Submission's liberation without pain?

[isfred]

Can a woman/wife who doesn't seem to enjoy sex find herself enabled to do so by submitting to the directives of her husband, without the threat of pain?

Consider a story where repressed wife learns to enjoy sex, feeling she's no longer responsible for the things she does because a loving husband makes her do them...even though they both know she'll never be spanked, humiliated, abused, etc. How could she be led to such a revelation?

 

[chatbug]

A sexually repressed young woman can be "forced" to submit to sex. Sometimes, this involves binding the woman in some manner, maybe with silk scarves, so that she can rationalize that he's forcing her to enjoy herself.

Without knowing more about the woman, it's hard to generalize. I'm not sure how you force a woman to engage in sexual practices that the woman finds abhorrent.

In your scenario, the woman would have to enjoy submitting to her husband, while he uses her gift of submission to lead her to sexual enjoyment. The enjoyment has to be so important as to overcome her fear or feelings of responsibility towards the sex act in question.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Submission is about desire and not force anyway. Many people truly don't understand BDSM.


I think you're asking for a BDSM story that is more romantic? D/s, BDSM, bondage, and so on, can be very sensual!

 

[JamesSD]

Submission is about desire and not force anyway. Many people truly don't understand BDSM.!

Very well put.

There could be two routes. One might involve coersion of some sort. i.e. "You need to follow my orders and commands without question or else..."

Another might just be some sort of deal. Wife realizes she's repressed and scared. Agrees to submit to husband's will sexually to save their (otherwise happy) marriage/sex life. Finds the experience freeing, etc.

 

[isfred]

A critical point...even the punishment meted out in BDSM seems to be enjoyed, so those who submit do so for reasons other than to avoid spanking, or whatever.

The idea of submitting to save an otherwise good solid marriage is really the only way to go. But only as a joint effort, not as a threat from one party to another.

I like this. Wish I was a writer.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

...even the punishment meted out in BDSM seems to be enjoyed, so those who submit do so for reasons other than to avoid spanking, or whatever...

Punishment to a masochist is not being touched. There are many, however, who don't crave physical pain. To them, the occasional spanking is punishment and a reminder for them to obey.

 

[batchman]

Another possibility is they make a bet that she's positive she will win. So she agrees to obey him if he wins. His motives can be anything you want. She loses and decides to keep up her end of the bargain.

The husband would probably start slowly and give her positive feedback the whole way. She can lose herself in the role of his submissive. Between the two (feedback and losing herself) you can probably get her most of the way there. He earns her trust, which helps get her through the rough spots.

Heck, this one has series written all over it.

 

[Purple Sage]

Punishment to a masochist is not being touched. There are many, however, who don't crave physical pain. To them, the occasional spanking is punishment and a reminder for them to obey.

I think the technical term is 'algolagniac'- a person who interprets pain as pleasure. Many masochists are quite capaple of interpreting pain either way, depending on the situation. You don't have to get off on root-canals to be a masochist. A masochist may have a complicated relationship with punishment, including the desire to be punished per se, but that doesn't mean they always enjoy it.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Well, I'm a masochist. I don't get off on root canals. Or stubbing my toe, for that matter.

 

[Mikro]

Submit or not submit

I knew a woman once who had been brought up by a strong catholic family, educated in a convent and all that, and yes it's the old suddenly let loose story.

She had been married for several years and only ever had sex in the missionary position, her husband left her for a better sex life.

Now free and unattached she started going out to the pub, the 'breaking out' bit. When i met her she was still in this mode. She was very inhibited but sometime's without any real explanation she would break out, and on these occasions she would do anything and anyone, sexually. These moods could last for minutes or day's but once the mood had passed she acted like they never happened.

The one thing that i knew could start her off was a soft romantic lingering kiss, not always but most of the time this seemed to be her trigger.

The passion was there it just needed to be unlocked