strap-on thoughts?

[oldkinky]

As some of the people above have noted, there's no substitute for asking your SO whether they're interested or not.

That said, there are probably ways to bring it up that are less jarring than others. In your shoes, I'd bring it up while we were fooling around, in the context of "talking dirty" / whispering sexy fantasies and forbidden ideas.

An alternate approach would be to try easing into the idea, not during sex but during a relaxed conversation. "Hey, I saw something about this whole prostate massage thing and it's supposed to be amazing. The article said that a really easy way to try it is to get a little inexpensive toy, stick it in there, and have your woman suck you / give you a hand job / ride you. And, you know, I figure anything that could give a totally mindblowing orgasm is probably worth trying. Of course, I'd totally make it worth your while before and after...."

Obviously, that's not the same thing as her strapping one on and going for a ride. But, you know, baby steps and all that.

Also, from a tools standpoint, if you ever get to the point of wanting to try a strap-on, get one of the ones that has a pouch inside to hold a vibrating egg on her clit. Because it's an odd thing to fuck someone and make them cum like crazy, but essentially without sensation for the person doing the fucking. So, thumbs up on the egg.

That is a good point We use Buzz Me Tender harness. It has two pouches for small vibrators. Sometimes DW will cum as soon as she puts on the harness.

Actually we got into strap ons by first doing prostate massage. My orgasms during a blowjob and prostate massage is fantastic. By the way DW loves fucking me with a strap on.

PM me for more details.

 

[paulthewetcd]

Here's a pic of TBH's newest strap-on.....she loves the Vac-U-Lok thingy and the fact that this harness is crotchless.

We got this one months ago but this is the first time we've used it.

It's a completely hot idea/fantasy/roleplay/whatever.

Very sexy woman with a lovely toy!
I submit! Sign me up!

 

[fuckmeat]

So... this is where I have issues with people who are god fearing. What kind of benevolent creator sticks a guy's G spot up his ass and then tells him homosexuality and sodomy are terrible sins?

But I digress.

To put it as simply as I can, homosexuality specifically refers to exclusive sexual attraction to people of the same sex. Bisexuality is attraction to people of both sexes. None of that applies to a man getting fucked by a woman wearing a strap on. Regardless of how you experiment and who you experiment with, anal play shouldn't be something that men feel emasculates them somehow. It's possible to have strap-on sex without any kind of power exchange. It shouldn't be perceived as an inherently submissive act by men.

It saddens me because a lot of hetero guys are sexually repressed this way and never dare to experiment as they would like because they look at the act from the perspective of what their male friends would think of them if they ever knew. Nobody knows what their friends' sexual deviances and kinks are. There is no such thing as 'normal.' Guys judge themselves harshly for wanting to experiment sexually sometimes and I think it's a real shame. How other people might perceive an act through ignorance is not how you should perceive it if it's something that gets you hot.

So free your mind.

There is no prostate massager... ahem... I mean spoon.

Now stop fretting, get outta here and have fun. You only live once (as far as I know).

 

[janeyl]

So... this is where I have issues with people who are god fearing. What kind of benevolent creator sticks a guy's G spot up his ass and then tells him homosexuality and sodomy are terrible sins?

But I digress.

To put it as simply as I can, homosexuality specifically refers to exclusive sexual attraction to people of the same sex. Bisexuality is attraction to people of both sexes. None of that applies to a man getting fucked by a woman wearing a strap on. Regardless of how you experiment and who you experiment with, anal play shouldn't be something that men feel emasculates them somehow. It's possible to have strap-on sex without any kind of power exchange. It shouldn't be perceived as an inherently submissive act by men.

It saddens me because a lot of hetero guys are sexually repressed this way and never dare to experiment as they would like because they look at the act from the perspective of what their male friends would think of them if they ever knew. Nobody knows what their friends' sexual deviances and kinks are. There is no such thing as 'normal.' Guys judge themselves harshly for wanting to experiment sexually sometimes and I think it's a real shame. How other people might perceive an act through ignorance is not how you should perceive it if it's something that gets you hot.

So free your mind.

There is no prostate massager... ahem... I mean spoon.

Now stop fretting, get outta here and have fun. You only live once (as far as I know).

I couldn't have put it better myself-as someone who's partner is bisexual and we love this kind of play but it is absolutely nothing about emasculation or submission.

It's one of the most deeply intimate parts of our sexual life together

 

[blade_rocknut]

So... this is where I have issues with people who are god fearing. What kind of benevolent creator sticks a guy's G spot up his ass and then tells him homosexuality and sodomy are terrible sins?

But I digress.

To put it as simply as I can, homosexuality specifically refers to exclusive sexual attraction to people of the same sex. Bisexuality is attraction to people of both sexes. None of that applies to a man getting fucked by a woman wearing a strap on. Regardless of how you experiment and who you experiment with, anal play shouldn't be something that men feel emasculates them somehow. It's possible to have strap-on sex without any kind of power exchange. It shouldn't be perceived as an inherently submissive act by men.

It saddens me because a lot of hetero guys are sexually repressed this way and never dare to experiment as they would like because they look at the act from the perspective of what their male friends would think of them if they ever knew. Nobody knows what their friends' sexual deviances and kinks are. There is no such thing as 'normal.' Guys judge themselves harshly for wanting to experiment sexually sometimes and I think it's a real shame. How other people might perceive an act through ignorance is not how you should perceive it if it's something that gets you hot.

So free your mind.

There is no prostate massager... ahem... I mean spoon.

Now stop fretting, get outta here and have fun. You only live once (as far as I know).

Did I mention I like this girl?? Luckily I did all this exploration when I was young ( not sure when, but too young to say here), so it was not a sexuality issue for me as an adult. What was tougher, however was introducing my VERY conservatively-raised wife to it. She eventually warmed up and plays with me now when I want it ( like Fuckmeat said, no power exchange necessary). She has massive MASSIVE orgasms from anal, so she understood why I might want it And , yeah- why give us all these avenues of pleasure if we're not " allowed" to use them for pleasure?

 

[escriterra]

Your lucky lady!

I showed interest when my wife and I were in an up scale adult store. The place is in Minneapolis and they just opened a place in Denver. Called the Smitten Kitten. Any way, my wife asked what was in it for her. We explored different devices and wound up purchasing a feeldoe. The first time I used it was with it in her and I went down on her. She admitted that it was hot and one thing led to another...We both wound up happy. She was a bit hesitant at first but we explored the feeling of power and dominance that comes with the phalus. It got her turned on.

Men letting their women know what turns them on --- that's a given. Women being explicit on the same topic --- probably not as frequent, and what a shame! Your lucky lady, though, had the chance to discover a turn-on with her lover, and the fact that it includes the crazysexyhot shared intimacy of her feeldoe shaft proud and stiff as it announces that SHE is the one who will penetrate her lover --- ummm, how very delicious!

Such a turn-on, sadly, is missed by the vast majority of couples. To the ladies who discovered this delight at the urging of your guys, what did you think? To the men who opened themselves to their women's thrusts because it was something the ladies wanted to try, what did youu think?

 

[ChadSanDiegoCA]

looks like its normal...

 

[philos]

would love to try this but I'm pretty sure it is wayyy out of my wife's comfort zone.