Stress...The libido killer

[TBKahuna123]

I've had a very interesting experience the last couple weeks, the complete absence of libido. I'm going through a horrible period of stress at work at a level way beyond the norm. Usually, sex is a stress relief, a release that helps to alleviate that tension build up. Now though, the stress has reached a level where I have absolutely no physical desire to have sex. No spontaneous erections, my "hot chick radar" is completely off, and even the Cinemax softcore porn is more annoying than arousing. I can honestly say, I've never experienced this kind of total absence of sex drive before.

Thank God things are working out and I have a cool wife, but its been pretty annoying. Its like even though the there's no desire there, there's still the sexual frustration intensifying the stress. Anyone else ever hit this point of stress?

 

[silverwhisper]

i have, but it isn't often and never for that long. that said, my job is, happily, not as stressful: just highly time-consuming.

ed

 

[Nikasha]

Been there...

It's definitely horrible when the job kills the libido. A few things worked for me:
Exercise (you know, that activity that makes you sweat that isn't sex).
Chocolate in the darkness of your choice (DARK for me).
Herbal remedy (not the kind you smoke). Try Bach Rescue Remedy, which comes in creme and drops.

Or you could quit your job, which is what I did. I'm poorer, but MUCH happier.

Your milage may vary.

 

[Guest]

 

[Eilan]

My husband and I have been under some stress because of something that happened a few months ago and was only recently resolved. For some odd reason, we've had more and better sex since then.

I don't typically react to stress that way, either. Weird.

 

[silverwhisper]

perhaps you handle it more intelligently than the rest of us, eilan. :>

there's a few kinds of stress: perhaps in some cases it's a libido killer while in others, it's a mood booster?

ed

 

[Eilan]

perhaps you handle it more intelligently than the rest of us, eilan. :>

I doubt that.

Depends on the kind of stress, really. When my ex left, I stopped eating. And having sex for a while, obviously.

 

[silverwhisper]

perhaps it's your advanced snark skills? :>

ed

 

[pleasteasme]

Thankfully, the only person I disappoint with my lull in libido is myself (and perhaps the Duracell corporation).

 

[TBKahuna123]

Well thanks all for commiserating with me. It seems though that my meltdown the other day actually proved a turning point for me. The stress is still there, but at least I got to let off some steam. Mainly its just that me and my partners in crime are super shorthanded due to a string of resignations and leaves, and we're all covering jobs not normally our own. In a few months my workload should return to it's normal, busy yet managable state and all will be right with the world. Still, if not for the fact that I didn't want to abandon my coworkers, I might have walked out the other day. Not the smart move, but it was a baaaaaaaad day.

And I guess I shouldn't say it has totally killed my libido, but it's sure put a damper on it.