Spicing things up

[tom_novak]

My girlfriend and I are in a bit of a rut. We have what I call boring but effective sex. It's usually missionary after I go down on her and make her come. There's nothing wrong with that, but I wanted some ideas on how to make things more interesting, to get us both more creative.

I know, I know, talk to her, blah blah blah. I will.

Our first sex toy (the fukaku 9000) was a roaring success, so I thought that it's time to try more things.

 

[Hurricane1484]

Have you tried changing the setting?? Different places=different positions.. i.e. car, beach, woods, kitchen, dining room table, sinks, tubs. Is this helping?

 

[tigerjen]

try food play.......whipped cream.......strawberries.......
champagne........wine........

very sensuous and fun..................


tigerjen

 

[DuckLover]

Some people enjoy role-plays (doctor/nurse, teacher/student, cop/motorist, etc). You might also consider light bondage-- quick-release handcuffs or a blindfold for example. Get a copy of the illustrated kama sutra and agree to try one new thing a night; no commitment to keep doing it, just trying it.

Another thing that might open some doors would be to agree to write each other an explicit story. Doesn't necessarily have to include you two as characters. It would allow each of you to be creative and potentially start exploring some fantasies and learning more about what turns each other on.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[tigerjen]

Or you can read out loud to each other naughty stories....
whether from off of Lit, or different erotic books......I
recommend:

"The Sleeping Beauty" trilogy by A.N. Roquelaure
(that's Anne Rice's penname)

"Delta of Venus" & "Little Birds" by Anais Nin

Any of the "Best American Erotica" series, edited by
Susie Bright

"The Pearl" by Anonymous

There are a lot of books out there.....but this is only the
tip of the iceberg..........go for it!

 

[tom_novak]

Thanks tigerjen. A few ideas will get us on the right track. Last night we took things a little slower than usual, and that seemed to help.

 

[tigerjen]

Thanks tigerjen. A few ideas will get us on the
right track. Last night we took things a little slower
than usual, and that seemed to help.

you're welcome!

sometimes its best to take things slower at times......i
hope that things work out!


tigerjen

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Theres so many different things u can try, you can try having sex in front of a webcam if you both feel comfortable, I know when we first did it my wife wasn't that comfortable having sex right away and started with giving me a blowjob on cam, then she got excited from everyone making comments about her and cheering her on she decided to sit on my cock and have sex with me in front of the cam, that was one of the best sexual experiences I ever had. Another idea is anal sex, with that you should start slowly especially if your both new to it, by using lots of lube and starting with a few fingers first to get used to it, and if your comfortable with it you may want her to insert some fingers in your ass as well, Im a male and love anal play alot. Once she gets comfortable with getting her ass penetrated you can start fucking her with a small vibrator, then when shes ready, you can try inserting your cock. Make sure to use lots of lube and if you want, you can lick her ass yourself to get it ready for your cock, thats what I do. I don't like using lube for anal sex so I just lick her ass until its ready, I love to do that you can also use blindfolds, handcuffs, whips, you can have her dress up like a slut with a short skirt and pantyhose with high heels for some roleplay, theres a whole world of sexual adventure out there, it would take me 10000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 pages to explain it all, and I'd still be leaving out info!!!!