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[tastygroove]

Well, I've had a few posts here on lit and have read many many threads.

I must say, my first few days were VERY exciting...lots of different ideas, personalities and interests. It was great! And all the "regulars" on here offer you a warm welcome!

But, I will say this, you make it very hard for a "newbie" (as you refer to us) to get inside the circles that you long time literoticans have created.

In my opinion, there should be a forum JUST for "newbies". A chance to explore topics and talk to fellow newbies without trying to decipher references from umpteen weeks ago.

Just my opinion.

On a different note, I have read some posts that I found really sad....people getting hurt, insulted, used, etc...and I have to say this, cause this has been eating at me from day one.

"Folks....this is the internet....it is supposed to be fun and entertaining...when it starts to reak havic in your life or cause you pain in some way?....well....it's time to spend more time in the real world"


Peace love joy

 

[enjoyingitall]

I'm inclined to agree with you, tasty. I've posted here and there, expressed serious opinions, silly ones, sexual ones..tried lots of different threads..While those that have been here a while are quick to say hello and welcome, it is hard to connect with them. I feel as though I am intruding on some of the threads. My posts seem to fade quickly, rarely with a response to any thing I've written. They are a bit exclusive to newbies. The circles, as you aptly called them, are difficult to become a part of.
I'm quite sure they don't mean to be exclusive, but it does seem that way at times. Anyway, just thought I'd let you know that you are the only one with this opinion.

 

[tastygroove]

you mean....

NOT the only one? lol


Thanks so much for that reply...well said well put.

Glad to know I'm not imagining things.

Peace

 

[Jewelz]

I am not an "oldie" since I just joined in January....but I am a "regular" and I do have my own threads... But I have always tried to make every new person feel welcomed and most definately acknowledged them on my threads. I know how you feel about the social circles cuz I have a hard time fitting into some of them myself. Its a part of life, on or offline. I was new once and didnt have a huge reception either. I just plowed my way through and played. Life took a turn for the worse and I absorbed myself here. An escape (thats how my posts got so high in such a short time)...

Now to address the emotional issue. Yes, It is the internet...but the people I have gotten to know are very real and they are my friends. To me, they are a part of my real life. I want to know what is going on with them, how they are feeling and smile with them, cry with them, bitch with them, laugh with them. When pain is caused, its not a fun thing to deal with but just because it is the internet doesnt mean I should dismiss my human emotions. Im an emotional person and I am one of the ones that tend to get attached quickly, whether it be friends or something more. But they are REAL people behind those words. Not everyone does pressent the real them, I understand that, but for the most part, people are honest. And if you do get to know them personally, you are affected in all facets of your emotions. And just because one experiences pain or sadness from something that occurs on the internet, does not mean that they dont have a life outside of it. (unless they are me, cuz i really dont LOL)......seriously tho.....

I am a caring person. I welcome new friends. I get serious, I get real, I get funny, I get silly, I get wild, I let my hair down....but there are moments that I pin it back up again too.

Take care and hopefully you will be able to feel a bit more comfy and less excluded. But....psssttt....after all this time, there are many days where I dont feel like I belong.

 

[enjoyingitall]

NOT the only one? lol

Dang! Yes, NOT the only one.

Jewlez, thanks, nice thoughts there.

And I agree with you about the emotional issues. One never knows what others are feeling online. Very real and very lasting relationships form on line. It can be very much a part of one's real life. It can be fun, but it can certainly be comforting as well. I have some very special friends that I first met on line. We played and laughed and then we got to know each other. We support each other in our ups and downs. Also, a few years ago, I met someone that I thought was just going to be an online friend. We joked a lot, but then we realized there was more there than just joking around. He was at a place in his life that was very painful for him. I offered a friendly shoulder. Long story here..short version is ..we've been married for almost 2 years now. So, online emotions can become a very real part of your "real" life. I know from experience.

 

[Linedrive]

Nicely said Jewelz...one thing I always make sure to remember is that while it's the internet, there are still real people behind these avatars and posts.

Good luck breaking into circles, it can be hard.

 

[Jewelz]

Re: NOT the only one? lol

Dang! Yes, NOT the only one.

Jewlez, thanks, nice thoughts there.

And I agree with you about the emotional issues. One never knows what others are feeling online. Very real and very lasting relationships form on line. It can be very much a part of one's real life. It can be fun, but it can certainly be comforting as well. I have some very special friends that I first met on line. We played and laughed and then we got to know each other. We support each other in our ups and downs. Also, a few years ago, I met someone that I thought was just going to be an online friend. We joked a lot, but then we realized there was more there than just joking around. He was at a place in his life that was very painful for him. I offered a friendly shoulder. Long story here..short version is ..we've been married for almost 2 years now. So, online emotions can become a very real part of your "real" life. I know from experience.

Congratulations Im closer to alot more people online than I am in "real" life. And I would give anything to be geograpically desirable!! lol

 

[enjoyingitall]

Thanks!

Geographical issues can be a down side. We were on different coasts of the US. But, it was so worth changing locales.

 

[Cipher]

I'm not an oldie..but i can say that it was rough for me too in the beginning i was kinda like well damn..no one is nice on here and they're all rude..but now i've been here for 3 months and have been damn near everywhere on here and after awhile u begin to see the same people..like Jewelz..Lol I've seen her in posts i've posted on..went to her thrreads..saw her in passing..and I've always said hello and her with i..sometimes u need to be the one to make notice of the names u see over and over again and say oh hey i remember u from the other thread..how goes it?? and from there a friendship can be formed...not every one with hella posts is out to get the new guy...some are..and that just makes it easier for me to spot who to get to know..i've gotten angry with some of the ol'skoolerz and gotten my feelings hurt..but u know what...I can't let them run me off and shut me down...i just move along and post on what i see fit for my taste..I have realized that on the net, like in real life...some people are just not eachother's "forte"..u can even rub people wrong on the net..as sad as it may be..it's true.
I don't let it worry me...if i did...like u said..i'd need a break and snap back to the real world
I hope to see ya around

 

[Jewelz]

Thanks!

Geographical issues can be a down side. We were on different coasts of the US. But, it was so worth changing locales.

I wanna gather all my friends in one area LOL

 

[MissTaken]

Lit is a community

As with all communities, there is love, support, recreation and conflict. When people have posted together, im ed one another, talked on the phone and met for a period of time, there are times whereing one or the other gets hurt...angry...etc. It happens. It comes to the board. Other friends gather their wagon train in a circle and the thread or threads meander on for a period of time.

It is a community and cliques are made, grow or fizzle out.

It is a community wherein you can come in, post nearly anything and get a response. A problem always finds an empathetic ear. Good news always finds congratulations. Foolishness will either find playful posts or flaming sarcasm. It is what it is .

Oddly enough, I have made the same suggestion concerning a "Getting to know the ropes" board , some time ago. It can be quite overwhelming for people just coming in. I do believe that the personals board is the entrance way for many new folks and it is a great place to start. The posters at the personals board are kind, friendly and engaging with anyone interested.

We all come to lit for different reasons. Take it's uniqueness, it's wealth and leave the shit. That would be my best advice.

Welcome to the boards....enjoy and be well!

Miss T

 

[Jewelz]

I'm not an oldie..but i can say that it was rough for me too in the beginning i was kinda like well damn..no one is nice on here and they're all rude..but now i've been here for 3 months and have been damn near everywhere on here and after awhile u begin to see the same people..like Jewelz..Lol I've seen her in posts i've posted on..went to her thrreads..saw her in passing..and I've always said hello and her with i..sometimes u need to be the one to make notice of the names u see over and over again and say oh hey i remember u from the other thread..how goes it?? and from there a friendship can be formed...not every one with hella posts is out to get the new guy...some are..and that just makes it easier for me to spot who to get to know..i've gotten angry with some of the ol'skoolerz and gotten my feelings hurt..but u know what...I can't let them run me off and shut me down...i just move along and post on what i see fit for my taste..I have realized that on the net, like in real life...some people are just not eachother's "forte"..u can even rub people wrong on the net..as sad as it may be..it's true.
I don't let it worry me...if i did...like u said..i'd need a break and snap back to the real world
I hope to see ya around

Cipher is a rockin chicka You arent the only one who gets their feelings hurt by "old schoolers"......Ive had it happen recently...I wasnt acknowledged at all. But it only hurt for a second until I said, well screw you then!!! LOL......Im a half way decent person to be around, and if you dont wanna get to know me, fine. Ive tried to be kind and inviting...I have a huge heart and too much damn time on my hands!!!! (but i still manage to run my house and family)

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Lit is a community

As with all communities, there is love, support, recreation and conflict. When people have posted together, im ed one another, talked on the phone and met for a period of time, there are times whereing one or the other gets hurt...angry...etc. It happens. It comes to the board. Other friends gather their wagon train in a circle and the thread or threads meander on for a period of time.
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We all come to lit for different reasons. Take it's uniqueness, it's wealth and leave the shit. That would be my best advice.

Welcome to the boards....enjoy and be well!

Miss T

Sorry for the snip from your post.........BUT I must say....yet another extremely wonderful and insightful post by the lovely MissT!!

 

[tastygroove]

jewelz

I have read many of your posts....there are SOOOOOO many to read (lol) and you are more the exception than the rule. You seem like a wonderful person, who (according to what I've read) has had her share of ups and downs on lit.

It's wonderful that you care about your friends on lit...it really is, but that speaks more about you than it does the friends you have here.

Let me say this.....we all came to lit because in our own way, we felt different. We wanted things that our friends or family could not give us. We looked for acceptance, someone who would not judge us....not catagorize us.....right?

So, let's not forget that fact.

I have seen some major hipocrits on lits....not fair.

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god loves us all.....but he loves me most

 

[Cipher]

Cipher is a rockin chicka You arent the only one who gets their feelings hurt by "old schoolers"......Ive had it happen recently...I wasnt acknowledged at all. But it only hurt for a second until I said, well screw you then!!! LOL......Im a half way decent person to be around, and if you dont wanna get to know me, fine. Ive tried to be kind and inviting...I have a huge heart and too much damn time on my hands!!!! (but i still manage to run my house and family)

Yeah sometimes people forget that there's real people typing these words...and we do have feelings..but just like u...i said "screw u" altho ur alot nicer with words LMFAO!!
If it even come down to me only havin met 5 people..well hell..better 5 than none at all right??
I make the most of my time here..this is a hobby for me..comin on here to have fun and meet people from all over with my likes and even dislikes..at the end of the day..i go to bed the person i was with the same drive and determination.
I'm goin out tonight as this is my bday week I'll be partying all week until 5-11..LoL So when i go out tonight...I'll have a drink..and toast it to my friends at lit..and to my friends in the making!!!
Hugz n kisses to ya all!!!!!
Jessika <~~~~ and yeah that my real name dammiit!!! LoL

 

[Jewelz]

Re: jewelz

I have read many of your posts....there are SOOOOOO many to read (lol) and you are more the exception than the rule. You seem like a wonderful person, who (according to what I've read) has had her share of ups and downs on lit.

It's wonderful that you care about your friends on lit...it really is, but that speaks more about you than it does the friends you have here.

Let me say this.....we all came to lit because in our own way, we felt different. We wanted things that our friends or family could not give us. We looked for acceptance, someone who would not judge us....not catagorize us.....right?

So, let's not forget that fact.

I have seen some major hipocrits on lits....not fair.

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god loves us all.....but he loves me most

Thanks sweetie. I have had my ups and downs on lit.....but more UPs than downs My downs normally come from my so called real life. and i tend to bring them here...icky.....

and yes, your reasoning is correct

Pssttt again....sorry to have SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many posts to read *giggle* Im so naughty!

 

[Desdemona]

I agree, it can be difficult to be new here. I've only been here a few months myself and still find some of my posts ignored. It doesn't bother me any more though. I've noticed it happens to almost everybody. Have fun and join in. Pretty soon, you'll have made some incredible friendships. I know it happened to me. This is a good place most of the time.

 

[Cipher]

Re: jewelz

I have read many of your posts....there are SOOOOOO many to read (lol) and you are more the exception than the rule. You seem like a wonderful person, who (according to what I've read) has had her share of ups and downs on lit.

It's wonderful that you care about your friends on lit...it really is, but that speaks more about you than it does the friends you have here.

Let me say this.....we all came to lit because in our own way, we felt different. We wanted things that our friends or family could not give us. We looked for acceptance, someone who would not judge us....not catagorize us.....right?

So, let's not forget that fact.

I have seen some major hipocrits on lits....not fair.

Yeah unfortunatly, there's hypocrites everywhere..and it's not fair..but that's life..I make the most of MY life..because that's what's important here. In real life...when people rub u the wrong way..what do u do??? U hurt..u heal..u move on..onward is the only way i go. Don't sweat the small stuff..it's just not worth it sometimes.

 

[Jewelz]

Yeah sometimes people forget that there's real people typing these words...and we do have feelings..but just like u...i said "screw u" altho ur alot nicer with words LMFAO!!
If it even come down to me only havin met 5 people..well hell..better 5 than none at all right??
I make the most of my time here..this is a hobby for me..comin on here to have fun and meet people from all over with my likes and even dislikes..at the end of the day..i go to bed the person i was with the same drive and determination.
I'm goin out tonight as this is my bday week I'll be partying all week until 5-11..LoL So when i go out tonight...I'll have a drink..and toast it to my friends at lit..and to my friends in the making!!!
Hugz n kisses to ya all!!!!!
Jessika <~~~~ and yeah that my real name dammiit!!! LoL

LMAO!!!! well i can say things in a very mean manner.....believe me!! my kids here "fuck' more than they should!! lol

Woohooooooo!! Have a tequila rose for me.......pleaseeeeeeeeeee LOL.......be careful~

 

[Cipher]

LMAO!!!! well i can say things in a very mean manner.....believe me!! my kids here "fuck' more than they should!! lol

Woohooooooo!! Have a tequila rose for me.......pleaseeeeeeeeeee LOL.......be careful~

I will have one for ya!!! and for everyone else!!! LoL
Thanks for the wishes..I shall becareful

 

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[enjoyingitall]

Cipher...have an excellent birthday bash! I'll toast my dinner wine glass to ya later.

 

[tastygroove]

well....

you folks have turned me around....thanks.


I guess I was looking for more than "yeah I'll suck your (bleep) if you eat my (bleep)....can't believe I'm using bleeps on lit...lmao.

Don't mistake me for a prude, I can say cock, pussy all those wonderful words...and have...lol.

Thank you all for your feedback...I'm wowed...it's so real!

I guess I just needed to ask real questions to get real answers.

Thanks for your honesty boys and girls!

peace....LOVE and joy...amd MUSIC

 

[Cipher]

Cipher...have an excellent birthday bash! I'll toast my dinner wine glass to ya later.

Awww yeah!!!! LoL Now ur talkin!!!

Salut to everyone!!!!

**Kisses everyone the cheek**
( U know how latin women are..always kissin some dam body!!!!!!)

 

[Cipher]

Re: well....

you folks have turned me around....thanks.


I guess I was looking for more than "yeah I'll suck your (bleep) if you eat my (bleep)....can't believe I'm using bleeps on lit...lmao.

Don't mistake me for a prude, I can say cock, pussy all those wonderful words...and have...lol.

Thank you all for your feedback...I'm wowed...it's so real!

I guess I just needed to ask real questions to get real answers.

Thanks for your honesty boys and girls!

peace....LOVE and joy...amd MUSIC

**Talkin like zsa zsa gabor**
No need to thank me dahling...Glad i could be of service!!