick to your guns. I know it will be hard but if i can do it u can do it.
And if u need to talk my pm box is always open.
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Hi MrsRee, I'm M, 50, and divorced. It's been several years now and there is sunshine at the end of the tunnel. I have basked in the wonder of singledom, and been very confused by it too.
Seems weird to "date" but that may be just me and where I live.
I think it's better to be single and happy, then to be in a relationship that I where could not trust my partner. Yes it means more work around the house and a tighter budget, but I no longer have to waste time or energy on wondering what my partner is doing to hurt me.
Write if you wish.
Good luck and fair winds.
be well, shy
Seems weird to "date" but that may be just me and where I live.
I think it's better to be single and happy, then to be in a relationship that I where could not trust my partner. Yes it means more work around the house and a tighter budget, but I no longer have to waste time or energy on wondering what my partner is doing to hurt me.
Write if you wish.
Good luck and fair winds.
be well, shy
Spenser41
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Sorry to hear
I am 49 and went through a divorce as well. I also went through a divorce recovery group too.
If you ever need to talk or you want some encouraging words and support, come to The Sheltering Tree in the Playground area.
There are many people there that will be there for you in support.
You can also pm me anytime.
Hugs and Kisses
I am 49 and went through a divorce as well. I also went through a divorce recovery group too.
If you ever need to talk or you want some encouraging words and support, come to The Sheltering Tree in the Playground area.
There are many people there that will be there for you in support.
You can also pm me anytime.
Hugs and Kisses
Justbutch
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shyly curious
At least you have your boats... I had a first generation fiberglass pocket cruiser sailboat...28', 8K displacement, full keel. I even lived aboard off and on for a couple of years... I wish I had the sanctum sanctorum it offered.... being rocked to sleep... watching the big rain drops splatter on the forward hatch over my bed... and knowing that it had to be serious enough to send out the Coast Guard if someone wanted to get a hold of me....sigh
At least you have your boats... I had a first generation fiberglass pocket cruiser sailboat...28', 8K displacement, full keel. I even lived aboard off and on for a couple of years... I wish I had the sanctum sanctorum it offered.... being rocked to sleep... watching the big rain drops splatter on the forward hatch over my bed... and knowing that it had to be serious enough to send out the Coast Guard if someone wanted to get a hold of me....sigh
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