Subs - a toy or a pet?

[evilernie]

Here I am again asking silly questions. For the dommes out there, do you treat your submissive(s) as a toy or as a pet? The main difference is that you care for pets and exert time and effort to train him/her to behave the way you like them to, while you will discard a toy if it breaks and replace it with a new one.

If you have subs right now, how much do they mean to you?

Please be careful with your answer, subs might be reading this and be overjoyed with your responses.

 

[WriterDom]

Why can't you have both? It's not like pets are immortal.

 

[Never]

evilE:
"The main difference is that you care for pets and exert time and effort to train him/her to behave the way you like them to, while you will discard a toy if it breaks and replace it with a new one. "

I'd suggest that if you break someone you're not much of a dom/me. Besides, what fun would this 'toy' be if they didn't behave the way you liked them to?

 

[Arden]

Here I am again asking silly questions. For the dommes out there, do you treat your submissive(s) as a toy or as a pet? The main difference is that you care for pets and exert time and effort to train him/her to behave the way you like them to, while you will discard a toy if it breaks and replace it with a new one.

If you have subs right now, how much do they mean to you?

Please be careful with your answer, subs might be reading this and be overjoyed with your responses.

evilernie, are you seeking information to assist you with your own journey in the D/s lifestyle, or for the composition of stories? There's a great library here relating to BDSM, where there are hundreds of threads that can give you a lot of insight.

I am not a Domme, I don't even play one on tv. I will say that 'pet' and 'toy' are often terms of endearment first. Not all pets are caged and/or well taken care of, not all toys are disposable. There is no perfect definition of the words pet and toy that fit every relationship. Some submissives are considered to be both.

Some of us might be happy to be called a 'fucktoy'... ready to be used sexually by our partners at any time they desire, simply because they want to at that moment. The feeling is nothing short of incredible. Pure lust and desire... it can be awesome.

Being a toy does not mean you are disposable. You can be loved, cherished and dominated as a toy, in the same way that some perceive a pet to be. It's all in the eyes of the beholder.

Edited for spelling...

 

[MissTaken]

If I had to chose a response, I would say a pet. However, I am not much into objectifying people except for purposes of communication, "MY" sub, "MY Dom."

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Subs are like Pokemon cards...collect them all!

 

[MissTaken]

joke in bad taste


Wanna trade?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

joke in bad taste


Wanna trade?

joke in worse taste

What have you got that I don't?

 

[MissTaken]

joke in worse taste

What have you got that I don't?

A Two for one special?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

A Two for one special?

LOL, enough!!

 

[Ebonyfire]

I say a sub is a toy You can pet (or not) as the whim suits You.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I say a sub is a toy You can pet (or not) as the whim suits You.

Or maybe a pet you can toy with?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Or maybe a pet you can toy with?

Yep. Either way, a leash works well,

 

[wolf2002]

Looks like the pets are winning...

Of course the idea of reducing your submissive to a completely passive fucktoy is very tempting (for both sides), but in the long run a pet's more fun... they usually have a mind of their own, may take initiative, bring the morning paper and chew on the furniture, which gives their Owner another good reason for punishment...

 

[evilernie]

Thank you very much. As of this moment, it's 8 to 0 in favor of pets.

Honestly, I was hoping for this answer. I just cannot believe that a dom will just pick a sub and keep them without any emotion involved.

Please feel free to keep this thread going if you think there is more things to discuss.

So for all subs following this thread, REJOICE - your doms love you.

 

[Never]

evilernie:
"So for all subs following this thread, REJOICE - your doms love you."

What about subs that don't want to be "loved"?

 

[evilernie]

I'm sorry.

Obviously, I have to learn more about this culture. You mean some people really do prefer to be treated like dirt?

All along I thought that subs do it for the sole reason that it pleases his dom.

 

[dragonlace]

definitely His precious toy

 

[dragonlace]

definitely His precious toy

just couldn't let there be no votes for the toys so i had to speak up ...and of couse i love to be played with

 

[Never]

evilernie:
"Obviously, I have to learn more about this culture. You mean some people really do prefer to be treated like dirt?

All along I thought that subs do it for the sole reason that it pleases his dom."

I've never noted an assumed male sub/Dom relationship.

I hear they do. I even hear some people like being hurt and not just because it someone else enjoys it.
Fucked up bunch, eh?

 

[evilernie]

Please pardon me for the gender mixup. No bias was intended.

 

[SierraMoon]

i am my Sir's precious pet, as my title states.... He cares for me, respects me and owns me, body and soul. If He chooses to use me as a toy once in awhile, i have no complaints

 

[FungiUg]

I voted for both.

 

[MissTaken]

I'm sorry.

Obviously, I have to learn more about this culture. You mean some people really do prefer to be treated like dirt?

All along I thought that subs do it for the sole reason that it pleases his dom.

Being treated like "dirt" in your eyes, may be being treated as a precious and important part of the Dom/me's life in the eyes of the couple involved.

Then, there are those, who enjoy subordinance and peace in giving over control, even and especially when it means they have no will of their own for periods of time...or 24/7.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I'm sorry.

Obviously, I have to learn more about this culture. You mean some people really do prefer to be treated like dirt?

All along I thought that subs do it for the sole reason that it pleases his dom.

I prefer to be treated in whatever fashion He chooses to treat me, because I know that He respects and trusts me wholeheartedly, as I do Him. He can treat me like a queen or have His slut take care of His needs. He can take care of His precious pet or humiliate and debase His fucktoy. They are all His decision, and are gifts to me and made possible by the D/s relationship that we have.

~anelize