spying ...well kinda....

[joyride3441]

So my G/f likes to use a small vibe on her clit when we have sex and I think it's hot seeing her use it as I'm pounding her. So lately I have been taking notice where it's placed in the sex drawer. When I suspect she's been naughty on her own, I look in the drawer and its def In a different spot. Do you think leaving a note in the drawer like "think of me" is a sexy idea ?

 

[Beck31]

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[joyride3441]

Any women have opinions?

 

[MatthewVett]

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Shocking.

 

[Cookie123]

I would just leave it alone. I would hate to think someone was checking on me. It may sound sexy to you to leave a note, but I wouldn't care for it if masturbation wasn't something openly discussed. Does she write on the palm of your hand? I didn't think so.

I send my s/o a 'High Five!' text when I enjoy alone time, as does he to me. We know it gets the other excited & we love knowing. Again, we are pretty damn open about what gets us going.

 

[Cookie123]

Shocking.

Hmm..interesting.

 

[avidreader9445]

Good answer

Cookie, I think you're on target. So much depends on the acceptability of knowing in the relationship. She could very well fell her privacy has been invaded. Since the topic is so open in your relationship, would you get a kick out of a note like that?

 

[Cookie123]

Since the topic is so open in your relationship, would you get a kick out of a note like that?

I would!!

 

[rbone04]

So my G/f likes to use a small vibe on her clit when we have sex and I think it's hot seeing her use it as I'm pounding her. So lately I have been taking notice where it's placed in the sex drawer. When I suspect she's been naughty on her own, I look in the drawer and its def In a different spot. Do you think leaving a note in the drawer like "think of me" is a sexy idea ?

Key words here... If she keeps her vibrator "in the drawer", she intends for it NOT to be looked at. If this is the only way you know she's been masturbating "on her own" and she's not telling you for a reason. If she intends to keep that time private, then leaving a note will only tip her off that:

1.) You're snooping through her private shit.

2.) Likely give her the impression that the drawer - WHICH she keeps perhaps her most personal belongings in - isn't the only place you're snooping. And...

3.) Make her feel like you are treating her as a "suspect".

In other words...

I would just leave it alone. I would hate to think someone was checking on me. It may sound sexy to you to leave a note, but I wouldn't care for it if masturbation wasn't something openly discussed. Does she write on the palm of your hand? I didn't think so.

I send my s/o a 'High Five!' text when I enjoy alone time, as does he to me. We know it gets the other excited & we love knowing. Again, we are pretty damn open about what gets us going.

...what Cookie said.

 

[Emerson40]

So my G/f likes to use a small vibe on her clit when we have sex and I think it's hot seeing her use it as I'm pounding her. So lately I have been taking notice where it's placed in the sex drawer. When I suspect she's been naughty on her own, I look in the drawer and its def In a different spot. Do you think leaving a note in the drawer like "think of me" is a sexy idea ?

It's not "spying, kinda", it's spying. And kinda creepy. Do you put a light pencil mark on the side of the lube bottle and check the level for use?
She's not hiding anything from you (yet), and the vibe is in the sex drawer where it belongs. She has an expectation of privacy, which is not unreasonable, even (especially) in a relationship. Even in a relationship with a sex drawer.

So lately I have been taking notice where it's placed in the sex drawer.

What's happened recently that you've had to start taking notice of where the vibe is being left. Maybe she's noticed your noticing and moves the vibe to mess with your head.
Maybe it just gets moved when she's looking for condoms in the sex drawer to fool around with her other not-so-nosy-constantly-going-through-my-stuff-boyfriend.

Why don't you count and keep track of her tampons next, and leave a cute note when one or two go missing, asking her to give Aunt Flo a hug for you. Chicks really dig this.

 

[Aurelia_Malys]

To the OP, I dont think you intended it this way, but when I read your original post it really annoyed me. My first husband used to "make note" of where my toys might be and would comment if they had been moved. It created a huge resentment from me toward him and made me want to play more by myself and not at all with him.

On the one hand, I can see the note being a cute idea .... but truly I can see how it would annoy me more than anything. A note like that would make me feel like my partner was jealous of me playing alone and and that would only divide us.

 

[joyride3441]

Well it's not a private drawer. It's " our" drawer. She uses the same one when we have sex.

 

[perkin]

Well it's not a private drawer. It's " our" drawer. She uses the same one when we have sex.

Uses the same vibe? Or is there other 'stuff' you incorporate into your sexual encounters?

I don't really want to know - just don't OK? It's not going to be well received.

 

[monkeyman057]

I think, as Cookie implied, that it really depends on what level of communication there is in the relationship. My wife and I don't ALWAYS tell each other when we fly solo, but she will tell me on occasion and she usually knows when I'm doing it.

If it's a case where you two are open about this kind of activity then I would think it would be ok - though perhaps you should rethink the message you're leaving for her. If she's NOT thinking of you when she uses her vib, then your request that she do so may be a little off-putting. Maybe write her a story and leave it there for her to read - something to enhance the experience as opposed to more or less demanding to be a part of it by proxy.

If it's a shared drawer and she's not going out of her way to hide this activity then it may be ok. A shared drawer is more or less 'in the open' between the two of you and I don't really see this as spying or creepy, it's merely making an observation. None of us know your girlfriend so you'll have to make that character judgement on your own. I would be cautious though - as guys we tend to project our sexual proclivities on to our partners whether or not we know for sure that they share them.

 

[ejredlady]

there is no good outcome from snooping. You may not like the answers for the extra curricular play time.

 

[1Browneyedguy]

I agree

Just leave it alone

 

[shewantsmore]

having anyone spying on you is never a good idea,just leave it