Submissive

[LadyOnyx1701]

Looking to go a bit further into my fantasies of bondage and being a submissive for a dom. Any advice or other is greatly appreciated

 

[whistling_toad]

I would love to discuss this with you. Please send me a private message to discuss further.

 

[MeekMe]

Advice: Beware of anyone looking for private messages from you that want to teach you, "train" you or otherwise want you to immediately submit to them. They're usually wankers looking for easy cyber sex/nude pictures.

Check the stickies at the top of the board for resources and info. General questions like this are hard to answer so if you have specific questions we'd be able to help you more.

There are some threads open right now in the first page that deal with similar topics. Maybe read those and see if there's anything that might be helpful to you.

 

[YouCanCallMeDaddy]

How super exciting to find yourself looking to move into this wonderful and strange world. MeekMe is absolutely right, you have to be exceedingly careful now, especially as you take your first steps into this world. We could talk about the resources to check and that people are just looking to exploit you but that was handled well by the aforementioned MeekMe and you should certainly look those things over. What really super matters the most right now is learning to ignore anything that seems out of place with the throngs of potential suitors about to beat down your door. They're going to as soon as you authorize private messages and it can get messy.

The best advice then, is to tell you to just stop, breathe in deep, and know that this has got to be for you. If you would like to talk more about it, please feel free to message me. I won't try to hassle you into anything at all but I'm more than happy to help guide you down whatever your next step is.

 

[malefica]

Local events known as munches are what I would recommend for most individuals new to BDSM. Being mentored is all fine and dandy, but it takes practise and a strong gut instinct to be able to recognise the 'twue Doms' from someone who is genuinely concerned with educating you on the finer points. Munches are generally run by well-known local individuals to the scene, who can be approached with even the silliest-sounding of questions. Some munches also have 'newbie times', which can be anywhere from half an hour to an hour of just the newer members in the area - this allows time to get comfortable with the setting and situation, and to talk to people just as new to it as they are.

Don't be afraid to ask questions, no matter how silly they might seem.
Don't run before you can walk - 'sub frenzy' will only lead to problems.

 

[hotsweetdesire]

Local events known as munches are what I would recommend for most individuals new to BDSM. Being mentored is all fine and dandy, but it takes practise and a strong gut instinct to be able to recognise the 'twue Doms' from someone who is genuinely concerned with educating you on the finer points. Munches are generally run by well-known local individuals to the scene, who can be approached with even the silliest-sounding of questions. Some munches also have 'newbie times', which can be anywhere from half an hour to an hour of just the newer members in the area - this allows time to get comfortable with the setting and situation, and to talk to people just as new to it as they are.

Don't be afraid to ask questions, no matter how silly they might seem.
Don't run before you can walk - 'sub frenzy' will only lead to problems.

Absolutely agree with this. Fet Life should have boards on munches to find one near you.

 

[kittiGoddess]

Absolutely agree with this. Fet Life should have boards on munches to find one near you.

AVOID fet Life like the plague. bad bad bad place. full of fake Doms, really not safe

 

[CutieMouse]

AVOID fet Life like the plague. bad bad bad place. full of fake Doms, really not safe

Fake is in the eye of the beholder. 90% of the men I've met who identify as dominant, haven't been compatible with what I'm looking for in a power-based relationship. Does that make them fake dominants? Does it make me a fake submissive? Or does it simply mean we're looking for different things in a relationship - no harm; no foul.

Also, Fet isn't a dating site; it's a kinky version of Facebook. (Great resource for networking/etc; not necessarily for dating/long term relationship.) How exactly are words on a screen worthy of "ZOMG danger!!!"? Seriously? Anyone who isn't capable of using the common sense God gave a duck, when interacting online... Isn't mature enough to be online in the first place - especially if kink, power and sex are involved.

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

Fake is in the eye of the beholder. 90% of the men I've met who identify as dominant, haven't been compatible with what I'm looking for in a power-based relationship. Does that make them fake dominants? Does it make me a fake submissive? Or does it simply mean we're looking for different things in a relationship - no harm; no foul.

Also, Fet isn't a dating site; it's a kinky version of Facebook. (Great resource for networking/etc; not necessarily for dating/long term relationship.) How exactly are words on a screen worthy of "ZOMG danger!!!"? Seriously? Anyone who isn't capable of using the common sense God gave a duck, when interacting online... Isn't mature enough to be online in the first place - especially if kink, power and sex are involved.

I see a lot of people saying Fet is evil.. but as you said, it is all about how you use it. If you are looking to meet someone, you should take the same precautions as you would in the vanilla world.

Back to the thread topic.. do a lot of reading, figure out what you like and do not like, or at least what you are curious about and what you absolutely have no desire to do. Do not rule out things if you have not tried them (other than things that may be obvious like pee/scat/animals/illegal things)

 

[sexnovella]

Endless possibilities

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