Subs vying for attention

[CharleyH]

Writing a story, and could ask in AH, but wanted to cut to the submissive chase so to speak. Here is a scenario:

Domme/Dom is not paying attention to the sub. In fact has not been for at least a week, if not more, and the non-acknowledgement is not part of the 'play', in fact, it is unusual, and so the sub knows something is wrong, perhaps feels the Dom/Domme is about to end the relationship.

What do you, as a sub do? Whether to get the attention of the Domme/Dom, or find out where you stand. For one example, and not exclusive: if your role encompasses servitude, would you simply try to do more duties to gain approval, to vye for attention? If your role is another, would you dare come out and ask?

I am trying to think from this perspective, and can't place myself in sight of anything beyond my own experience, which is too, agressive - so any insight from a sub, particularly those in 24/7, will be beneficial.

Thanks.

 

[Justina123]

Our 24/7 is based on communicate, communicate, communicate. I would choose a late evening, quiet moment when he is watching TV or otherwise relaxing, lock the door (we have kids), get naked, if not already, crawl over to his chair and put my head on his foot and await acknowledgement, then say, "Please, Sir, may I ask a question?" (If he doesn't acknowledge within a couple of minutes- or at the first commercial, ha!- I might try some foot kissing, toe sucking, etc.)

I've tried his once or twice when there was an issue I wished to discuss and it worked pretty well.

justina

 

[catalina_francisco]

I usually ask directly if anything seems to be amiss. Often I sense it is a sress issue which is not directly related to me, so is something I know from past experience will usually feel better for him once he talks about it, or simply just expresses his frustration. He values my input on many such issues and often asks my thoughts once the conversation has begun. If it is to do with us it enables discussion so we can work toward the solution and get past whatever the issue is. I may do it verbally, or through email or ecard depending on timing, the situation, or my instinct at the time as to what would be preferrable to him. I am not good at being silent and waiting until he says something, and also know quite often (if work or life related) he will keep it in unless I open the lines of coimmunication. I see it as part of my role to facilitate that process for him if he is suffering in any way.
BTW, nice to see you here CharleyH

Catalina

 

[CharleyH]

I usually ask directly if anything seems to be amiss. Often I sense it is a sress issue which is not directly related to me, so is something I know from past experience will usually feel better for him once he talks about it, or simply just expresses his frustration. He values my input on many such issues and often asks my thoughts once the conversation has begun. If it is to do with us it enables discussion so we can work toward the solution and get past whatever the issue is. I may do it verbally, or through email or ecard depending on timing, the situation, or my instinct at the time as to what would be preferrable to him. I am not good at being silent and waiting until he says something, and also know quite often (if work or life related) he will keep it in unless I open the lines of coimmunication. I see it as part of my role to facilitate that process for him if he is suffering in any way.
BTW, nice to see you here CharleyH

Catalina

ks

Somehow I knew your voice would fly, and thats the perspective I wanted. Thanks, Francisco, thanks, Catalina.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I usually ask directly if anything seems to be amiss. Often I sense it is a sress issue which is not directly related to me, so is something I know from past experience will usually feel better for him once he talks about it, or simply just expresses his frustration. He values my input on many such issues and often asks my thoughts once the conversation has begun. If it is to do with us it enables discussion so we can work toward the solution and get past whatever the issue is. I may do it verbally, or through email or ecard depending on timing, the situation, or my instinct at the time as to what would be preferrable to him. I am not good at being silent and waiting until he says something, and also know quite often (if work or life related) he will keep it in unless I open the lines of coimmunication. I see it as part of my role to facilitate that process for him if he is suffering in any way.
BTW, nice to see you here CharleyH

Catalina

I think that asking directly is the right course of action. Most anything less is passive/aggressive. You ask your Dom and offer a bended ear to Him. It is then His choice to respond or not and in His own time, to do so. As catalina said, it's a submissive's duty to be responsive and available to Him, for all things and in all things.

 

[catalina_francisco]

ks

Somehow I knew your voice would fly, and thats the perspective I wanted. Thanks, Francisco, thanks, Catalina.

Anytime....sorry about the typos.....a casualty of renovating I'm afraid. Now why is it he can whip me, beat me, spank me for hours and I rarely get any lasting marks and yet get me plastering walls and I am a mess of bruises and cuts from mishaps that didn't hurt near as much?!!

Catalina

 

[bunny bondage]

yeah, what everyone else said! talking is a good idea. sub or not, i refuse to give up my right to honest commucation.