Stereotyping

[ExistentialLuv]

I watched a movie this weekend called But I'm A Cheerleader. It was one of the funniest shows I have watched in a long time. I can not believe how people sterotype lesbians. I have been out of the closet for a long time but I have been a recluse for 9 years. So I have not kept up with what has happened to the world around me. I am bi but have not been with a man for 5 years and never will be again. When I came out to my friends that I went to highschool with and my mom and family all of them replied the same way, " We are not surprised, kind of knew it all along." They could have clued me in to this fact. So I asked them why they thought the way they did.

Your a tomboy
Do not wear make-up
never played with barbies but with Tonkas
You do not shave your legs
Could not get you to wear a dress
You really never dated in highschool
You have no kids
You have never been married
Into to football way to much
You have had a female companion for 9 years (was never sexual just real close friends)
You just stared a little to long at a pretty girl when there was a gorgous guy there to
And it goes on and on
And the most recent one, You wear a doo rag

Honestly I just thought I was a tree hugger.

Are these stereotpical remarks or observations?

 

[april-wine]

I would say stereotypical remarks....

Of your list maybe 4 of those remarks apply to me....I know of a few "tree huggers" that fit those statements to a tee....Oh and they are straight....So no one fits a mould, luckily we all march by a slightly different drum....My girlfriend would not fit many of those traits at all....

People see what they wanna see....

 

[ExistentialLuv]

By the way if you want a good laugh rent the movie. Has nothing to do with cheerleading, just how sterotypical people can be. I did not find it offensive and do not think you will either. Of course I can laugh at who I am.

 

[Never]

ExistentialLuv:
"I am bi but have not been with a man for 5 years and never will be again."
Whyfore?

"Your a tomboy"
Once upon a time.

"Do not wear make-up"
Yes.

"never played with barbies but with Tonkas"
I used to strip He-man and Barbie naked, have them 69 one another, and place them in different parts of the house.

"You do not shave your legs"
I do on occation.

Could not get you to wear a dress"
I wore one for senior prom.

"You really never dated in highschool"
True.

"You have no kids &
You have never been married"
This applies to most women my age in college

"Into to football way to much"
Sports?

"You have had a female companion for 9 years"
The most I've ever been friends with someone is two years.

"You just stared a little to long at a pretty girl when there was a gorgous guy there to"
That would be rude.

"You wear a doo rag"
I have no idea what a doo rag is. Or a don't rag for that matter. Fashion is not my forte.

 

[pollyjean]

Re: Re: Stereotyping

ExistentialLuv:
[i"You wear a doo rag"
I have no idea what a doo rag is. Or a don't rag for that matter. Fashion is not my forte.

A doo rag is a bandana that is worn on your head.

LOL existentialLuv says like a biker bitch..

 

[WhisperHaven]

I think butch and soft butch lesbians (oi, again with the labels) are what outside society deems as stereotypical. Two of my best friends are lesbian partners and they are both women whom I would never have guessed were lesbians had I not slept with each of them before they hooked up.

Damn, I miss those lovely ladies.

 

[Queersetti]

Re: Re: Re: Stereotyping

A doo rag is a bandana that is worn on your head.

LOL existentialLuv says like a biker bitch..

As in hair-do rag.

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

If I recall that's the movie about the girl who's parents send her to straight camp.

Silly, dumb, stupid movie. I mean gosh, if your trying to get someone to go straight you DON'T pair them up with a same gender buddy!

*please note the eye rolling etc. going on*

I watched it with my daughter and we were cracking up.

 

[Never]

I want to go to straight camp.

Camp Leader: Okay, everyone, split into two teams for softball.
Never: But I hate softball.
Camp Leader: Good work, Never. Here's a gold star!

 

[ExistentialLuv]

I want to go to straight camp.

Camp Leader: Okay, everyone, split into two teams for softball.
Never: But I hate softball.
Camp Leader: Good work, Never. Here's a gold star!

HA HA HA HA rofl
Very Witty, you get a hat tip, No wait my doo-rag off to you.

Camp Leader: Ok ladies go gather wood for the campfire
Ex: But leader that is a man's job
Camp Leader: Great job, Ex. You pass the course.

My favorite part of the movie was the electro shock therapy. I need to get Pollyjean one of those toys. Ohhh electricity. CREAM

 

[Etoile]

Your a tomboy
No, but this leaves out half the lesbian population anyway. Not everybody's butch.
Do not wear make-up
True. Only on special occasions, and then only a little bit of lipstick and mascara.
never played with barbies but with Tonkas
Nope, I played with Barbies. I chewed off their feet.
You do not shave your legs
True, but that's partly laziness and partly because I always, always cut myself. I had a traumatic experience the first time I shaved (my mom handed me a disposable razor and didn't tell me how to use it or even to use shaving cream or soap) so I pretty much don't ever shave. I got waxed before I went to Grenada in April because I didn't want to be all hairy in my bikini.
Could not get you to wear a dress
I wear pants 90% of the time, but I like to wear a dress from time to time.
You really never dated in highschool
I had crushes on boys and girls in high school, but I never dated. I was too busy with academics.
You have no kids
True for now, but my girlfriend wants to be the one to get pregnant anyway.
You have never been married
Not legally, no.
Into to football way to much
Only because I was in marching band in high school and we had to sit there for every game. It took me a year to even understand how the game was played, and I've since forgotten.
You have had a female companion for 9 years (was never sexual just real close friends)
What's this about never sexual? Bullshit!
You just stared a little to long at a pretty girl when there was a gorgous guy there to
I'll stare at anything I think is pretty, but my head turns on the street for women and not for guys.
And the most recent one, You wear a doo rag
I haven't heard of this as a lesbian stereotype.

Are these stereotpical remarks or observations?

Sure, they're stereotypical. Very much so. They also leave out a lot of stereotypes.

 

[Etoile]

I want to go to straight camp.

Camp Leader: Okay, everyone, split into two teams for softball.
Never: But I hate softball.
Camp Leader: Good work, Never. Here's a gold star!

Bwahaha! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/wink-thumbsup.gif

I was drafted onto a company softball team once. My coworkers all thought it was hilarious that their token lesbian (me) couldn't play worth a damn.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

You have had a female companion for 9 years (was never sexual just real close friends) Bullshit

No never was sexual. Why does everyone think I am lying when I tell them that. You can be that close with someone and not have sex with them. She said she was into me but did not want to ruin are friendship with sex. Friendship was more important, but she used the " I do want you" as a weapon against my feelings for finding another and keeping me with her. I had been abstinent for five years till I meet Pollyjean.

 

[MzChrista]

I want to go to straight camp.

Camp Leader: Okay, everyone, split into two teams for softball.
Never: But I hate softball.
Camp Leader: Good work, Never. Here's a gold star!

Hahaha.

I played softball but thats still funny.

 

[MzChrista]

No never was sexual. Why does everyone think I am lying when I tell them that. You can be that close with someone and not have sex with them. She said she was into me but did not want to ruin are friendship with sex. Friendship was more important, but she used the " I do want you" as a weapon against my feelings for finding another and keeping me with her. I had been abstinent for five years till I meet Pollyjean.

I dont think she was saying bullshit to you babe. Just to the question.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Bwahaha! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/wink-thumbsup.gif

I was drafted onto a company softball team once. My coworkers all thought it was hilarious that their token lesbian (me) couldn't play worth a damn.

I played softball when I was in the Airforce. I was in the outfield to start, but when I kept getting knocked out by the ball they made me a catcher. You see I have a real bad mouth and I loved to offend people, and was not affraid to stand between the runner and home plate. Are team went from 7th place to winning the base championship.