Subs what is your Safeword

[popcorn2721]

When I was younger my former partner and I agreed on "orangepeels" to be our safe word. She could scream "oh, fuck", "stop", "ouch", "you bastard that fucken hurts" or anything else that came out during the torturous nights we had together. Fortunately we nerver had to use our safe word and trusted me to whip, bruise, bite, and bleed (yes bleed) her without fear of me actually doing long term harm or physical damage.......
Im wondering how far you as Litsters have gone, what are you wanting to do, and what is your safe word (if you have one)?

 

[snowy ciara]

I haven't "played" (I hate that term, it seems that it trivializes what goes on, but it works) as such, but A tells me tht should we get that far (and that She is planning on getting that far) it'll be my own name. Because it's something hard to forget and because it's something unusual. I mean, I suppose some people yell their own name during sex, but it is unusual.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

London Dairy.

It's a street name up here that I love, and that I always remember.

We've not had to use it yet, though.

 

[Netzach]

I'm not a sub but I have an amusing safeword when bottoming.

South Park Movie fans, mine's---

Bacon.

 

[serijules]

I simply use "safeword" now.

When playing with people other than D that is.

 

[Brinnie]

I just use an emoticon.

 

[JupitersGirl]

His name ... as opposed to "Sir".

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not allowed one these days.

Catalina

 

[Xelebes]

I just use an emoticon.

Best post by Brinnie yet.

Mine is of similar lines, bananaphone.

She'll have to stop to laugh before she can lay another one.

 

[sphynx's dragon]

We don't have one...She just listens to me and can tell when I'm closing on my limit. Every once and a while I have a moment of apprehension about this but oddly enough only when I'm sitting around thinking. Never bothers me while She's busy pushing my limits.

 

[h_i_s]

Not allowed one these days.

Catalina

We don't have one...She just listens to me and can tell when I'm closing on my limit.

What catalina & dragon said ... same here.

We have never used safe words. There have been times when i've needed my Master to "STOP" and during those times He has known without my having to tell Him with actual words.
During the very rare times when i've needed Him to stop IMMEDIATELY He has known either due to my 'body language', or physical reaction, and/or when i have screamed out, "OWW, STOP, WAIT" ... He knows by the tone of my voice alone that the need to STOP is urgent. That, plus the fact that i am normally quiet, and not very verbal during "play" (i dislike the term too, snowy ciara .... and i agree, it does work.) serves as a clear enough message for Him to realise that something possibly unintended and/or negative is happening that He may not be capable of knowing.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Tone of voice when saying stop or no. We haven't worked up to him needing a safeword. I want to avoid Red, Yellow, Green because I like to ask him about what he is wearing and what color his penis is. (Panic if he says green to that one!)

Reading this for ideas. Liked using his own name as possibility.

 

[Bandit58]

We use yellow and red, we've found green isn't necessary

 

[Rrrosyn]

We use yellow and red, we've found green isn't necessary

His breakable cuff/ankle/collar set is red. As are 2 floggers. Kinda don't want a word I might ask him for or he might say by accident because he can see it right there. Also don't want him to have to think to say it. Either way, right now he doesn't need one.

 

[AppleBiter]

Banana.

 

[popcorn2721]

In the group that I used to hang out with most folks tried to find something that couldnt be confused with "yeah, gimme more" so I guess Bannana and Orangepeels might be pretty common. I know there are more subs here... post up.

 

[His_pita]

Were not in real life yet, but I have been thinking on this one. I don't like the idea of having to remember a certain word cause I'm a bit forgetful and that could be really bad. I do like the idea of calling out his name. I don't call him by his first name so if I suddenly said in during a scene that should do it. Personally, I see myself more likely to yell out ouch in a way that says, STOP!

I will discuss this with my Sir.

 

[timberwolf05]

so far, yellow and red.

green is used if She switches toys and i find it delightfully fun...and i want to tell Her i am enjoying it..but usually i only grunt uh huh and or nod my head up n down...in a yes mode. or mumble thank you mistress, through my gag.


yellow means i am having some difficulty...like my backend is feeling really sore n tender and i may call red any second...and of course red is i can't take anymore right now this precise moment,..let me cool down and we can get back to it momentarily.......EXCEPT during punishment where there is NO safeword............!!!!!!!!!!!

wolfie

 

[landcruisergal]

standard old red and amber, for bothe my PYL and my pyl.
I like to K.I.S.S.
I havent yet, pup has used amber once...

 

[timberwolf05]

standard old red and amber, for bothe my PYL and my pyl.
I like to K.I.S.S.
I havent yet, pup has used amber once...

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k........i'm a nimrod. k.i.s.s.?????????/


wolfie

 

[FurryFury]

Keep It Simple Stupid = KISS

Fury

 

[AppleBiter]

Keep It Simple Stupid = KISS

Fury

I always heard "Keep It Short & Simple." *shrugs*

 

[landcruisergal]

I always heard "Keep It Short & Simple." *shrugs*

In reference to me and my boy, simple and stupid are more appropriate. lol

 

[shy slave]

He has given me 'yellow' and 'red'.

I still struggle with both.

Things are often 'almost yellow' or 'nearly red'

I thought I didn't do red.

But up against a wall arms and legs spread whilst he used a crop I discovered the word red isn't that difficult to say.

He 'reads' my body well, and often knows when i am reaching my limit even if I don't want to admit it.

 

[FurryFury]

In reference to me and my boy, simple and stupid are more appropriate. lol

What can I say, I grew up with people that thought sacasm was the highest from of fun.

They probably changed it. No offense was meant by me.

My Dad used to say things like, "Hey is your face hurting you?"


"No, why?"

"Cause it's killing me!"

Yep, tons of fun in the family.

On the other hand a good quip at the right night, might just get him to laugh and stop banging her head against the floor, a bad one might make he go at you harder.

I don't have a safe word but then I'm not really a sub.

I don't like titles, pigeon holes and such. Life is more complex than that.

On topic:

When we play (I don't mind that word, play, though maybe explore sensation would be a better term,) we are sensitive to the other's needs in such a way that safe words have not been incorporated. That's good cause I doubt I'd use one right now, while I'm the receiver. I doubt he'd ever go at it in such a way I needed to. I suspect if someone did, I'd be lost in sensation and not saying many words anyway. Grunting and panting are not words.

Yes I know we should do safe words. We just haven't yet. He doesn't want to. He trusts me to stop him if I feel like I need to. (Ha!) He trusts himself to stop before then. (Much more likely.) So, if he has all this trust, why does all this stuff scare him so much and if it does, why doesn't he want to use safe words? I dunno.

I feel like we are making some nice progress lately so I'm not complaining.

Fury