Speech Restrictions

[Honeysucklevine]

Re: Regarding silence

I think you made an excellent point here that silence can be liberating. However, I feel it can also be as much of a crutch (for some) as speech.

I know I am personally more comfortable allowing my Dom to speak for us, and make decisions (of some types...I am after all a ball-busting career girl from 9-5:00). I have difficulty answering the easiest questions, such as "What do you want to do tonight", or "Where do you want to go to dinner". I'll sit there and try to figure out what he wants to do, and then say that. Worse, I often get caught.

Do you think that in a case like this the Sub should get what they want (the restriction) or be forced to try to speak openly and honestly.

Curious

B [/QUOT


Yea, about the "dinner" thing. We ALL do that! I think it all boils down to the fact that, we as women, well....., I am going to get in trouble for this, but, we actually enjoy letting someone make those little decisions for us! Now, hold on, let me explain. Since many of us are little Napoleons, telling people what to do all day, it's nice to revert back to the way it use to be. I'm talking the 1950's. I'm talking crazy.

I just think our brains are made for nurturing, nesting and multi-tasking. Then the women in the 1970's and 80's worked hard for that top rung on the corporate ladder. Now, where does this speech restriction thing come in? It's just a pumped up version of the "sit down, shut up and look pretty" that our fathers set forth on our little brains!

Soooooooo, yes, even though I am not into all of the heavy sub-dom speech restriction stuff, it is kind of a relief and serves as a nice release also.

For what it's worth, wouldn't it be quite a turn-on for your dominant partner to actually hear that you have an opinion? I think it would. If your partner truly wants to know your opinion, then why not indulge him (or her)? It lets them see who you really are. Of course, if you are just picking a restaurant, I'd keep that darn vow of silence! Not worth breaking, ya know.

 

[Guest]

A speech restriction is often like a line of sight restriction (I.E. Don't look me in the eye's). Both tend to engender strong feelings from people. The whole "I would never tolerate...etc etc etc...
Which I don't mind at all..(in person at least) It's a quick way to weed out the people that I would not be able to deal with on a regular basis.
Both have more than one purpose.
Often they are a reminder of relative "place" in the relationship.