Suggestions for fingering...

1) Make sure she's sufficiently aroused and lubricated.
2) Make sure your nails are cut and smooth.
3) Go slow. Start with one finger and see how she responds to different spots and movements.
4) Ask her if she likes what you're doing and to tell you what feels good.
5) When you get more advanced, you can try to find her G-spot, which is about 1/3 of the way up on the abdomen side of her vagina.

In my opinion, the biggest mistake you can make is being too rough too fast. Some men view this activity like pistons in engines...the faster and harder the better. If you don't know what you're doing, that can be painful, so be slow and gentle until you're sure she likes it.
 
My SO likes to be rubbed just above her clit, where her lips come together. After awhile I slide my finger down her slit and get it wet with her cum. I then slowly open her up and rub her bare clit. That really gets her flowing. I then move towards her opening and insert my middle finger up to the first knuckle. When she is really sloppy wet, I'll give her another finger.
 
I think it is more about rubbing the clit then putting your fingers inside her. Thats what i have found. Just make sure you change the diraction and dont rub it so hard that you are going to pull it off. Nice and soft and change up the speed. She will cum!!! Good luck
 
Personally, I'd say the most important advice would be to make sure that the two of you verbally communicate. Make sure that she tells you if she doesn't like something and maybe instructs you as to what may feel good, and make sure that you just try to make her feel as comfortable as possible. Don't go in determined to make her orgasm. Go in determined to make her feel good and to be intimate with her. If she orgasms, that's just an added bonus. If it doesn't work this time, there are always other chances. I didn't really like fingering when my boyfriend first started (we were both new to it), but now it's probably my favorite thing. Out of everything, I crave his finger inside of me (figuring that we don't have sex, or then I'd be craving something else). Good luck and have fun with it.
 
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SIC said:
I think it is more about rubbing the clit then putting your fingers inside her. Thats what i have found. Just make sure you change the diraction and dont rub it so hard that you are going to pull it off. Nice and soft and change up the speed. She will cum!!! Good luck

I agree, the clit is the most important part for cumming. But just concentrate on making her feel good. If you're inexperienced with this woman and you focus soley on the orgasm, you may be disappointed or she may feel so much pressure that she fakes it.
 
Re: Thanks, girls and guys

ShyMasturbator said:
(she said it felt better than anyting else she had ever felt),


Truly, there are no better words to hear from your SO than those!
 
Rub your index finger against the front of her vaginal wall (g-spot) in a motion like you are telling somebody to "come here". You can also simultaneously play with her clit with your thumb.
 
I find a lot of times that it has to begin very soft, almost as if you're not touching it at all, or through some material. I get much more turned on if a guy is rubbing me through my pants, or at least my panties, than if he starts off rubbing it directly. For most women, the most sensitive is the clit... I don't get a lot out of having fingers in my vagina (I find this odd because I love having a cock inside me, but I just don't think fingers are the same :D).

Oh, and don't be afraid to use lube. I can't express this enough! Some girls just don't get wet enough on their own for things to be enjoyable... and lube always makes things even better anyway! :devil:

What else... if you're into the idea, you could always add tongue. ;) And toys, vibration is always fun.
 
AV guy II said:
My SO likes to be rubbed just above her clit, where her lips come together. After awhile I slide my finger down her slit and get it wet with her cum. I then slowly open her up and rub her bare clit. That really gets her flowing. I then move towards her opening and insert my middle finger up to the first knuckle. When she is really sloppy wet, I'll give her another finger.

I love this advice, easy to follow .. this would work well for me as a starter .. Well Done

10/10

Stephanie:rose: :p :rose:
 
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