Starting Over or Just Getting Started

[crazybbwgirl]

I know the feeling. I wish you good luck. Maybe you can share some of the things that you are doing to get back in the groove.

Still trying to get over the grumbling stage.... grrrrrrrrr Wondering whether I should put my profile back up on Collarme? Anybody else use that place? They seem to have lots of members to my my area. That helps a bit.

 

[A Desert Rose]

You know, a lot of this is mindset. I don't see it as starting over. Instead I see it as a continuing and evolving thing.

Cellis, you said yourself that you had changed your "approach. Before I was more open and willing to accept some things that today are no longer acceptable. I also have a better feeling of what I am looking for today and what I want my in PLY." In short, you've grown up ;-) and changed. And you're not willing to settle for the same things, in a Dom, that you might have settled for before.

Personally, I think a sub needs to know her own self and mind before she is worth anything to anyone else. I think you're on the right path and doing all the sensible things, Cellis.

And by the way... I think it's MY dime this time, for the phone call, dolly.

 

[cellis]

You know, a lot of this is mindset. I don't see it as starting over. Instead I see it as a continuing and evolving thing.

Cellis, you said yourself that you had changed your "approach. Before I was more open and willing to accept some things that today are no longer acceptable. I also have a better feeling of what I am looking for today and what I want my in PLY." In short, you've grown up ;-) and changed. And you're not willing to settle for the same things, in a Dom, that you might have settled for before.

Personally, I think a sub needs to know her own self and mind before she is worth anything to anyone else. I think you're on the right path and doing all the sensible things, Cellis.

And by the way... I think it's MY dime this time, for the phone call, dolly.

Thanks Rosie. I have grown and know myself and needs better.

I think you are right about evolving in the scheme of things. But then that is how I feel about life in general. It is a journey, not a destination.


Ok your dime.... call me anytime!

 

[Vixandra]

A lot of very good pyl questions and answers, thank you Cellis for the answers.

I'm new into this world, for all that I've been prowling about here for about 2 years or something like that. So seeing the other half's pov when looking for something new is very informative. That sounds too clinical but can't bring my brain to form something less... steril. Or somethin like that.

And the "online play" people extend to the submissive side too. Had one who just wanted me to walk her through masturbation
Nothing wrong with it but I am no one's sex toy and the the little wench had the audacity to "yell" at me over it.
*sighs*
And the hunt continues...

 

[A Desert Rose]

And to all of you subs on the look-out...

We have just witnessed what happens when you trust someone with personal information and pictures. Be careful who and what you share with someone who you have just recently met online.

People are unethical.
People are not trustworthy.
People are unkind.

Don't be fooled.

 

[roosterado9]

Its been said so much but better safe then sorry I am new I plan to take it very slow Love this thread and board

 

[Marquis]

And to all of you subs on the look-out...

We have just witnessed what happens when you trust someone with personal information and pictures. Be careful who and what you share with someone who you have just recently met online.

This is excellent advice.

People are unethical.
People are not trustworthy.
People are unkind.

Jim Morrison said it better than I ever could.

People are strange when you're a stranger
Faces look ugly when you're alone
Women seem wicked when you're unwanted
Streets are uneven when you're down

 

[BlueBanshee]

Oh and you might try masturbating just to take the edge off things....

Of course! Though there are some desires that just aren't easily quenched when you're playing alone.

Personally, I have played with someone who isn't my Dom (and that I trusted) before to keep the edge off when I couldn't be with my Dom for a long time. But I am curious if anyone has any other suggested outlets..?

 

[redelicious]

Just dropping by to say "hi" and wish you well in your search.

 

[Lorihw]

Removed by OP

 

[cellis]

Still trying to get over the grumbling stage.... grrrrrrrrr Wondering whether I should put my profile back up on Collarme? Anybody else use that place? They seem to have lots of members to my my area. That helps a bit.

I tried to cover most basis and put my profile at alt.com, bondage.com and collarme.

I now other people don't care for alt.com, but I have had the best luck meeting people there.

 

[cellis]

A lot of very good pyl questions and answers, thank you Cellis for the answers.

I'm new into this world, for all that I've been prowling about here for about 2 years or something like that. So seeing the other half's pov when looking for something new is very informative. That sounds too clinical but can't bring my brain to form something less... steril. Or somethin like that.

And the "online play" people extend to the submissive side too. Had one who just wanted me to walk her through masturbation
Nothing wrong with it but I am no one's sex toy and the the little wench had the audacity to "yell" at me over it.
*sighs*
And the hunt continues...

I have very little on line experience. I do have a rule that I don't play on line with someone I am seeking to develop a RL relationship with.

I hope someone with more experience in that area will stop by with some suggestions.

 

[cellis]

And to all of you subs on the look-out...

We have just witnessed what happens when you trust someone with personal information and pictures. Be careful who and what you share with someone who you have just recently met online.

People are unethical.
People are not trustworthy.
People are unkind.

Don't be fooled.

So true. Thanks for bring this to the forefront.

 

[cellis]

Of course! Though there are some desires that just aren't easily quenched when you're playing alone.

Personally, I have played with someone who isn't my Dom (and that I trusted) before to keep the edge off when I couldn't be with my Dom for a long time. But I am curious if anyone has any other suggested outlets..?

How about volunteering to be a demonstration sub at your local club events. Mine is always wanting subs for demonstrating different things.

 

[cellis]

Just dropping by to say "hi" and wish you well in your search.

Hello red... It is nice to see you.

 

[cellis]

I think I am just by nature way too trusting. The guy I've been emailing with assigned me to take erotic pics of myself and send them to him - somehow I'm now seeing that as a very very very bad idea. (even though I somehow missed all the drama today)

I, too, have done somethings in the past that I would not do today. It is always good to think things through before acting.

 

[cellis]

I have very little on line experience. I do have a rule that I don't play on line with someone I am seeking to develop a RL relationship with.

I hope someone with more experience in that area will stop by with some suggestions.

After I wrote this, it occurred to me that I once had a South African Dom who wanted me to be his sub. He had elaborate tasks and things I was to do for him, including downlooading a program so that I could record my voice and orgasm for him and send them to him through email. He also wanted me to keep a diary and perform certain task daily.

I think if you are developing an online relationship some of these things could be considered.

I certainly knew he was in charge of this if I wanted to be in a relationship with him.

 

[roosterado9]

new sub here I am a moth attracted to a womans inner fire like the moth to the flame roosterado9 on yahoo

 

[Lorihw]

A little update

Removed by OP

 

[crazybbwgirl]

sigh* I haven't even had the ambition/desire/heart to start looking again. I just had everything right perfect and *poof* at the drop of an email I"m back to square one. Older, wiser, but square one none the less...

 

[cellis]

sigh* I haven't even had the ambition/desire/heart to start looking again. I just had everything right perfect and *poof* at the drop of an email I"m back to square one. Older, wiser, but square one none the less...

I spent almost a year feeling like that. It gets better.