Still Single (sigh)

[angstonice]

Well it hasn't worked any of the other times but why not keep at it?

26 M, 6'3 190 lbs. Dark blonde hair, brown eyes. I don't really know what to say. I don't drink, I don't have any children, I'm employed, well educated, well spoken. I honestly don't know why I can never seem to find anyone. I guess it has to do with the fact that I'm socially awkward. I don't like large crowds or loud music. I don't really drink much, and I have an amazing talent for always saying the wrong thing. I'm looking for someone who is smart enough to carry on a conversation, and who actually has something to talk about. Boring people bore me(go figure). Send a Pm if you want to talk, but if you can't write at a 12th grade level then don't bother.

Bumps are always appreciated.

 

[angstonice]

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[Juggins]

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[HornyWithBooks]

Dude, I'm a dude, so I can't offer anything other than...I feel your pain! I'm single as well.

 

[Suprdave]

Why don't you work on improving your social skills so you can better talk to women?

 

[CosairDix]

well, im forty and havent had a woman, and people say im good looking etc..... so stop complaining, im the one who should be complaining

 

[angstonice]

well, im forty and havent had a woman, and people say im good looking etc..... so stop complaining, im the one who should be complaining

go ahead man. i won't stop you.

 

[yumsum]

You say boring people bore you .. but you seem boring yourself. .. Seems like you are looking in the wrong places.
Just a thought .. not trying to be rude.

 

[inmyanonymity]

the girl of your dreams...

Well it hasn't worked any of the other times but why not keep at it?

26 M, 6'3 190 lbs. Dark blonde hair, brown eyes. I don't really know what to say. I don't drink, I don't have any children, I'm employed, well educated, well spoken. I honestly don't know why I can never seem to find anyone. I guess it has to do with the fact that I'm socially awkward. I don't like large crowds or loud music. I don't really drink much, and I have an amazing talent for always saying the wrong thing. I'm looking for someone who is smart enough to carry on a conversation, and who actually has something to talk about. Boring people bore me(go figure). Send a Pm if you want to talk, but if you can't write at a 12th grade level then don't bother.

Bumps are always appreciated.

Angstonice,

You need a better pitch!

You're 26 M, tall 6'3", good shape 190lbs, dark blonde with sexy brown eyes, into intimate spaces and subdued atmospheres, appreciate intelligent conversation, a sense of humor, and someone who loves life.

The girl of your dreams is out there, just waiting for you! Go for it!

 

[fetishboy666]

i can be your soul mate

 

[reenaips339]

bump bump bump

bump bump bump

 

[angstonice]

Well thanks for all the advice. Well maybe my pitch does need some work, but humility is a virtue and I worry that If I sell myself too hard then i'll just end up disapointing people and wasting time.

Boring is not a word I use to describe myself. I'm not exactly sure how you got it out of that short post but I hope no one else does. As to what i'm looking for i'm not really sure. In the past I have found no common threads between the women that I have cared about. I guess it's just one of those try it and see things.

 

[rydia57]

Gad you must be realllllly desperate to end your freedom and "settle down" well thats what you want. The force is with you!

 

[inmyanonymity]

Well thanks for all the advice. Well maybe my pitch does need some work, but humility is a virtue and I worry that If I sell myself too hard then i'll just end up disapointing people and wasting time.

Boring is not a word I use to describe myself. I'm not exactly sure how you got it out of that short post but I hope no one else does. As to what i'm looking for i'm not really sure. In the past I have found no common threads between the women that I have cared about. I guess it's just one of those try it and see things.

Look for common interests- whether sexual, political, movies, yoga, etc. That's a good place to start.

And it isn't about 'disappointing people' - the fact that you are worried about that tells me you believe you aren't what 'most' girls are looking for.

Why limit yourself to 'most girls'? There are those other girls with unique personas who don't want a 'typical' guy- especially here on Lit.

 

[DrummerBoy418]

Try being 5'5 for your entire life man. That is such a turn-off to girls. I've yet to meet ONE who likes a short guy.

 

[inmyanonymity]

Try being 5'5 for your entire life man. That is such a turn-off to girls. I've yet to meet ONE who likes a short guy.

Are you kidding? I dated guys that were short and tall. And I'm almost 5'7" and I like wearing heels. I had a high school friend who was 5'8" and she only dated shorter guys. She liked to play Amazon.

I'm taken now, but I know for a fact that being 5'5" isn't the end, some of the coolest husbands/dads I know are your height.

 

[DrummerBoy418]

Are you kidding? I dated guys that were short and tall. And I'm almost 5'7" and I like wearing heels. I had a high school friend who was 5'8" and she only dated shorter guys. She liked to play Amazon.

I'm taken now, but I know for a fact that being 5'5" isn't the end, some of the coolest husbands/dads I know are your height.

Well I wish I could meet some women like that then. All I've ever had is bad luck with my height. *shrugs*

 

[angstonice]

It isn't really about ending freedom, just finding someone to share it with. I don't see relationships as limiting or constrictive. At least it has never been a problem in the past. I have always been able to keep my space and time to myself when I needed it.

I'm pretty sure I'm not what most women are looking for. That's why I'm here. I like science fiction literature and television, and like to play dungeons and dragons. Guys like me are a dime a dozen these days but try finding women who like that stuff. which brings us to...

common interests: I know that it is important in relationships, but people often times have interests that they don't realize they have. Additionally, time appart is an important factor in any healthy relationship and having seperate friends and interests provides that. So having too much in common seems like it could be a problem as well. Personally I have found that actively sharing and participating in the things your partner enjoys can be a lot of fun.

I like women who can engage in heated rhetoric without becoming angry or frustrated. I would love to meet one who could best be in some moot debate. Also I find that I am always drawn to the wiccan/pagan spiritual types. This is extremely unfortunate for me. I myself do not set much stock by that sort of thing and I think I get a bit defensive around them as they threaten my understanding of the world. But for some reason I find them irresistable. well this has gone on longer than I wanted it to. I'll stop for now. Thank-you again everyone.

 

[angstonice]

oops, I forgot drummer boy. I don't know any women who are specifically into short guys. But my grandfather is about 5'5 and my grandmother married him. I'm sure you'll find someone sooner or later. maybe you should start a thread. you might be suprised.

 

[tastylover]

This is just my personal opinion, so take it with a grain of salt. It seems that the people who are always desperate to "find the one" tend to meet other people who are desperate to "find the one" and that adds a lot of unnecessary stress into something that really shouldn't be stressful. Work on you being happy. Do things that make you happy. At the same time, nothing stops you from trying new things to see if they make you happy too.

Basically, take care of yourself and keep a weather eye out for new people that you meet. Make friends with folk, make nice, enjoy yourself. Don't let finding "the one" dominate your life... that's not healthy or attractive.

And, as a person who would describe himself similarly to your own description... are you being completely honest with yourself when you look in the mirror? I know I get lonesome and wish for that special relationship sometimes, but I also am honest enough with myself to realize I'm a little too selfish to make a real relationship work right now. Many times I'd reather spend time doing what I enjoy on my own than spending time with other people. That's not an attitude that helps foster relationships. That's me, not necessarily you, but take a good look at yourself and what you are really ready for, and make sure all your priorities are in the right place.

Cheers, and good luck.

 

[angstonice]

all good thoughts. I'm not sure what it is I sad that makes me come across as being in a hurry. I really don't want to rush into anything. I figure if I sart early then i'll have plenty of time to be selective. So I put up the thread. maybe something will come of it maybe not. If it doesn't work I'll just put it up again in a few months.

 

[tastylover]

No worries, I just think that the most important thing is taking care of yourself. If you feel good about yourself and are open to meeting and making friends with new people, and put finding that special someone out of the front of your mind, things will go better (if nothing else, you will get more satisfaction out of life). Think of it like The Matrix. There is no spoon.

And the point about selling yourself made earlier... when you do post an add or personal about yourself, don't be defeatest and negative, its a definite turn-off. Keep things up-beat. Everyone has their little flaws, and anyone who tries to tell you they are perfect are selling you something. So show everything good about you there is to show, and save the flaws for later in the relationship, if one develops.

 

[Flowerbox]

Hang in there, Angstonice. You sound like a very nice guy, & I'm sure you'll find someone if you just keep looking.

 

[lily4u]

Inmyanonymity and Tasty Lover - you speak so wisely.

Here's my two cents worth: You should aim to be a complete and fulfilled person as you are - on your own. It can be a challenge, but it's a very attractive quality. Then... when you find your new relationship, it's the icing on the cake... very lickable.

And you know, liking D&D and Star Trek does throw up some negative connotations for a lot of women, but this is a site with some rare personalities and a lot of open-mindedness... so just be who you are and one day a rare and open-minded young woman will sweep you off your feet, preferably onto your back, where she will ravish you relentlessly, between bouts of intelligent conversation. Don't necessarily look for someone who also loves D&D and Star Trek (less women are into them than men) but someone who appreciates your enthusiasm for them.

How about sharing a picture of yourself on your profile? That helps.

Good luck... licks and kisses xx

 

[inmyanonymity]

...raises glass to lily4u and Tasty Lover.


Angstonice, Yes, a picture is a good start, too, and 'sharing' is always nice!

Drummer, I do believe you will meet 'that' girl!