gentle_at_heart
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Could you be my submissive man? (long but worth reading)
Hello and welcome to my personal ad,
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Updated 15 March 2009, even though the things we desire most in life tend to change little over time.
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It may have grown a little long winded but I hope those who decide to take the time and read it will gain a detailed and accurate picture of who I am and what I am looking for.
I believe that anyone interested in any kind of serious relationship, including power exchange, should take lots of time to get to know a potential partner, so I'd like to challenge you to read on and learn a little more about me.
I'm a 25 year old voluptuous woman who would love to take control of a willing mind and an eager body. I'm intelligent, an enjoyable conversationalist, value traditions, friendship and family ties. I'm a loyal person and a good advisor, have a daring streak hidden under a sweet and innocent demeanor.
Besides these, I have also many less appealing attributes, which you are likely to encounter along the way. Why spoil the fun of discovery?
What I'm preferably looking for:
I'd like to get in touch with single men - and single men only - who might be either curious or serious about submissive desires. At the moment I'm under no pressure to plunge into any relationship - and neither should you be. I do think long term though and would prefer an arrangement with real life compatibility and potential if desired by both sides.
My desires and needs exceed the purely sexual aspect, I am also looking for a sincere and lasting friendship, potentially romance with the possibility of a life long commitment.
Though I'm considered a dominant personality, my desire for control is mostly only bedroom oriented and in association with sexual activities. I'm an old fashioned, straight and monogamous person who'd like to keep such activities strictly private and is looking for a partner with a similar attitude. In other aspects of a relationship I'd prefer a healthy, well-balanced and mutually constructive attitude.
However, in control, I want to feel that my man is eager and focused on pleasing me. I expect him to treat me like his Queen and to yield to me and my desires completely. Activities I enjoy include flogging, spanking, mild bondage, restrained teasing, punishment and rewards, light CBT, potentially waxing, rough play - strictly safe and consensual - , denial, forced masturbation and chastity, lots of oral play - both given and received - bathing and pampering, massages, personal servitude and being the gentle and clingy one at heart: lots of cuddling.
Off limits are: scat, incestuous games, besstality and anything that involves blood. I don't find pleasure in degrading and humiliating a submissive either. If it should happen, than strictly only as a severe punishment. Dominating a person includes messing with his mind too quite a bit and I have no intention of making anyone feel bad about themselves. I'm not a hardcore person, but I'm sure you've already noticed that.
I can enjoy the thrill and might even need to switch or be simply vanilla from time to time but I have learned that being in charge works better for me on the long run.
I am generally protective when it comes to people that are important in my life. I could best enjoy a man who desired a harsh and demanding, sometimes even unfair and teasing mistress in the bedroom but would also need and appreciate a loving and caring lady who enjoys to give him pleasure. Generally, I'd like to focus on mutual satisfaction, emotionally and physically.
I am usually attracted to strong and self assured and calm men, who know what they want in their professional as well as private life. I don't want and will not make my submissive a wimp. I admire good men of integrity in general as well as male strength and have no desire to break it, rather I'd like to bend it to my will. I want my submissive to be proud, feel cared for and good about himself and our relationship and strive to do his best in all areas of life.
I am very serious about mutual respect and open and honest communication, since without those basics I don't think that any relationship could be lasting on the long run and endure the ups and downs of life.
D/s doesn't exist for me without emotional attachment and trust and that works best when it grows as a natural by-product of a strong friendship in my experience. Therefor, first I'd like us to take our time and get to know each other.
For moral and practical reasons I'd like to ask for a reply from single, Caucasian, interested men only, preferably between 27-35 years of age, who might like to find out more after having read this post. Please introduce yourself and include what might have caught your eye or got you interested. Private contact information will be available later on in case of mutual interest.
If you have questions or comments of public interest, please post them in the thread. If you wish to receive a private answer include them in your reply.
I didn't include location specifications because circumstances change as life does. I imagine location would likely be a matter of negotiation with the right person once a mutual desire for a real life relationship is there. To at least give you an idea, I am presently located in Central Europe.
I'd like to add a thought about the age concerns that may arise as well: I'm first and foremost looking for a man who can be playful in daily living yet is also mature and serious in attitude and aware of his needs and expectations, what he wants from life and his partner. I realize that such knowledge isn't obligatorily age dependent, but I'd preferably stay within the realms of long term real life compatibility. Later on I'd like to settle down, hopefully have a family and share all the very simple, normal and boring joys and worries of life while growing old with someone; not just the steamy, sensual haze of burning erotic ecstasy.
I know what I'm looking for might sound very specific at first, but it is exactly what I want. And if only the right person should happen to read it, then it has been worth the effort.
I'm looking forward to hear from you.
Gentle_at_heart
Hello and welcome to my personal ad,
*
Updated 15 March 2009, even though the things we desire most in life tend to change little over time.
*
It may have grown a little long winded but I hope those who decide to take the time and read it will gain a detailed and accurate picture of who I am and what I am looking for.
I believe that anyone interested in any kind of serious relationship, including power exchange, should take lots of time to get to know a potential partner, so I'd like to challenge you to read on and learn a little more about me.
I'm a 25 year old voluptuous woman who would love to take control of a willing mind and an eager body. I'm intelligent, an enjoyable conversationalist, value traditions, friendship and family ties. I'm a loyal person and a good advisor, have a daring streak hidden under a sweet and innocent demeanor.
Besides these, I have also many less appealing attributes, which you are likely to encounter along the way. Why spoil the fun of discovery?
What I'm preferably looking for:
I'd like to get in touch with single men - and single men only - who might be either curious or serious about submissive desires. At the moment I'm under no pressure to plunge into any relationship - and neither should you be. I do think long term though and would prefer an arrangement with real life compatibility and potential if desired by both sides.
My desires and needs exceed the purely sexual aspect, I am also looking for a sincere and lasting friendship, potentially romance with the possibility of a life long commitment.
Though I'm considered a dominant personality, my desire for control is mostly only bedroom oriented and in association with sexual activities. I'm an old fashioned, straight and monogamous person who'd like to keep such activities strictly private and is looking for a partner with a similar attitude. In other aspects of a relationship I'd prefer a healthy, well-balanced and mutually constructive attitude.
However, in control, I want to feel that my man is eager and focused on pleasing me. I expect him to treat me like his Queen and to yield to me and my desires completely. Activities I enjoy include flogging, spanking, mild bondage, restrained teasing, punishment and rewards, light CBT, potentially waxing, rough play - strictly safe and consensual - , denial, forced masturbation and chastity, lots of oral play - both given and received - bathing and pampering, massages, personal servitude and being the gentle and clingy one at heart: lots of cuddling.
Off limits are: scat, incestuous games, besstality and anything that involves blood. I don't find pleasure in degrading and humiliating a submissive either. If it should happen, than strictly only as a severe punishment. Dominating a person includes messing with his mind too quite a bit and I have no intention of making anyone feel bad about themselves. I'm not a hardcore person, but I'm sure you've already noticed that.
I can enjoy the thrill and might even need to switch or be simply vanilla from time to time but I have learned that being in charge works better for me on the long run.
I am generally protective when it comes to people that are important in my life. I could best enjoy a man who desired a harsh and demanding, sometimes even unfair and teasing mistress in the bedroom but would also need and appreciate a loving and caring lady who enjoys to give him pleasure. Generally, I'd like to focus on mutual satisfaction, emotionally and physically.
I am usually attracted to strong and self assured and calm men, who know what they want in their professional as well as private life. I don't want and will not make my submissive a wimp. I admire good men of integrity in general as well as male strength and have no desire to break it, rather I'd like to bend it to my will. I want my submissive to be proud, feel cared for and good about himself and our relationship and strive to do his best in all areas of life.
I am very serious about mutual respect and open and honest communication, since without those basics I don't think that any relationship could be lasting on the long run and endure the ups and downs of life.
D/s doesn't exist for me without emotional attachment and trust and that works best when it grows as a natural by-product of a strong friendship in my experience. Therefor, first I'd like us to take our time and get to know each other.
For moral and practical reasons I'd like to ask for a reply from single, Caucasian, interested men only, preferably between 27-35 years of age, who might like to find out more after having read this post. Please introduce yourself and include what might have caught your eye or got you interested. Private contact information will be available later on in case of mutual interest.
If you have questions or comments of public interest, please post them in the thread. If you wish to receive a private answer include them in your reply.
I didn't include location specifications because circumstances change as life does. I imagine location would likely be a matter of negotiation with the right person once a mutual desire for a real life relationship is there. To at least give you an idea, I am presently located in Central Europe.
I'd like to add a thought about the age concerns that may arise as well: I'm first and foremost looking for a man who can be playful in daily living yet is also mature and serious in attitude and aware of his needs and expectations, what he wants from life and his partner. I realize that such knowledge isn't obligatorily age dependent, but I'd preferably stay within the realms of long term real life compatibility. Later on I'd like to settle down, hopefully have a family and share all the very simple, normal and boring joys and worries of life while growing old with someone; not just the steamy, sensual haze of burning erotic ecstasy.
I know what I'm looking for might sound very specific at first, but it is exactly what I want. And if only the right person should happen to read it, then it has been worth the effort.
I'm looking forward to hear from you.
Gentle_at_heart
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