Strip Club..not TURNED ON??

[CuriouslilQT]

Last night my boyfriend made a confession...he told me "HIS fRIENDS DRAGGED" him into a strip club. Now I was glad at least he was being honest...but one thing I wasn not so sure about. He went ahead and told me what had happened to him in there...for being I asked a ton of questions. He told me while some girl was rubbing herself all over him..he COULD NOT get hard because all he was doing was thinking about me and how wrong it was. Now for some reason I find that kind of hard to believe....because if some guy was all over me like that..I am pretty sure I will get turned on. SO is he telling the truth when it comes to him not being turned on?????

QT

 

[Richard49]

Last night my boyfriend made a confession...he told me "HIS fRIENDS DRAGGED" him into a strip club. Now I was glad at least he was being honest...but one thing I wasn not so sure about. He went ahead and told me what had happened to him in there...for being I asked a ton of questions. He told me while some girl was rubbing herself all over him..he COULD NOT get hard because all he was doing was thinking about me and how wrong it was. Now for some reason I find that kind of hard to believe....because if some guy was all over me like that..I am pretty sure I will get turned on. SO is he telling the truth when it comes to him not being turned on?????

QT

Everyone of my subbies ,all female, loved strip clubs......

When I owned my PR firm in Denver all my clients loved to go to them......

Personally they do nothing for me.

Richard
Michigan

 

[Weird Harold]

He told me while some girl was rubbing herself all over him..he COULD NOT get hard because all he was doing was thinking about me and how wrong it was. Now for some reason I find that kind of hard to believe....

Strip Clubs and strippers are only a turn on if you're in the right mood. If his friends truly "dragged him" into the club, then I doubt he was in a very receptive frame of mind from the start. Add in the impersonal, "plastic doll" nature of a stripper's attentions, and I'm inclined to believe that he didn't have a good time.

Personally, I'm not overly fond of agressive women, and tend to feel disgust more than arousal when I become the object of one's attention. What arouses me the most is a woman's arousal from my attentions.

I suspect that he might be minimizing the effect the strippers had on him, but it's entirely possible he's just not the type to be turned on by anonymous strippers.

 

[Guest]

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.. sounds like he was telling the truth. You should be able to tell if he'd be turned on by a stripper by the way he acts- ie does he look at hot girls in public, or get turned on by watching sexy stuff on tv, etc.

 

[Intense]

Now I was glad at least he was being honest..
QT

This type of honesty, the kind that causes you anquish, is nothing to be thankful for. It's common passive aggresive crap, nip it in the bud.
The tip off is when the person has done something that really discomfits you, yet they remain completely blameless and didn't even have impure thoughts? Pulleezze
I would see this as a my honey testing to see if I really cared or not. The good way to prove that yes you do care, would be to kick his ass sidways.

 

[TrojanMan77]

Strip Clubs dont do it for me either

ive gone once and eventhough there was one girl out of all of them that i said DAYUM!!!!!! even she didnt get me to attention...i was just like whatever

 

[Guest]

Had a similar thing happen to me once.

I had to agree to go to a strip club in order for my friends to agree to go shoot pool. My friends paid for one of the dancers to take me out back for a private dance. I basically just blindly stared, not really feeling anything, except when is the song gonna end.

So, yeah, I'd say he's being honest.

 

[CuriouslilQT]

First and foremost...hey Trojan...is that your new sn or what???
Well I aint thankful to the point of him going..but atleast he had enough guts to confront me then have me find out from someone else. He told me in great detail what had happen to him so it made me wonder...how amusing do guys find strip joint. And well he isnt really the type to be all up on a female...a real shy cat.
But as I can most of you guys agreed with me!??!

 

[Romanticstone]

This COULD go either way..

Not knowing anything about the guy, it's impossible to tell if he was truthfull or not.

I was in the Navy a few years back, and visited quite a few such establishments. There are a variety of men with a variety of reasons for going to such establishments....

1. The party guys.....these guys are in groups (like your b/f) and are out to have a wild time...however, though these guys are looking at the dancers, the overall focus of the night is hangin' with the boys, and such an establishment just gives them something to 'whoop' and 'holler' about...little in the nights activities would be different if the bumpers they were looking at were on hot-rod cars.

2. The lonely business-man(men)..... these are the guys who intently watch and fantasize about all that they're too afraid to do at home with their wives.

3. The dreamers.....usually alone in the club, and have this elaborate fantasy that one or more of the dancers really wants them.

4. The bored but realistic......Though I went with the party guys at times, I most generally fit into this group, realizing that the dancers are generally just there for the money, and that what goes on on-stage is at best a parody of sexuallity. I'd have my drinks and chat with the dancers, and by NOT trying to make time with the girls actually got to hang out with some interesting lesbians in clubs where few men dare.
I have to say a night out with 'the girlz' beats partying with the guys any time.

 

[nj-voyeur]

Hey Intense

You know what the problem with this post is? You women dont understand strip clubs. First of all not every stripper in the club looks like Pamela Anderson Lee. They look like housewives who are willing to take there clothes off. or they look like other every day women.

Second the women stripping dont want to be doing it! 90% of them have to get drunk or high in order to do thier job. I know because i have 2 friends who dance. How much of a turn on is it when the women doesnt even like you. its entertaining but its not a turn on. If she doesnt touch me, i'm not getting a hard on. I'd prefer to be with my girl because she will touch me and do it because she wants to please me. A stripper only wants my money.

I have only be to strip clubs about 6 times. Sure its nice to watch but its not a turn on. Even when i found the girl attractive, i knew there was no chance of me getting her so it killed it. Why waste money and tease yourself when you can get it for free at home and get it ALOT better!

 

[CuriouslilQT]

Thanks you guys ...it gave me a real insight into what you guys actually think of a strip joint!!!

 

[schatz]

The times I have been to strip clubs, it was because my friends wanted to go and I must agree with the majority in this thread. It was mildly entertaining but did not excite me. Even when one of the dancers was rubbing my crotch it didn't make me hard(of course she was also trying to talk me into buying her champagne). I just can't get excited by a women when I know it's all for show. On a side note, what would have been the big deal if it did excite him? There is nothing wrong with looking.

 

[nj-voyeur]

True!
What if it did excite him? It doesnt matter where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home to eat.

 

[The Touch]

Looking for trouble, and finding it.

CuriouslilQT,

Here's my take.

1) Two thumbs up on the "they're stoned to work there" take. Most of these girls are whacked-out... check out their eyes. Pin-point pupils in a dimly lit room?!!

2) The male crowd is just like described. Loosers, and party-boys... which is worse? When's the problem going to start?

3) Drugs, and if not Prostitution, then what do you call it when a girl takes money for sexual services?

4) Overpriced drinks, questionable food, rip-off admission, is this the best place to go out to?

5) What are you seeing there, that you can't see
elsewhere?
You want your girlfriend to shave that thang?
You need bigger/smaller/bouncy boobs?
What?
Stay the fuck home, and surf the net, or rent a video.
That way, the two of you can see and DO.

The all see, no do? Thanks, I've better use for my time, hormones, and money.

To those who see and do at a strip club? Gargle with Clorox, take a bath in Lysol, and then stop by. Otherwise, hit the bricks.

-TT (over 40, and knows better)

 

[huskie]

I watched that G-String Diva show on HBO. Basicly it protrayed how the strippers really hate these guys and want NOTHING but there money.
I for one could not go into a place like that with that thought in my head.
I can watch naked women on TV and get turned on, but to go there knowing full well that these women not only dislike me but think we are stuppid to fantize that they care for us in the slightest bit is absolutly no turn on for me.

I'm sure there are always exceptions to the rule above and yes I agree that most women MUST feel this way in order to do there job. But, how can they "flip the switch" and have any kind of meaning relation with a guy after doing this work? For that I fell sorry for these girls.

 

[concrete]

touch

saw the lady of my dreams in a strip club. After the missuse of darn near everything included,9yrs of great marriage concluded.

 

[aussie-Couple]

Thumbs Up!

At least he was honest and open about it -- he did not have to tell you and you would be none the wiser. So don't get too crazy over it otherwise the next time he won't tell you.

Why don't you go together and see what happens. I know my wife and I visit the occasional club and we both enjoy it.

Relationship is based on trust, so trust in one another!

 

[Richard49]

For every holiday or any other occasion
My soon to be ex wife and collored sub
loved to go to strip clubs

It was a reward I gladly gave her
even though I found the club and girls boring
Cyndi was not boring after wards

 

[CuriouslilQT]

I totally agree with you Couple...without trust...there can not be a relationship...
But hey him telling me..lead me to asking you guys..and gave me a real insight into what all you guys think!

 

[Ballboy]

I have agreed at some level with the opinions of strip clubs on this thread. The girls are simply offering the illusion of sex when the only thing they want in your pants is the money.

 

[Spenser41]

I have gone to a few clubs in my life as well as known some of the women who danced there. For one, I was never turned on by them. See what turns me on is a woman that cares for and desires me. I know that when I am in those clubs, they could care less about me. They only care about how much money they can get. They want you to buy them "drinks" for outrageous amounts of money, which by the way is only colored water. The name of the game is getting the man to blow his money. They tell the guy anything they want to hear as long as the money is flowing. So you get to see some tits.. big deal. It is a waste of time and money. Now, what would be really cool is for the woman in your life do a lap dance for you. Now that would be hot because you know she loves and wants you. And of course it would only be fair to turn around and do a lap dance for them as well.

 

[CuriouslilQT]

Hey Spenser...
I will actually take your advice into consideration.

 

[Spenser41]

every once and awhile I have some good thoughts and suggestions.