Submissives: What does (fill in blank) from your Dominant mean to you?

[esclave_PP]

I was curious, as always what others think of the "gifts" or permanent type requests that get asked of us. Let me explain my curiousity, I have finally earned the right to wear my Master's mark on my body (his version of the lifestyle emblem (here as a link -- that's Master's forearm), as well as other things. (bounce bounce)

What do these items mean to you? What symbolisms do you attach to things like collars, tattoos, jewelry, etc...do you have something special that you share with your Dominants? If you don't, what do you wish you did have?

For me, next week I get the tattoo and piercings. For me, the tattoo is major as it symbolizes our committement to one another, and our deep bond and my absolute submission to Master without hesitation. The piercings are for pleasure of course but I think I read somewhere that they also represent slavery/servitude, not sure.

So...I open up the floor. It can be anything, not just a collar, what are your special connections? Anyone?

 

[catalina_francisco]

My cutting, and in the future branding and piercings. All is good and all are things I would never have done for anyone else I have been in a relationship with.

Catalina

 

[esclave_PP]

Excellent! I have been asked before in the past to be pierced and marked but I felt in those instances it wasn't time or the person wasn't my intended. I finally have found and been so lucky to find that person. Just wish it was earlier in both our lives this lifetime though

 

[h_i_s]

Below is a link to a photo of my Master's mark (also shows His collar for public wear, which is worn at all times except in private.... and, the 'O-ring'.), a tattoo at the nape of my neck, that He designed .... just for me. The tattoo is very symbolic of His ownership of me. It's a permanent mark on my body and part of it's symbolism is comparible to His ownership also being a permanent thing.

Besides the 'public' collar that i wear daily, i wear a 'private' collar (shown in the second linked photo below) to bed, during play, or whenever else he deems it as being appropriate... that He made himself. On the private collar, is a seperate gift of a padlock, which i wear attached to the 'O-ring'. The collars are of equal importance to me. They symbolize my submission to Him, as well as His ownership of me.

i also wear ring which He placed on my left ring finger many months prior to our wedding day. The day He gave me this ring, symbolized exactly what the collar, and the tattoo already represented. When we decided to marry, we both agreed that we did not want a big showy foo-foo-frilly type ceremony & reception. We wanted our wedding day to focus on our love commitment, and dedication to each other ...till death do us part .... nothing more, nothing less. We skipped the wedding rings all together, told the JP ... "We're not doing that part". i had forgotten about even needing rings. He and i discussed it afterwards, and i explained that i wanted a ring but couldn't stand the thought of the ring that He had given me months ago ... being replaced, and that our vows were promised the day i accepted THAT ring ... any other ring would be just a symbolism for OTHERS, and it seems not important to serve their needs .... this marriage is about US ... not anyone else. It's a simple silver 'O-ring' ... worth more to me than all the diamonds in the world. A week or so later, He handed me a tiny black gift box. Inside the box was a simple silver band in His size, in a style very similar to mine ... minus the 'O' .. of course. These rings serve as symbolisms of His ownership of me, as well as the dedication, love, and commitment shared between us.

All of the gifts which He has given to me represent the same. There are too many for me to post in one thread. And, i also wear a bracelet with the word 'Master's' on it, plus a silver bangle, and another ring on my right index finger. The gifts are important to me, and without them .. my dedication, and all that these things represent would be no less, nor any less important to me.

 

[esclave_PP]

That is lovely! I remember that pic -- is that an eternity collar?

 

[h_i_s]

That is lovely! I remember that pic -- is that an eternity collar?

Oh, hmm ... i don't know malcah. It's hollow & silver and very flexible, but strong. To remove it or put it back on, i simply twist it and bend & kind of pull it open. It has a small opening. The ends are not joined. i don't know where He found it. Sorry ...

 

[SueJ]

I guess I must be the exception, as even though I've been married to my Master for over 20 years, I don't wear an engagement ring, wedding band, nor collar (nor any 'marks'). 'Just can't stand jewelry, piercings, tatoos, etc. and honestly, I feel plenty "owned" without it! lol

 

[sphynx's dragon]

Well I have my collar as pictured below. Although I cannot wear it all the time as I cannot wear it or anything similar to work. But it is part of my welcome home from Her that She puts it back on me. Kinda neat actually like I'm reaffirming my submission to Her everyday. Anyways, She also had my ear pierced a couple of months ago seeing as how it is easier for our families to remain less than fully appraised as to our lifestlye, more Hers than mine as some of Her family is over deeply religious. So this way even when it is decided I shouldn't wear my collar I am still wearing a mark of my submission to Her, albeit an unobstrusive one that is easily mistaken for something else.

 

[esclave_PP]

These are all great and Sue, you don't have to have anything on or physical -- could be emotional -- anything that is special between the Dominant and submissive. I like hearing what everyone has or is doing with one another. Every one is unique and special

 

[graceanne]

K wants to get me a collar that I can wear all the time. The problem is that we're working on a budget and I'm allergic to most materials. If it's something I'm going to wear against my sking 24/7 it has to be sterling silver, gold, or platinum. Anything else and I get a nasty rash. It also has to be somethign that's not real obvious, since we REALLY don't want our family and friends to know.

Also, as soon as we get the money, and the go ahead from my dr's, I'm gonna get both my nipples piered.

 

[serijules]

My first collar she gave me when she officially collared me was a simple red leather collar with a brass plate engraved "Property of Dawnie" and the date of my collaring. However, the size of the collar ran small, and it didn't fit. The day that she gave it to me...that night she had to work, and I took the collar and a knife and carved a hole into the very end of the leather to make it fit. A tight fit, but it fit. She was so proud when she came home and found I had made it fit, although i didn't put it on...just fell asleep with it in my hands.

Later, she got me the same collar the next size up, in burgundy. I am not allowed to take it off without permission (nor put it on myself) and she determines when I wear it.

I later got another collar identical to the first one, and now we use those for ankle cuffs. All of them have special meaning to me, and I immediately fall into a deep submissive state when she puts it on me. I love when i am allowed to wear it.

For my everyday collar, i wear an italian charm bracelet with dolphins on each link (her favourite animal). It only has one other charm on it other than the dolphin links...a gold D. I never take this off...not to shower, not to swim, never. It has been on my wrist since the day I got it. When she first gave it to me, the edges and dolphins were gold tinted...now it has all faded to the same silverish colour of the charm links, except the D is still gold. I find this very symbolic...as we became more comfortable with one another, as time took our relationship to new levels, the bracelet has aged as well. Broken in. Tamed. Like me.

I have a hard time with things on my wrists...I even wear other italian bracelets sometimes and they annoy me, and watches. I have to take them off after a few hours. But I don't even notice this bracelet anymore, it's simply a part of me.

She has given me two pairs of garnet earrings as well, and I always wear at least one of the two pairs, or both. She calls me her garnet and has since the first time we met, years and years before she collared me. I love wearing things she has given me. It reminds me of how owned I am. Not that I ever forget.

I have also gotten permission to get her mark on me....I have an appt at the end of the month to have 'Her jewel" in chinese characters down my calf in a garnet to black gradient. I am very excited about this mark...i have been longing to wear her mark since she collared me, and I'm very proud to have earned that. The symbolism of being completely owned by her is very powerful, and not something I take lightly in the least. There is not one else I would do this for, but for her, I feel nothing but pride and longing to see her favourite nickname for me etched in my skin.

 

[Her sissy slave]

meanings?

for me, as a male slave?

it should mean i am finally wanted and needed. that some One has found me worthy.

but it is not always the case, since some of us out here carry tattoos and the like, from former Owners.

i pray that my new Goddess will keep me permanent.

thanks

 

[SueJ]

These are all great and Sue, you don't have to have anything on or physical -- could be emotional -- anything that is special between the Dominant and submissive. I like hearing what everyone has or is doing with one another. Every one is unique and special

Malcah, thank you for this. It sounds like you understand where I'm coming from. Yes, I would say that the routines, such as my nightly preparations for Him, remind me on a regular basis that I am owned. Those I would not want to be without. For us it is indeed our actions, rather than visible symbols, that bind us. (He does choose to wear a wedding band.)

 

[Quint]

Well, I didn't want to make a huge deal since we don't have the date set yet, but T proposed to me recently.

We had the ring custom-made. The metalwork is a blend of rose and yellow gold; this style of work is called "mokume gane," which is japanese for woodgrain (fun fact: they used to make swords with this technique). I chose my ring to be made of this style partly because of the aesthetics, but also because T has always embodied a force of stability and growth to me, like wood.

The stone I found on eBay. Fire is my favorite color and so I found this spinel which looks like pomegranate in the sun; it's amazing. This stone represents me at my best, firmly embedded into the metal.

We're probably going to have the underside engraved with a special word to us before the wedding.

 

[SueJ]

Congratulations, Quint!

 

[Seduce]

Well, I didn't want to make a huge deal since we don't have the date set yet, but T proposed to me recently.

We had the ring custom-made. The metalwork is a blend of rose and yellow gold; this style of work is called "mokume gane," which is japanese for woodgrain (fun fact: they used to make swords with this technique). I chose my ring to be made of this style partly because of the aesthetics, but also because T has always embodied a force of stability and growth to me, like wood.

The stone I found on eBay. Fire is my favorite color and so I found this spinel which looks like pomegranate in the sun; it's amazing. This stone represents me at my best, firmly embedded into the metal.

We're probably going to have the underside engraved with a special word to us before the wedding.

Congratulations

Very lovely ring too.

 

[Quint]

Thanks! <--------very happy Quint

 

[shy slave]

We have talked of branding but have agreed that it is some way in the future.

We are talking of having a tattoo put on me as a symbol of what our relationship represents. At the moment the actual tattoo design etc is private, but once completed I may post pics of it.

We do have some special ways that are unique to us.

He likes the webcam to be on when we are talking by IM or phone, not for sex stuff but simply so we can see each other.
It helps to understand the mood and emotions behind the words, almost like being in the same room (but sadly without being able to touch each other)

We talk on the phone every night, his is the last voice I hear before falling asleep.

He has a certain tone of voice that makes me instantly stop teasing and focus on his words and actions regardless of where we are.

And the way his voice drops and he calls me 'his girl' is a feeling beyond being able to explain.

When we are together its easy to sit in the silence and enjoy the physical presence of each other, without words or actions.

 

[esclave_PP]

Congrats Quint and what an amazing ring!

 

[esclave_PP]

Malcah, thank you for this. It sounds like you understand where I'm coming from. Yes, I would say that the routines, such as my nightly preparations for Him, remind me on a regular basis that I am owned. Those I would not want to be without. For us it is indeed our actions, rather than visible symbols, that bind us. (He does choose to wear a wedding band.)

You're welcome! I happen to love routines, or having things that are special and private between us that we only know about. It is all the little things too...gosh, I think that opens up a whole new slant too -- body preparations...how many of us here do special body preparations for our dominant every day? Every night? What are your daily rituals?

 

[sunfox]

Quint, congratulations! That's a gorgeous ring, as well.


In answer, I don't often wear any trappings of submission, other than being bound and the like.. I do wear an engagement ring and a wedding ring. The engagement ring is a princess cut diamond in a cathedral platinum setting, and the wedding ring is a celtic pattern in titanium. He wears a titanium wedding band. I think the strength of both metals speaks of our strength both apart and together... and I'm sure the princess cut speaks for itself.

Rituals are more my thing.. he rubs my shoulders before bed, because I have so much trouble with them and they're usually painful by the end of the day. It relaxes me and soothes me, and reminds me how much he loves me and cares for my well being. I like the way he'll tell me during the day what he plans to do to me in the evening, and the tone of voice he says those things in. I lay out things he'll want in the morning, so he can easily get them and remember them.. he's forgetful left to himself. We take time to do things alone together at least once a week, so we can always be a pair, and not just parents.

It's the little things that I appreciate.

 

[Killishandra]

We don't have many rituals yet... No collars or other physical signs of ownership either, although I do look forward to the day I am collared. To me, that is the transition from sub to slave... But I know it is quite a bit in the future, as we have alot to show and learn about each other before that significant occasion. We've discussed daily rituals as well, and although we have but a couple (and only while in person,) we both agree that more will develop over time.

Sometimes the distance between us and the lack of outward signs of submission make me a bit sad, but I try my best to be patient, knowing full well that these things will come with time. We've been together for only 3 months, and only 1 of those has been in person.

I certainly look forward to the future, and all that it brings. Reading about others' varied experiences in this regard is interesting.

PS: Quint, congratulations, and the ring is beautiful! I've never seen that style of metalworking before.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Congratulations Quint....you have both travelled an interesting path together and I am sure the journey will continue to take more tantalising and challenging curves.

Francisco & Catalina

 

[sphynx's dragon]

Quint...That's a kickass style! I've never seen anything like that metalworking! Awesome!

 

[babiesmiles]

Congratulations Quint .