Stupid dates

[BlondGirl]

Why oh why?

That is the deal with men who are obviously not the best in appearance making efforts to prove they are not the best in anything? Why do I find guys to go out with who feel they must discuss their ex-wives and girl friends and job problems?
Isn't a first date supposed to be simple fun and getting acquainted? Why all the heavy stuff? AND WHY do these morons I find feel they are in a confessional booth? And...if I am interrested in persuing an activity with someone, I am CERTAINLY NOT going to tell him all the awful things I have done. Why do the guys do this?

(Gentlemen, I am not picking on you as a sex in general--I only date men so I have no idea if women do this too.)

I don't want a shallow lover. But I do want one who at least has SOME FUCKING INTERPERSONAL SOCIAL SKILLS!!!!!!!!

(I don't think I am shallow about looks and such--is that my problem? Maybe if I only go out with magazine-style hotties then at least the guys I date will have SOMETHING going for them! Or maybe I need to only hit on teenagers--at leas they haven't had time to build up all that baggage!)

 

[Azwed]

Teenagers and baggage ehhhhh

Some teenagers have had plenty of time to build up some baggage. I had some at the time and a girl i knew very well freshman year of college had plenty of baggage for being just 18. The girl I am sort of dating right now has her own share of baggage and she is only 19. Maybe you just need to find more sucessful people or something they tend not to have as much baggage or at least hide what little they do.

 

[Ally C]

Another stupid date:

The first day of the fourth month.

 

[cherrypop]

Talk about a stupid date.....

One of my galfriends went out with a guy we knew (barely...through the grapevine. Friend of a friend of a friend..etc) and he was horrible!! She asked.."Where do you want to go for dinner??? Mexican?" He says.."I've never had Mexican." His response was the same for Chinease, Japanease, and yes...omg even Italian food. LOL!!!! And the kicker..after saying NOTHING all night...he says "I'm not a verrrry good ConVERsatIONalIST" lol. OMG what a moron!
Was that rude?? LoL Sowwy?!?! *g*

Ciao!

 

[DarkAngel]

mmmmm.... nope never had one... or that I can remember... ON second thought I don't remember what I did yesterday hehehe... Awww... sleep where do you find it..

 

[Roll-One]

Sounds like you need to date guys who has there shit together. don't ya think.

 

[CreamyLady]

You aren't starting a conversation with the dreaded phrase, "Tell me all about yourself," are you? If so, it is an open invitation to your date to tell you more than you wanted to know.

You might try being tactful, if he brings up the ex-wife or the job, or even his favorite sexual fantasies: "You know, we don't know each other well enough to discuss this; I think we should talk about impersonal things instead. For instance, what did you think of (fill in a movie, book, CD, concert, whatever)?"

Failing that, remember to always take your own car, or carry enough cab fare. There is usually a telephone near the restrooms, and many a woman has made a quick getaway under the guise of powdering her nose.

 

[GuyJD]

During my college days, I had a good friend who had dollar signs in your eyes. She went on a 1st date with a guy and took him to a jewelery store to show him the $1500 bridal set that she wanted him to buy. Somehow, it worked. They got married about a year later and had kids. But the marriage didn't last.

 

[BlondGirl]

I am a professional person with a healthy supply of well oxygenated brain cells that I like to think are not hidden. I also am not the ugliest woman in the world. For some reason, I just seem to usually attract losers.

(I think one of the most obvious stupid things this particular loser did was to make a racist comment concerning black people. I have not figured out yet why white racists feel that it is appropriate to make a racist comment in front of me simply because I am white. What gives with that? )

As far a safety is concerned, I only meet a new date in a major public place--it--a big mall with plenty to do without leaving the place or a festival or carnival type of place. I always carry a "personal equalizer" and I always prepare myself for the worst including puting all the information I have on the person up on my computer screen and e-mailing it to my sister. This is the protocol for every man I have dated--regardless of where I meet him or how I know him.

I guess my biggest gripe is that I like to think I have managed to grow up and become an adult but I can't seem to find any man who has. Is it really true that all the adult males are either married or gay?!?!?!?!?!?!!

I have gotten to the point where I pretty much avoid dating anyone new because of the waste of energy it seems to always be. It has been over a year since I had a "first date" until the other night. This probably curred me for another year. I would rather just call up an old lover for sex services or go without than go through the frusterations of picking through all these rotten apples.
(Sorry to be so pissy about it but I am very discouraged.)

(Oh, and as far as the baggage is concerned--your average 19 year old does not have the marriage he has not yet ended and the girlfriend that he did not marry yet because he is not divorced that he is having a hard time with and a fear of children and a track record of long term unemployment and etc,etc,etc. Everyone has problems. Not everyone has problems that are obvious to the untrained eye to be bad for a beginning relationship. A wife that you are still very obviously in love with is major baggage to unload on a woman you are hitting on, don't ya think. What the hell was the guy doing sitting in a restaurant with ME?!?!?!?!?!?! A vibrator is much MUCH better company!)

 

[SweetNick]

Is it really true that all the adult males are either married or gay?!?!?!?!?!?!!

Hmmm, I've been told I don't qualify as I've got 20 days left in college, but if I do, I'm neither.

I could give you gripes about women always wanting to be "just friends" but I won't start that rant or thread.