Suggestions Needed

[QTPIEinNY]

Hello

I am sure that I can count on some help.

This started out when we were re-decorating our bedroom. We use to have a canopy over the bed and when we took it down, there is a large hook left in the ceiling.

Ever since then, we have left it there and my husband has commented on using it to be tied up.

My husbands birthday is in a couple of weeks and I would love to fulfill his fantasy but I am probably more on the shy side in the bedroom, but not unwilling.

I need some ideas

thanks

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

Move the bed.
and buy a sex swing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hawt!

 

[SweetErika]

I'm not clear on what kind of ideas you're looking for.

Ideas on how to tie him up?

Or on what to do once he's tied up? In this realm, are you looking for sexual ideas, or domination ideas, or...?

Have you asked him to elaborate on his fantasy? What does he envision happening once he's bound?

A general start would be looking for suitable ideas in The Blank Manual sticky (link). Without having any idea of where you two are hoping or willing to go with this, it's really difficult to be more specific than that. Our idea of a good time involving bondage probably isn't your idea of a good time, you know?

 

[littlebitshe]

Move the bed.
and buy a sex swing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hawt!

I SECOND that!!
Sex Swing was my first thought!

 

[Mr.G]

You Should

... be VERY clear on exactly what his fantasy entails.

First off make sure this is NOT a meat hook in the ceiling. If it is I'd check for false walls in your home. The previous owner was a serial killer.

Secondly COMMUNICATE. Best time to do that is snuggling or driving where he can't get away and you can pester him until he breaks and gives you a good answer. Find out what he's hoping for. What ARE his fantasies. Unless he is a complete weirdo you should be able to fulfill his fantasies without fainting or feeling he's turning you into a freak. Use YOUR imagination but you need guidelines or the outcome could be tragic.

ANother thought ... how much does your hubby weigh? If the hook was installed to hold up a bug net and you hang him from it most of your ceiling will crash down possibly killing both of you which will be embarrassing considering you'll likely be dressed as a NAZI DOMME COMMANDANT and he'll be trussed up like a hefer waiting to be branded.

Ok let's not go there either ....

 

[VelvetDarkness]

General ideas would include getting him to kneel on the bed and tying his hands above his head. That way he's all exposed for you. If you want, you could blindfold him.

If you've never tried bondage before then I'd suggest keeping it light. Use different sensations on his body like a feather or an ice cube. If you think he would enjoy it you could try some light spanking on his ass and thighs. Keep him aroused but tease him with it, maybe stroking his cock for a few seconds every few minutes.

Whether he is looking for domination or not, tying him up puts you firmly in control so have fun with it. Give him a safeword with which he can halt everything, a word that's unconnected to sex that won't be confused with anything else, e.g. 'red.' That way he can enjoy protesting a bit and say 'no' when he means 'yes' without you getting confused as to whether he's really having fun.

You can have fun getting him to serve you e.g. by standing over him and demanding oral sex, remember that you're there to get your own rocks off too so use the power exchange to ensure that you get what you want.

You can also ask him questions during the scene like 'do you want a spanking?' 'did you like that?' 'do you want more/harder/faster?' etc. There are ways of being guided by him without him taking the lead. Once you've figured out what he wants to get out of it and what he enjoys you'll be more confident about doing whatever takes your fancy.

Afterwards take the opportunity to ask him what he particularly enjoyed, how it made him feel, what else you could have done etc. People have different motivations for enjoying bondage. For some men it's nice not to take the lead occasionally and to have the woman be controlling and unpredictable. Others enjoy the submission of being restrained and/or enjoy painplay. Some are seeking to be debased and humiliated. Or any combination of the above.

The blank manual is a great place to start. Good luck with this.

 

[subwannabe]

One thing no one has really mentioned is to take a really good look at this hook and make sure it can sustain a fair amount of weight. If you actually tie him up to it properly it will exert several pounds of pressure on the area. You don't want to spoil the mood and then have to explain to the kids why an area of the ceiling caved in over your bed. There are actually much better ways to do bondage than tying someone to a hook in the ceiling, BUT, if the hook can sustain enough weight, it will be somewhat exhilirating to put it to good use - at least once anyway. Good luck.

 

[midwestyankee]

Do not, under any circumstances, start playing around with suspension bondage without the specialized knowledge needed to do it safely. You could easily injure your husband quite gravely this way and that's just not worth the risk.

The suggestions that VelvetDarkness gave were all good. If you want to use the hook, use it simply as an anchoring point for a long rope that keeps him in position somewhere that allows you to dominate him as you wish. But don't put any of his body weight on that rope or you'll risk all sorts of nasty surprises that you simply don't want. A broken ceiling will be the least of your worries if you do.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Do not, under any circumstances, start playing around with suspension bondage without the specialized knowledge needed to do it safely. You could easily injure your husband quite gravely this way and that's just not worth the risk.

The suggestions that VelvetDarkness gave were all good. If you want to use the hook, use it simply as an anchoring point for a long rope that keeps him in position somewhere that allows you to dominate him as you wish. But don't put any of his body weight on that rope or you'll risk all sorts of nasty surprises that you simply don't want. A broken ceiling will be the least of your worries if you do.

Yeah, I should have clarified that. I was thinking of the hook as handy for bondage where his weight is through his knees and the bed. I wasn't suggesting any form of weight hanging from it at all. I don't think that there needs to be if he gets the experience that he wants from it.

 

[mynameiskate]

Yeah, I was going to suggest a swing, too. lol.