I'm a little new if it wasn't too painfully obvious, but here it goes. Would love to hear some advice from someone with two X chromosomes regarding bringing up anal sex in the bedroom. I know this might seem a little cliche but I've been wanting to spice my routine sex up for awhile and need a little help. Much appreciated!
Spicing Up the Routine
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jayceedeekay
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There is a saying about it being better to ask for forgiveness than permission..
As in - do not bring it up - verbally at least. If you are having to ask this question here, I have to assume that there is some religious or cultural block in the department, Sodom and Gomorrah and all that.
You need to make the ass play happen during the normal course of events. Stroke her while eating her and let your fingers stray onto her ass. Jut hold it there with slight pressure. Or when doing it doggie style. See how she reacts. Apply a bit of pressure when she comes. Does she pull away? Dies she seem comfortable with your presence there? First prize is her pushing back against your finger on her ass. Go slow... Build trust and be gentle. Think about this as a non-verbal question that she has to answer physically.
Good luck
As in - do not bring it up - verbally at least. If you are having to ask this question here, I have to assume that there is some religious or cultural block in the department, Sodom and Gomorrah and all that.
You need to make the ass play happen during the normal course of events. Stroke her while eating her and let your fingers stray onto her ass. Jut hold it there with slight pressure. Or when doing it doggie style. See how she reacts. Apply a bit of pressure when she comes. Does she pull away? Dies she seem comfortable with your presence there? First prize is her pushing back against your finger on her ass. Go slow... Build trust and be gentle. Think about this as a non-verbal question that she has to answer physically.
Good luck
Athalia
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OOOH I hate that answer! Always ask for permission first! But you're more likely to get it if she's already aroused to the point that she's open to at least a finger intruding on her anus while you're paying proper attention to her lady bits. If she likes it, ask for more. If she doesn't, drop the subject.
I've never been one for teaching kids to swim by throwing them in the water. Even if you say you're sorry afterward.
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How far does she let you play around her rear? If you started rimming her back there will she like jump away like a scared rabbit or will she moan in pleasure?
Just touch, just come close, but never any direct pressure on it. If she recoils or freeze, stop.
She may be more amenable if you already climaxed her once or twice.
And you'll need to get her a butt plug, start with a small one. Vibrator optional.
And make very sure you have permission to continue. Surprise does NOT work here.
Just touch, just come close, but never any direct pressure on it. If she recoils or freeze, stop.
She may be more amenable if you already climaxed her once or twice.
And you'll need to get her a butt plug, start with a small one. Vibrator optional.
And make very sure you have permission to continue. Surprise does NOT work here.
annabellsmith
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Very interesting thread. Although I'm not supposed to comment (as I'm a lady) I love all the advice!
Conager
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Sounds like you have met the Donald of grab 'em in the ass.
I kid.
I more or less agree with this. How a person reacts to wandering hands even before you actually get to uncharted territory tells a lot. Does she tense up? React like it's "dirty?" Good dirty, or bad dirty?
Some people don't seem to be able to read nonverbals, which can be a huge problem.
If you have a history of misunderstanding people's verbal and nonverbal cues it is probably best to err on the side of caution.
Conager
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Actually you are; that's what he meant by two x's. The OP seems to be looking for wank fodder from women. He's not looking for actual ideas or experience that worked or didn't, else would be open to also ask men, who would obviously have more opportunities to play with more women's asses than the woman who only has the one ass, and her own reactions, that she has experience with.
annabellsmith
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Thank you darlin! It's been a long wonderful weekend and I read it wrong.
Well then I won't really be much help since I asked my lover to help me check that off my bucket list. He obliged many times.
KayceeCharles
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I've had people who right off the bat ask if I have a cute rear end via PM... *sigh*
yukonnights
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I don't have the two chomosomes you asked for but.... There's a couple of words you use which you probably didn't really notice saying; 1) "I've been wanting"...2) "my routine sex". What if you changed that around to; We've been wanting to spice up our routine sex? What I'm getting at here is that you're probably asking the wrong people how to bring some meaning back into your sex life. It is your partner that can best go there with you.
Just some suggestions on how to enliven things a bit; 1) You didn't mention your ages, but it does matter since some folks do taper off in sex drive as they age...same general comment on long time partners/marriages. If there's no interest for sex then there's probably little you can do to revive it...sorry. 2) If you're both healthy and interested in sex, perhaps some shared intimate fantasy "pillow-talk"or shared porn (what could be more fun than pop-corn and porn
What turns her on? Maybe she would like to do anal on you, would you be okay with that? But I think you get the point - it's about intimacy and mutual explorations not manipulations to fulfill a fantasy.
