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[Guest]

Ive been dating this girl i went to school with some years ago for close to 4 months now. THings are great except for the fact tat she is very sensative about her ears. She is 30% deaf in both of her ears and doesnt like me to look at, mention or touch her ears at all nd im wondering if this is something others have seen or registered and if its something wrong with me. Is there anything I can do to make her feel not so uncomfortable about it in general? I love her and dont want to do anything to hurt her at all but I also want to help her if I at all can

 

[SweetBrat73]

All you can really do is talk to her. Let her know that you love her, don't find her hearing loss a turn off, and just that you want to make her comfortable and find her ears sexy It may take awhile for her to be able to let down her guard...and then again she may never let it down. She's apparently very sensitive about it and it bothers her a great deal. Talking is really the only thing you can do. And keep reminding her that you love her no matter what.


Brat

 

[mskittykatt]

ditto that.
constant affirmations, always tell her how you feel and see her... this is really no different then most women, we all have our insecurities and things we hate about ourselves! it has helped me immensely when my bf and Master give me such support, slowly over time she'll be able to see herself through your eyes.

 

[Justine]

Different approach

I think that first you have to see if this is a problem only for her, or for you also. Although you love her, can you love her exactly the way she is? Can you love, not despite, but because she is sensitive about her ears, among all the other wonderful things she is?

If your answer is yes, then your actions will show her so. Respect her sensitiveness by not mentioning it. Let her feel comfortable about it, without feeling any kind of pressure from you.

If you touch her ears and she squirms away, just move to the next spot, not stopping what you are saying or doing. Actions like that will make her feel more comfortable about what she is, and will also give her extra strength to fight her own battle against the situation.

Talking might be a good thing for some, but for others (like myself) it can sound as pressure.