Stay Safe, be Careful

[Dreamliner]

There is currently a murder trial in my country, where unfortunately a young early 20's woman died due to asphyxiation, but the match up was for a BDSM session. She had only been in-country for two days, they met on Tinder. I have some knowledge on background due to a close person being one of the official people involved.

She was into experiencing BDSM, there would "appear to be" an element he wanted to see how far he could go. Clearly it went too far. Very tragic for her family as they live through this trial.

This is not what most of us here on Lit expect. For those new to this, take it slow, be comfortable, stay sober, have an out.

 

[cascadiabound]

This is a very sad story for all involved.
And a good warning/reminder.

All that choking play with sex *looks* so fun and enticing in those porn stills and clips, but it is SO EASY to misunderstand where it is safe to press and where it will easily end up with a terrible outcome.

I would echo Dreamliner's recommendations... educate yourself, go slow, don't play with strangers, have a clear understanding of consent and limits and have an out/back up plan.

No matter how exciting all this kinky fun stuff is, it is not worth dying over.

 

[cookiecat]

Several years ago, a woman where I live was found dead, stuffed in a suitcase which was inside a car left at the airport.

The person who did it met her on a kink site.

I'm on that site, have been on it for years. Prior to being found, I remember getting a message from someone who was looking for her. He was messaging everyone on the site from the area wondering if we knew her.

About a year later, they found her.

I thought about the times I'd met someone in an unsafe way. That could've been me.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Several years ago, a woman where I live was found dead, stuffed in a suitcase which was inside a car left at the airport.

The person who did it met her on a kink site.

I'm on that site, have been on it for years. Prior to being found, I remember getting a message from someone who was looking for her. He was messaging everyone on the site from the area wondering if we knew her.

About a year later, they found her.

I thought about the times I'd met someone in an unsafe way. That could've been me.

But it wasn’t.

I’m so sorry for this woman. I engage in choke fucking, and I would ONLY ever think to do it with someone I communicated fully with, and who is experienced.
You are literally trusting someone with your life in this situation. Don’t take it lightly.

 

[Dreamliner]

Guilty of murder. There has been a collective sigh of thank you, the jury got it right. Five hours deliberation.

Now the truth is cascading out on this male that hid behind BDSM to cover his desire and need to subjugate women. His family are talking openly about his unusual behavior.

BDSM is not physical or psychological abuse, there is a significant difference between trust, confidence and consent, and abuse.

The family member delivered a personal message to the family.

"I'm just so incredibly sorry for their loss. To know it's one of our family members, even though it's not from our actions, is very difficult and I can't imagine the pain and hurt and what they've got to go through court, hearing all the stuff about BDSM and all the actions... it's just so ridiculous," he said.

"And to me that's because he doesn't have any shred of a decent human being inside of him and couldn't just confess to the fact that he murdered her."

D

 

[DVS]

While this turned out to be murder in the most indecent of ways, even though the woman trusted him to stay safe, I thought I'd take this occasion to attach one of my posts from the past.

It's just a safety post, really, stating the obvious, unless you tend to look past the obvious and go for the exciting and/or erotic. So sorry for this woman, as she should still be alive today. We do have our share of fake doms walking around.

Many of them are novices, but many of them are sick and demented, with ulterior motives in mind. A woman looking to be sexually submissive with her partner is very tempting to a dominant man. But, it can also be very tempting to tie a willing woman up and do any number of things to her. Unfortunately the list is endless and it can end up in death.

But, the below link is about the mistakes that can often happen, when engaging in the many versions of edge play that are out there. Choking, the topic of this thread, is one of them. I hope everybody reads this post and understands those who are are long time enthusiasts of any of these kinks can end up forgetting the rules of safe play, or enjoy taking the risk of going a bit further than they normally do, for that added bit of satisfaction. Don't assume you have things under control. You have to know that you do.

This link is also in my signature, if you ever want to share it, in the future.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=926509

 

[Nzerxx]

This guy has finally been named
PIECE OF SHIT that he is

He wasn't named because there wer other sexual violation charges outstanding but he has just been found guilty on all of those as well

When the judge found him guilty of the last one he ranted at the judge yelling "You're full of shit"

Doesn't EVER deserve to get out!

 

[barefootgirl69]

A very good reminder for all of us.