Straight guy + intersexed, uh, person.

[WCHSP]

Okay, so this is mostly hypothetical... I'm just wondering how sex with somebody who's intersexed works. Question comes about specifically because I recently met a very cute such person... biologically female, presents mostly as male but allows for generous ambiguity and, when I asked about preferred pronouns, said "they" would be best.

I don't expect to ever actually sleep with them. I'd like to, but they're a few years younger than me, yada yada. I'm just curious. I mean, like, I know how to please a woman, and they have a woman's physiology... but, for instance, if they intentionally wear clothing that hides/downplays breasts, does that mean I shouldn't pay attention to them, sexually?

Any intersexed people or anyone who's ever slept with one like to chip in? Maybe there's a "how to" guide somewhere? Just seems like a lot of my sexual knowledge might be kind of irrelevant. Kind of intimidated... and turned on.

 

[Etoile]

It's much harder to generalize with intersexed people than with transgender people. Every intersexed person has different biological appearance, and different experiences from growing up intersexed. There is no how-to guide, unfortunately - everyone is different. The best thing to do is treat them with respect, and ask what is okay and what isn't. They will appreciate it if you let them tell you what they prefer rather than making assumptions based on someone else's experience with an intersexed person.