Struggling

[honeybee_345]

I just met a great partner who I click with in vanilla life as well as kink. We've been on two amazing dates and had sex tonight but I felt there was something lacking. I think I had expectations that this was going to be the great kink sex that I've never had. and always dreamed of. Meeting a great vanilla partner is exciting, but having a partner that you click with so well in kink is intoxicating. It's like finding hidden treasure. We talked for hours and days before meeting up. the first meeting was vanilla(literally. We met at the mall for icecream) but we wound up spending the entire day together. I feel like I've waited so long for a partner and had expectations. Buddha would remind me that expectations are the root of all sorrow. Knowing it was the first time in bed, I can only hope it will get better as our relationship progresses.


With a heavy heart and hungry inner beast,
honeybee_345

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." - Buddah (source: the internet, so it has to be true)

 

[tedsbeds]

I just met a great partner who I click with in vanilla life as well as kink. We've been on two amazing dates and had sex tonight but I felt there was something lacking. I think I had expectations that this was going to be the great kink sex that I've never had. and always dreamed of. Meeting a great vanilla partner is exciting, but having a partner that you click with so well in kink is intoxicating. It's like finding hidden treasure. We talked for hours and days before meeting up. the first meeting was vanilla(literally. We met at the mall for icecream) but we wound up spending the entire day together. I feel like I've waited so long for a partner and had expectations. Buddha would remind me that expectations are the root of all sorrow. Knowing it was the first time in bed, I can only hope it will get better as our relationship progresses.


With a heavy heart and hungry inner beast,
honeybee_345

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." - Buddah (source: the internet, so it has to be true)

I would send a lovely note thanking him for a wonderful evening and then tell him a the wildest story you can put together and end with "Sound like fun?" See if that gives him some ideas.

 

[RawHumor]

Sometimes it takes time to pull out all the tricks. Initially, he may have been nervous or wanted to be sure you guys 'fit' together.

 

[DaddyFrank]

I agree with RawHumor, it's a relationship. Relationships are built on trust and honesty. Just take your time and learn about each other.
I like the story idea too. I quite often require my sub to write me emails describing just how bad she is. I think this is important, to learn what a partner wants and the limits involved. Good luck!

 

[honeybee_345]

Thanks for the quick replies <3

I would send a lovely note thanking him for a wonderful evening and then tell him a the wildest story you can put together and end with "Sound like fun?" See if that gives him some ideas.

We've talked and outlined everything we want to do. All our fantasy's have been discussed. It was fantastic foreplay!!!!! Had me wet for days. We did some of them tonight but there was not enough pain and bondage for me. I am living at home with my parents since I just got out of school and am looking for proper work. Its hard to have a sex life with parents around. I was suprised that we were able to be intimate tonight.

Also, I have a hard time reading my partner since he is basically silent during sex and his face doesn't change. He came twice and I didn't even know. I did mention it and he became a bit more "interactive". I think it just needs work. It'll get better. I'm optimistic. But as for tonight, I'm gonna fuck the power out of my vibrator. Well, that is if my parent's fo to bed before me. To quote an obnixious trend "The struggle is real my friends".

 

[tedsbeds]

I would send a lovely note thanking him for a wonderful evening and then tell him a the wildest story you can put together and end w

We've talked and outlined everything we want to do. All our fantasy's have been discussed. It was fantastic foreplay!!!!! Had me wet for days. We did some of them tonight but there was not enough pain and bondage for me. I am living at home with my parents since I just got out of school and am looking for proper work. Its hard to have a sex life with parents around. I was suprised that we were able to be intimate tonight.

Also, I have a hard time reading my partner since he is basically silent during sex and his face doesn't change. He came twice and I didn't even know. I did mention it and he became a bit more "interactive". I think it just needs work. It'll get better. I'm optimistic. But as for tonight, I'm gonna fuck the power out of my vibrator. Well, that is if my parent's fo to bed before me. To quote an obnixious trend "The struggle is real my friends".

I had a lover complain thaty I was too "quiet" during sex.. So I try to be more vocal. Just tell him "I want to hear your passion. I want to feel the pain!" Nothing like a cheer to get a guy moving.

 

[honeybee_345]

I agree with RawHumor, it's a relationship. Relationships are built on trust and honesty. Just take your time and learn about each other.
I like the story idea too. I quite often require my sub to write me emails describing just how bad she is. I think this is important, to learn what a partner wants and the limits involved. Good luck!

Thanks DaddyFrank. I've done stories with past partners and think I will have to try it again. Thanks so much for the reminder!

Something we do after every session is feedback. "What did you like", "What you need more of" "What did you dislike" etc. I'm also learning about male chastity belts. This is a particular fetist of his. The stories could be a great gateway to learning about his desires surrounding that.

 

[honeybee_345]

I had a lover complain thaty I was too "quiet" during sex.. So I try to be more vocal. Just tell him "I want to hear your passion. I want to feel the pain!" Nothing like a cheer to get a guy moving.

HELL YEAH! I like you vigor. Bravo.