Submissive 'Thought for the Day' Calendar 2007

[chris9]

Here's the link to last year's calendar, though we never got to December in it. I hope making the calendar is not a Mod thing, a privilege for Catalina.
I found a post I wanted to put into it, so I went ahead and did it myself...

I'll quote Catalina's words from the opening of last year's calendar:

For our newer posters, the idea is each day someone picks a post they have thought had something good to say, written by a submissive/slave, traditionally picked by a sub/slave (male or female)....quote it in the calendar (crediting the poster who wrote iit)with a link to the thread where it is found. If anyone wants to comment on what has been said, we encourage the comment to them be placed in the original thread as opposed to the calendar. Can be fun and can also be a quick guide to what has been said by various posters on the board...which reminds me, it is quotes from this forum, not other sites or forums. Enjoy.

 

[chris9]

January 1st - words of FurryFury

There have been quite a few threads on this but as you said most of them don't give many specifics.

If you have a willing partner as far as trying things and it sounds like you do than that will take you far.

However if he is simply not, at his core Dominant or submissive, which ever you are wishing for, well, it can only go so far IMO.

That is where I'm at right now. He is not dominant in the bedroom. We are both submisive there though we can both take charge and even enjoy doing so from time to time, we prefer not to. Which often leads to less scenes and less sex than we would both like.

I've discussed some specifics of what I've done in many of my threads such as:

Priceless:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=398358

The Topping From the Bottom Poll

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=399290

OMG!!! I was just looking through the library and MY thread is in it! Wow!

Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy! Whoo. Okay, calming down now.

And other threads I've started or contributed too most of which I can't seem to find other than my own such as.

So how did we start moving from a long term vanilla into kink? Well, IMO we were always kinky but we did not practice scenes or Power Exchange on a conscious level.

He had a strong sex drive and hid things because he wasn't sure what I'd do about it.

I had a lot of baggage from a prior relationship, was extremely insecure, had a big sex drive but was highly stressed and touched out from being a stay at home mom.

One day I found some time for ME. That lead to online role play (non sexual.) Which in turn lead to cyber (sexual.) Which opened up my conscious mind to Power Exchange and communicating about sex as I never had before not to mention making my libido go up about 500%.

Suddenly I was discussing things that I'd been waaaaaay too shy to discuss with him before. I had to find ways to do this because it wasn't a comfortable thing. Sometimes it was talking in the car so we weren't looking at one another. Sometimes it was sending transcripts and e-mails.

I did not pressure him. I was careful to make sure that he had the power to stop any thing at any time. I made sure he knew his happiness was the most important thing to me.

At first he HATED the idea of spanking me or hitting me in anyway. To a large degree he still does. What he does like is how happy it makes me. Nothing and I mean nothing can help my outlook on life or mood the way a good spanking or beating can do.

I still consider our relationship egalitarian. I like to give back to him as much as he gives to me. We will I believe never have a true D/s relationship. He doesn't want one.

I'm a fair minded person. If he does something for me I like to do something for him.

Thankfully he feels the same way. We both want to make the other person as happy as we can given who and what we are.

So what we do a lot is try things. In the spirit of love for one another and fun.

I do often find myself focusing on what I know intrigues him and not what does me. It's a default thing that often surprises me. I do have my wants and wishes too.

I will say when I spanked him and he found it sensual he finally was able to see how a spanking didn't have to only hurt and relax with giving it more to me.

I will say that when I tried anal sex with him and it felt incredible I didn't blink an eye that he wanted to try it too.

Learning ropes is an ongoing thing for me. He is very escape-ist when I want him to be more like me, about the sensual instead of some game of see what I can do, you though you had me tied up na na! LOL. The first time I tied him up, he was ALL about showing me how fast he could escape.

That totally hurt my feelings. I was doing all these things the bring sensation to him, things that would have be wonderful to me but he is not me. He made me feel totally like a failure with his escape routine and inability to focus his mind where I wanted.

When we talked a few days later, after I wasn't too pissed off to talk I learned it was for him one of the best nights of his life. That took a bit of the sting out of it. But it surprised me that my ego got into the mix on something I thought I was only doing for him. The next time he was good about not playing that game and paying attention until I gave him the go ahead.

I have more thoughts but it occurs to me that this may not be the sort of thing you are after. If not I apologize.

Fury

Said in Transforming a Vanilla-ish to a D/s Relationship

 

[FurryFury]

*blushes*

Thanks Chris!

Lord, I so should have edited that more!

LOL.

*hug*

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, let's hope this one gets finished!!

January 2nd - words of Bandit58

"I just found it incredibly frustrating. And after Master and I had met and made plans for me to relocate, it was both frustrating and depressing. I didn't feel it was a form of submission I just felt impatient for the time to pass until we could be together, and even though I was busy organising the move the time seemed to pass so slowly

I've been in 2 LDRs, one vanilla and one with Master. Most of the time was spent waiting. For them to come online. For the phone to ring. For the time to pass until we could meet or be together. I did enjoy chatting online and phone, and the time together although short was wonderful. But most of the time I was alone, and I hated it.

I don't think I could do it again. "

Distance Domination Thread

 

[chris9]

We're behind already

January 3rd - words of babiesmiles
I am and consider myself completely adult under all points of view , and most of the time a tough one, both in professional and everyday life .

That's why I don't feel myself deminished in any way if occasionally and sometimes more often my Master likes to be called Daddy with all the consequential stuffs . On the contrary I truly enjoy it.

For us it doesn't have any incest connotation at all , it is completely parted from every father- doughter dynamic and from every conscious age roleplay .

But as I have rather childlike features , an innate lil princess attitude ( ok people .. free to cry havoc and shoot on me but I can't help it !!!) , I am of small size and with a (apparently) vulnerable and harmless appearance Master feels it natural to assume that Daddy ( meant as old and wise caring guide) attitude with me . Add to it we have some years of age difference and I really use to wear ponytail in my spare time and you will have the answer .

It is unquestionable it has lot to do with the caring and nurturing side of the relation more than any kind of roleplay, cause in every relation I have had (all vanilla ones before him ) this protective side has always been a strong component of them.

In fact even in this moment while Master and me are passing a quite difficult time trying to reset our relationship and ourselves back, after a serious clash we had a few weeks ago , I feel he still protects me, he cherishes me , I feel I can lean on him and rest , never derogating from my being an aware grown up , but allowing myself the exquisite , heady , naughty , cheecky luxury to put down the gun and to be simply his honey little girl .

But that is a very personal point of view .

Why Daddy?

 

[chris9]

January 4th - words of FurryFury

I love the whole Daddy Dom thing. At least the idea of it that I have in MY mind. I can't speak to anyone else's idea of it. The idea that you can totally trust him to take charge, take care of, to love and cherish you.

The idea of being put over his lap and spanked is delicious to me. Also I like the idea of being cuddled in his lap. Or him brushing my hair because he wants to would be very hot to me. These are all wonderful images to me.

Am I an adult? Hell yes. I take more responsibility and am more in charge than most of the people around me seem to be. I never forget that. I would fight letting go of certain things. Others I would enjoy letting go of to someone I trusted.

Do or did I want to fuck my Dad? Maybe. Certainly it seemed like everyone else did. LOL. I turned him down though and ordered him out of my bed. I did fuck him in my dreams after he died. That to me is a separate issue however, one not quite resolved but separate from the whole Daddy Dom issue.

Have I age played or incest played? Why yes I have, here and there online. It's not my thing but it can be fun. Again, this to me is a separate issue from calling a Dominant, Daddy.

What feels right to you? Calling him that (whatever it is) as long as it's a loving and respectful term that you both understand and like the dynamics of is all that matters. If the rest of the world doesn't get it or want to use that term, that's fine too. It's not about anyone else. It's about two (or more) people and what they want. It's about what they feel is the right term for them.

I like being called little girl at the right time and in the right way. Ditto Princess. I believe deep inside of each of us is a little girl or a little boy (for that matter I believe that inside the oldest animal is a baby whatever) that still has needs and possibly repatriations to be taken care of. I think at least on a subconscious level a great deal of why we pick who we do and what goes on in our relationships are about that. When we find someone who can do that for us, on a conscious level, who wants to do that for us, why, that to me is a magical and blessed thing.

Fury

Why Daddy?

 

[babiesmiles]

Thanks Chris

 

[catalina_francisco]

January 5th - words of shy slave

"When we are together he chains to the bed using a choke chain, padlocked to a longer chain. The padlock goes through both rings and the chain does not go through either ring, so I cannot actually strangle myself in the night.

I found that the chain rattled on the side of the wooden bed each time I moved and it woke me up throughout the night. Ended up putting a towel down the side of the bed and the chain is now silent ~ Bliss"

Choke Chain

 

[catalina_francisco]

January 6th - words of lil_slave_rose

"it was a great read for me as well, as i was 'nilla when i met P, He introduced me to this wonderful world *girns* and it was great to read over the questions and responses and take myself back to that time when i had a hard time being called 'submissive' and most of all 'slut'. it also reminded me that Master had alot of work with me to get my mind into the submissive mindset. i've always been 'submissive' but didnt know it had a name, really let alone a whole 'lifestyle' in which to direct the energy."

Loving Relationships in D/s and The Challenge of Redirecting the Vanilla Mind

 

[chris9]

And I even found a post to put up for today You're too fast, Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

And I even found a post to put up for today You're too fast, Catalina

LOL, well can always work in advance.

Catalina

 

[chris9]

January 7th - words of catalina_francisco

LOL, though I love the choke chain used on me, for us it doesn't make me feel like a puppy as it isn't used in that context. Guess we are just boring and keep our activites simple in terms of human adult though enslaved and at times asked to do things which may step outside mainstream behaviour but still in the context of being a human being doing such things more so than roleplaying another being. These days I have enough difficulty remembering the human behaviours I am required to do without adding in another persona and all that comes with it.

Catalina

Choke Chain

 

[catalina_francisco]

http://home.scarlet.be/~gs178596/angels/angelblue.gif Sorry, but needed to put this gem in here.

January 7th - words of the_captain's_wench

"Lord knows I've changed myself for men before. But lemme tell you, if they don't want who you are, they're not likely to stay with who you become. If you aren't true to yourself, then you can't be true to some one else and if you try to change for some one you are likely to resent them for it.

Now I'm not saying that there isn't some give and take in relationships, and there are some things that I have toned back on because it wasn't pleasing to my Love (anoyed the fuck out of him is more like it), but at the same time he understands that these things are a part of who I am, and so allows my little out bursts from time to time."

Puppy Play

 

[catalina_francisco]

January 7th - words of catalina_francisco

LOL, though I love the choke chain used on me, for us it doesn't make me feel like a puppy as it isn't used in that context. Guess we are just boring and keep our activites simple in terms of human adult though enslaved and at times asked to do things which may step outside mainstream behaviour but still in the context of being a human being doing such things more so than roleplaying another being. These days I have enough difficulty remembering the human behaviours I am required to do without adding in another persona and all that comes with it.

Catalina

Choke Chain

Oh, thanks.http://home.scarlet.be/~gs178596/angels/cute.gif

Catalinahttp://members.home.nl/verzameling/cuties/cuties19.gif

 

[Bandit58]

LOL, let's hope this one gets finished!!

January 2nd - words of Bandit58

"I just found it incredibly frustrating. And after Master and I had met and made plans for me to relocate, it was both frustrating and depressing. I didn't feel it was a form of submission I just felt impatient for the time to pass until we could be together, and even though I was busy organising the move the time seemed to pass so slowly

I've been in 2 LDRs, one vanilla and one with Master. Most of the time was spent waiting. For them to come online. For the phone to ring. For the time to pass until we could meet or be together. I did enjoy chatting online and phone, and the time together although short was wonderful. But most of the time I was alone, and I hated it.

I don't think I could do it again. "

Distance Domination Thread

Wow I'm in the calendar! Thanks catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Wow I'm in the calendar! Thanks catalina

http://home.scarlet.be/~cl898452/index/mensen/Aworld087.gif You're welcome Mrs. Blissfully Happy.

Catalinahttp://home.scarlet.be/~cl898452/index/ademeneva/0007.gif

 

[chris9]

January 8th - words of FurryFury

I agree that you need to love people for who and what they are. I've always done that as much as people would allow me to.

However the only look for kinked people thing didn't work for me because I wasn't aware of what I truly needed until recently. I believe that is true for a lot of people, not just me. I wish I and everyone, knew themselves well enough before getting with others to find who and what they truly needed but from what I've seen that's pretty rare.

And people do change IMO. That is where the loyalty part comes in. Do you REALLY want to try to figure out how you can continue to be close to them in spite of changes that you maybe don't understand , that don't go along with the way you are or perhaps scare you? In my case, the answer is yes. Fortunately, in my husband's case, the answer is also yes, with regard to me.

It's nice we both happen to be able to acknowledge in each other's open and safe arms that we are kinky. Okay, one perhaps is more kinky than the other but yeah, we both accept the other as we are even as we continue to change and grow. Some people grow apart because they are perhaps not flexible enough for this. Thankfully we are growing even more together than ever.

I've always gotten up each day and said to myself how lucky I was to have this man in my life. In the past few years I've had even more reason to feel that way. I was in a relationship with someone else that tried to tear me down. I tried to give him just as much as I have tried to give my husband but he blocked me in so many ways. Now I'm with someone that not only lets me give him what I want to. He enjoys what I do give him and is happy with it. He was happy with it when we first got together. He has been happy with each stage and each change too.

He has given me the freedom to be who I truly want to be. I've done the same for him. The reason for all this is that he had the vision of a love that wasn't competitive but cooperative. It was quite a different vision from what I'd always seen. He has been a revelation to me in so many ways. He amazes me in this and so many other ways. That's not say we don't get pissed at each other from time to time or our lives are perfect. *L*

Fury

Loving Relationships In D/s And The Challenges Of Redirecting The Vanilla Mind

 

[catalina_francisco]

It is great the calendar is up and going again, but could we try to include a mix of posters please? It is not personal, but we are 8 days into the calendar and have 3 quotes of one poster...it is good to get a variety of ideas, topics, people, and views and helps others feel they also have something to contribute.

Catalina

 

[chris9]

I tried Haven't found anything else I wanted to quote...

 

[catalina_francisco]

I tried Haven't found anything else I wanted to quote...

That is part of the difficulty, and why it takes so much work....sometimes it is a matter of going back in time to find a quote that seems to be worth putting here, or to include more topics when there is a slump in posting and only one or two threads are being consistently posted to otherwise it becomes a calendar of a few voices and topics and begins to appear more as a friendship club or popularity contest than a fair representation of the submissive voices on the forum as a whole. In the past, though I have quoted words I have loved, I have also quoted a view that I might not personally agree with for myself, but which is the view or thought or reality of another submissive on the forum....that way it also is not about limiting the viewpoint to one way, but including the variety of ways and views found in the comminuty.

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

I'm honored when someone finds anything I post worthwhile.

Thank you Chris.

When I get some time, which has been in too short supply lately, I will try to help with the diversification of this thread by finding other's fine posts to quote.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

January 9th the words of Kailey_86.

I was spanked on the rare occasion but i don't think that has anything to do with my enjoyment of it now. i think i enjoy spankings and other kinds of pain because of the control aspect of it and my enjoyment of pain. i like pain and i submit to it and to the person who is implementing it. THAT is what gets to me.

i was put in the corner for punishment as a kid. i HATED it. When a Dom tells me that this is what He will use as a punishment on me these days i am briefly turned on but then i wise up because this is not something i would enjoy. The brief arousal comes from the dominance.

From the thread Childhood Discipline:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=487665

 

[FurryFury]

January 10th, the words of Cheshire D.

Have one, haven't had much of an opportunity to play with it though. I do wear it, or would if I had it at the moment. Am a little afraid of random people grabbing it, though, so I have the long end tucked under my shirt.

I go into a bit of a different headspace when it is yanked on though, and it's wonderful. I feel like a puppy. All I really want to do is wag my tail and snuggle up to the yanker. Yeah...odd, I know. It's just that collar though. None of my other two (both nylon, actual dog collars) give that to me.

From the thread Choke Chain:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=488734

 

[FurryFury]

January 11th the words of Linyari

This is something I can totally offer feedback on.

As a child, I was spanked. Frequently. Some might say that it bordered on abuse. (Okay, that's what my dom/husband says.) I was spanked with whatever could be found and whatever could inflict the most pain as possible. You know the threat parents had where they would say that they would spank you so hard you couldn't sit down? I have been spanked that hard. Often. And it continued until I was 15.

Because of that, I always hated spanking. Even play spanking. Guy friends would playfully slap my bum and I would instantly become enraged. It triggered all sorts of negative emotions for me.

And yet, I love to be spanked now. It's a favourite activity of ours. I don't believe that it is really connected to how I was raised. I like many other aspects of BDSM, not just the spanking. The spanking seems to just tie into it. It's part of a larger picture. Then again, maybe I like the idea of being disciplined in love by someone who wants to bring me pleasure as opposed to being disciplined in anger by someone who only wants to tear me down.

I never thought about it that way before. And now I am. It's very interesting.

From the thread Childhood Discipline:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=487665

 

[myinnerslut]

a little confused

how can there be quotes for the 11th up already? im confused... is this a collection what will end up being 365 submissive quotes, or is it a quote pulled out of discussion on that given day, for each specific day? (didn't mean to inturupt the calender if this isnt the place to ask)