Stupid Butt Plug Question

[BiBunny]

Ok, I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong, or if I just have this fundamental misunderstanding of how butt plugs work, or what, but I have the worst trouble with them. No, it's not the normal problem of "how do I get one in?" It's "how do I keep the damn thing in?"

Allow me to explain. I have what my girlfriend and I refer to as "the twenty-pound box of dildos." Admittedly, there are more than just dildos in said twenty-pound box. I have a good number of anal toys as well. Imagine pretty much at least one plug of every size, shape, and material available. Imagine at least three different bottles of lube at any given time. Imagine that no matter what combination of plug, lube, and body positioning I use, the damn things are going to pop out in less than 5 minutes.

For the longest time, I thought it was just me. I thought maybe there was just something *wrong* with my ass. I have noticed lately, however, that it's not just me. Everyone I've topped lately has this same problem. Insert plug, and within 5 minutes, it's out. I thought that maybe the lube that makes it go in easily also makes it pop out easily. So I've tried without lube on both myself and others. Same problem. I've tried larger plugs when smaller ones come out. Nope. Yes, I've even tried the terribly redneck method of duct taping the damn things in, and this only works to some extent.

Well, I decided Thursday, when I had B. tied up, that I had to come up with a solution. See, it's no fun to try to whip a man with one hand while you're trying to hold the plug in his ass with the other. I got so frustrated that I finally gave up (gave up keeping the plug in, not the whipping ), but I thought to myself that there must be a better way. And where else to come ask goofy questions complete with goofy stories than here, right?

This post is half in jest and half in all seriousness. Yes, it was *really* funny trying not to hit myself while I was whacking him with my belt. The redneck duct tape method was out because I had lube smeared all over him (accident with the bottle), and it wouldn't stick. Now, short of wrapping him with saran wrap or something to keep it in, which would've taken some of the fun out of the beating, what could I have done? I've seen plug harnesses, but I don't know if they really work, or if it's just another one of those things places try to get kinky folks to spend money on. Anybody got any suggestions?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Though you might have a lot to choose from, sounds like you want one with a wide base. They are around (will try and find a pic of one), and unlike most which are more designed for stimulation, the wider base makes it almost impossible to slip out.

Catalina

 

[BiBunny]

Though you might have a lot to choose from, sounds like you want one with a wide base. They are around (will try and find a pic of one), and unlike most which are more designed for stimulation, the wider base makes it almost impossible to slip out.

Catalina

I call myself having some with wide bases, but maybe I need wider still. Hmmmm....

 

[catalina_francisco]

I call myself having some with wide bases, but maybe I need wider still. Hmmmm....

I think the problem with most, even the wide based ones, is they slope gradually from the width to the stem which makes slipping out easier, keeping in more difficult. I am still looking for pics I had of some better ones....found this one so far though it is a bit sharp looking.

Catalina

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

Something from the following link may help. As was mentioned, shape can be a factor and these have very skinny and long stems. I warn you though, they are not cheap.

http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/toys/decorative_butt_toys.html

And there is always this option as well:

http://www.stockroom.com/Anal-Plug-Harness-for-Men-P322.aspx

I think your troubles are common. I can keep a small plug inside of me because, well, it's too small. When I'm excited and relaxed and my ass is primed I can be quite accomodating to girth and the small ones just fall right out.

With the larger ones, something different happens. Length can be an issue for me for whatever reason and some of the larger plugs are fine as long as I don't try to move. If I do, the tip can touch something inside of me that is painful. But aside from that, the large plugs trigger your natural insinct to push. All the muscles and nerves are saying hey, there's something pushing against your asshole, get it out. But I think that is half of the intent of plugs anyway. The training they take to keep them in for any length of time. It can be quite a strain for sure. And the urge to push it out can happen so suddenly and be so strong that you're all but helpless to stop it. Does that sound like what you and yours may be experiencing?

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

Oh and I forgot these...

One of the Aneas models is definately on my wish list. And one of the Fishhook Plugs may be right up your...um...alley.

http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/toys/other_butt_toys.html

 

[catalina_francisco]

Didn't find the ones I saw last week, but found these which might be interesting, and of course, there is also a lovely anal hook which can be used in bondage which is sure to stay in!! I really want to try the anal hook.

Catalina

 

[Exogenous]

No, it's not the normal problem of "how do I get one in?" It's "how do I keep the damn thing in?"

I know exactly what you are experiencing. It’s quite frustrating.

Something from the following link may help. As was mentioned, shape can be a factor and these have very skinny and long stems. I warn you though, they are not cheap.

http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/toys/decorative_butt_toys.html

The horsehair one looks intriguing. I can't help but wonder what it would feel like to have it inside, all the while the long hairs are tickling and teasing the sensitive backs of my thighs.

Many shown on this link are quite pretty and would offer a very pleasant change of the backend view! The baroque style is especially nice.

Hmm...I just received a bonus check from my employer and can afford a sweet investment. Lucky me! Thanks for the links Irony_Sinclair.

 

[shy slave]

I don't have the same level of collection as you do with regard to plugs, but I do have the same problem.

I have tried less lube and that works a little better.

I now have fantasies of having a plug in my ass and some heavy duty tape over it, to hold it in, as part of a bondage session.
One day he will hopefully be as taken with the idea as I am


Cat, those pics scare me....alot

 

[marieR19]

Never tried anal, but those pictures are really making me want to!


Heather

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Bi I feel your pain. I have only two plugs. Only one will stay in by itself. The first one I use to help stretch myself. It has a graduated size to the plug so the deep I go with it the wider it is. The other is like the one you would see in tenedaveslilslut's AV. The difference between them besides the second is a bit longer and wider, the second one has a longer neck and maybe that is what you need. I hope this helps you Bi.

 

[Etoile]

I gotta recommend the Tristan. It's the Lexus of buttplugs, seriously. It was designed by anal sex guru Tristan Taormino. There's the original, and the Tristan II.

http://www.vixencreations.com/store/tristan.html
http://www.vixencreations.com/store/tristan2.html

I know it doesn't look like it would stay put, but I'm telling you - this plug is awesome.

You can read her report about it here:

http://www.puckerup.com/?cPath=5&products_id=14&tpid=8

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

I gotta recommend the Tristan. It's the Lexus of buttplugs, seriously. It was designed by anal sex guru Tristan Taormino. There's the original, and the Tristan II.

http://www.vixencreations.com/store/tristan.html
http://www.vixencreations.com/store/tristan2.html

I know it doesn't look like it would stay put, but I'm telling you - this plug is awesome.

You can read her report about it here:

http://www.puckerup.com/?cPath=5&products_id=14&tpid=8

The Tristan is great no doubt, but it is specifically designed for and by a woman. Certainly still usable by a man, but I don't find the style and shape to give the same sensations as a traditional plug or those designed specifically for men, i.e. curved for prostate stimulation. Just a thought is all. But the Tristan is definately an awesome plug.

 

[Etoile]

The Tristan is great no doubt, but it is specifically designed for and by a woman. Certainly still usable by a man, but I don't find the style and shape to give the same sensations as a traditional plug or those designed specifically for men, i.e. curved for prostate stimulation. Just a thought is all. But the Tristan is definately an awesome plug.

It might work for BiBunny though.

 

[tenedaveslilslut]

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

I gotta recommend the Tristan. It's the Lexus of buttplugs, seriously. It was designed by anal sex guru Tristan Taormino. There's the original, and the Tristan II.

http://www.vixencreations.com/store/tristan.html
http://www.vixencreations.com/store/tristan2.html

I know it doesn't look like it would stay put, but I'm telling you - this plug is awesome.

You can read her report about it here:

http://www.puckerup.com/?cPath=5&products_id=14&tpid=8

Yeah, this is the one I want. As soon as I get a couple other expenses taken care of, I'm getting it.

 

[ninjashoes]

I bought one that was too big a number of years ago. I think I injured my insides because the area inside still tears real easy sometimes when I use the bathroom. No big deal though I guess, I just wish I would have picked something out smaller.

 

[myinnerslut]

what about an inflatabale one? would it make a difference if you could get it inside with not so much lube while its small and then make it bigger? with less lube originally it may not slip out so easily.. just a thought

 

[trojan_man_co]

what about an inflatabale one? would it make a difference if you could get it inside with not so much lube while its small and then make it bigger? with less lube originally it may not slip out so easily.. just a thought

i had the same thought.. and cat... that hook.. OMG *quiver* i want one... BADLY

 

[Etoile]

The important thing about those hooks - they make pussy hooks too - is that you NEVER NEVER NEVER use it to hold the bottom's full body weight.

 

[trojan_man_co]

The important thing about those hooks - they make pussy hooks too - is that you NEVER NEVER NEVER use it to hold the bottom's full body weight.

agreed that would be bad.. BUT when im more subbie than dom.. it would be fun to use as part of a leash or something lol... any suggestions?

 

[Honeybee80]

delete

 

[SubNebGuy]

a really cheap alternative that can add another dimension to male submission: tight thong panties.

keep the thong in the ass to hold the plug, but pull the front to the side to access his bits.

works for women too.

when mistress plugs me and makes me satisfy her first, she can use the waistband to control me, and yank it to drive the plug in just a little bit deeper.

 

[Etoile]

add another dimension to male submission (snip)
works for women too.

I am just curious from a gender studies standpoint. If it applies to women too, then why did you say male submission rather than just submission?

 

[AvaAdore]

I think the problem with most, even the wide based ones, is they slope gradually from the width to the stem which makes slipping out easier, keeping in more difficult. I am still looking for pics I had of some better ones....found this one so far though it is a bit sharp looking.

Catalina

Eek! Sure it would stay in, but how do you get it out again??